Especially if the reason is that you have fallen in love with someone else. No cheating is going on. This is not sneaking around to see what you can get "on the side". Which is worse, pretending to still feel the same towards your spouse when you really know it's over, or being honest about how you feel, and asking for a divorce? Keep in mind, I am not talking about having an affair, and then leaving. I AM talking about wanting to have an affair, and realizing this means you shouldn't be married anymore. What matters more--being honest, or staying married?
2006-07-27 06:25:03 · 9 answers · asked by homebuyer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This world would be a much better place if more people took their vows as serious as you. I applaud you for not cheating. If you have the ability to fall in love with another man then i would say your marriage is beyond repair and as tough as it may be a divorce sounds like the right choice. And you get to keep your self respect by knowing you didnt take the easy way out and just cheat!
Good Luck to you
2006-07-27 06:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends. Is there kids out of this marriage? Do you still love your husband on some level? Start with being honest with yourself. Ask your yourself Do I really love this other person? Do I still love your husband on a curtain level? You should also be honest with your husband, tell him how you feel. Only you and husband can decided if you should stay married. You don't want to have an affair that will make matters worst.
2006-07-27 06:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rain040792 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is first understand the feeling of your spouse, ask him whether he still loves you and then tell your feelings towards him and your love with somebody, also tell him why you are not loving him anymore and how you happened to be in love with somebody... then if your spouse is ready to correct his part, if he has done any wrong, it is better always to continue the relationship than give it away... because you know it well than the new one which you dont know ... Divorce is always a last word in marriage, so think well and see what prompts you to look for another man? find the reason and correct it.... it is easy to throw away something we build in long years than building a new one...
2006-07-27 06:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jaffs G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your marraige vows say, "til death do us part?" or "til im not feeling it anymore?" Marraige takes work. You are looking for an excuse to divorce him b/c you have found something else that you want.You can fall back in love with each other if you work at it, but not while your out fantasizing about somebody else.But lets be honest, you have already made up your mind to leave him. You are just looking for the moral license to do what you want.
2006-07-27 08:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi, i just read your question, and the funny thing is that i am in the same situation.....and looking at it from the outside, ill tell you .... tell him what you feel, i think that been in the other side of the problem would be really bad, to love someone that doesn't love you? that's not right, don't you think???
2006-07-27 06:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
welll since this sound like there's no more spark between you and your spouse the best thing to do is to confront him and let him know that there's no more love and the best thing to do is to get a divorce.
2006-07-27 06:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♥LADY INDIA♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being honest, get a divorce already.
2006-07-27 06:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce a good choice
2006-07-27 06:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by kzzxguy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being honest with yourself : )
2006-07-27 06:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by shastagurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋