okay so one of my really good friends and i hooked up before i went away for a week. he seemed really happy and into the whole relationship. when i came back things were fine but then all of a sudden he starts avoiding me. so i talked to him about it and he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship right now. and to be honest, niether am i. even though i liked him ALOT i still want to be friends with him, like the way we were before anything happened. i think he still feels kinda wierd about it though. how can i get things to go back to the way they were?
2006-07-27 06:23:47 · 6 answers · asked by fadetopink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't. It is like trying to get your virginity back after you have had sex - not possible. Your friendship is changed forever but that doesn't mean that it can't be repaired and evolve into something even better than it once was.
Quit trying to go back in time and try moving forward instead. Talk to your friend and let him know that you still value his friendship and you don't want to lose it.
2006-07-27 06:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by MJL613 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to tell u but it's almost impossible to have a good, close "friend" relationship w/ opposite sex.. look what happened, u guys DID like eachother a lot!!! usually one or the other develops a crush, and may not act on it but it's still there inside. if i were u, i would take some time off from him, make some more friends and just be a little carefree/relaxed, don't worry about him right now. then when u guys are more used to ur daily lives w/o eachother, u can look and see if the feelings are still there, or if ur ready for a relationship. don't feel bad that u guys are taking a breather, just know that u had feelings for him and the more u force it the more awkward it will get..... take time to build urself up in self confidence, in appearance, in school, and u will feel that u are ready for a real relationship w/ someone. it may be him, it may be someone else, but at least then u'll be ready to conquer anything. same for him, he knew he wasn't ready, that's much better than trying something and getting in over his head. so take care, and try to keep it "cool" w/ him, but just don't try to hang out w/ him too much. if he calls u, don't get too close. only when ur ready.
2006-07-27 13:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me with one of my friends. I had a huge crush on him while I wa in high school and all our mutual friends knew. We hooked up for about a week or two and then he started for Ramadhan, the Muslim month of fasting and then it kinda didn't go anywhere. But we also valued our friendship and to this day, 10 yrs later we are still great friends and we fondly remember that two weeks!!
He is now married and I am pregnant with my first baby. We still keep in touch and it's because we knew that we were better as friends rather than more. Had we tried to press for more we may have lost both relationship and friendship.
2006-07-27 13:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him! he can't read your mind! tell him that you want to still be friends. If he still feels weird just give him some time to get over it.
And just remember...there are more fish in the sea. Some are catch and realese...others are hooked for a while...and some are hooked for life!
good luck! =)
2006-07-27 13:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by grlwiththegreeneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hook up with people you want to be friends with it never works EVER
2006-07-27 13:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just act normal - like you would before the relationship - make him comfortable around you - if you act like his g/f then he will avoid you
2006-07-27 13:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by chameli/bebo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋