I'm getting divorced and have three boys, I'm pretty, 36 years old. Everyone tells me my life isn't over and there are guys out there that would go out with me even though I have my boys. Is that true? Or are they going to run the other way as soon as they find out I'm a Mom.
2006-07-27 06:20:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'll be ok. Just fish in the right pond.
2006-07-27 06:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by Handsup 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, maybe THIS will help. I'm a SWM 40, never married, no kids. Good job, mentally and financially secure. 'Bad boy' image (because of general attitude and Harley) but really just an all-around good guy. Great in the kitchen and better in the bedroom.
My g/f (who I met here on answers) is 33 w/3 boys. She thought the EXACT same thing. Who'd want her? - ME !!!!!! Her soon-to-be-ex is the definition of a world-class A$$HOLE !!!! She (on the other hand) is AMAZING. We both come from having shitty pasts and realize what we have found in each other.
SO......in answer to your question, YEAH ! there are still some of us good guys left out there. The right one will come along.
(ps- we had BOTH given up ever finding what it was we wanted/needed...) So don't give up. Everything happens for a reason.
I CAN tell you that it's going to take the RIGHT guy and the RIGHT circumstance and you're going to have to show him what YOU can offer HIM ( not talking just sex )
Good luck !
2006-07-27 13:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by ben d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be realistic, there are some guys that would go out but there are more guys that would like to go out if there is no kids commitments. Some guys would like to be free to travel, do more things with the newly met girls than start a whole family in a very short notice.
Hopefully you end up meeting with the right person for you and the kids
2006-07-27 13:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by hotdesersand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life isn't over. And yes there are guys out there. Myself included. But some advice. Get back in touch with yourself. Stop being hard on yourself. Breathe a little. You don't have time for games and you know what your priorities are. After your children, you ARE NUMBER 1 and hopefully there is a GOD in your life. It's okay to be afraid and apprehensive but believe me, you will make it through. Because that is what you want. Peace.
2006-07-27 13:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by No shame, No game 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of guys interested in more mature women, especially if divorced and good looking. But be careful, avoid youngster who will just want to bed you. Go for older more mature guys, better if also divorced and with kids themselves.
2006-07-27 13:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sasha,
Life is a game!
And its not over until you quit.
Remember your 3 boys are part of you.
Consider for a while, that you are a spinster and someone comes and tells you, that he loves you but he wants you to cut your legs because they are FAT.
how would u react??
So, basically if someone comes and tells you. I love you but i don't love your boys. its bad.
Am sure there are millions of guys on the face of this earth who will ready to take you As YOU ARE.
Just keep your heart open.
Cheers,
Gyaan Guru
2006-07-27 13:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Gyaan Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry about the D" thing. do not despair if any should look the other way and run then they are not what your looking for. focus on your boys for it is there that you will find unconditional love, and once you see exactly what that looks, and feels like then you will truly know what it is that your looking for and never settle for anything less than happiness.
2006-07-27 13:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Givingitthought 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO BACK TO SCHOOL. GUYS ARE GUYS!! SOME WANT TO GET LAID AND OTHERS WANT A FAMILY. ALTHOUGH YOU MAY HAVE TO KISS A LOT OF FROGS IT DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD DO ANYTHING ELSE BUT KISS. AND IN TODAYS MEAT MARKET GET THEM TO TAKE A STD AND AIDS TEST BEFORE YOU PUT YOUR MOUTH WHERE YOU MAY WISH TO. ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU HAVE KIDS. BETTER TO BE A GOOD MOM THEN A GIRLFRIEND OR WIFE. RUN A CHECK ON THE MEN YOU WANT TO DATE. YES I AM A GUY SO BETTER LISTEN!!
2006-07-27 13:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by us veteran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right guy will accept you for your past and your children.
plus would you really want a guy who doesnt like kids?
i love kids even though i dont have any and if i dated a pretty lady who had children i would be more than happy to be with her and be with her boys.
dont worry the right guy is out there
2006-07-27 13:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by iWorkonComputers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some will, but you don't really want them anyway. The kids should come first. 36 is a great age and if you're good looking, you'll be fine.
Good luck.
2006-07-27 13:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not true....I'm 43, and when I got divorced, my kids were young, like 3 & 5, and I had custody of them.
If they run the other way, they're not worth trouble
2006-07-27 13:22:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋