I'm a guy and I have a small circle of really close friends, all of whom I've known for years. I know friends won't be perfect. The thing is these long time friends of mine are drains on my confidence, but they seem to be my best access to a social life. They're helpful and fun sometimes, but other times they don't seem to respect me and will try to bring me down for their entertainment and confidence. Other circles of friends I have don't socialize outside of their small group. Do I need to accept the tradoffs along with the benefits?
2006-07-27 06:00:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I choose my friends carefuly. Anyone that demeans me or critisizes me to the point of lowering my confidence is someone I avoid. I'll bash 'em back, but I don't hang with them. That's not to say all critisizm or all fun teasing is unwanted, you want friends to be honest and fun. I just draw the line on people who feel like picking on me. Not many do, but that's because I control that part of my life. I never understood why people would want to hang with others who constantly put them down.
2006-07-27 06:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. my boyfriend hangs around a small group a friends and they build up his ego wayyyyyyyyyyy to much because he's the most successful, has no kids, is good looking, and comes from a good family. this backfires because at times i have to "check" him and bring him back to reality about his ego and vainness. you should be around people who lift you up, but not on a pedestal. do you really need your friends? what do they do for you? have confidence in yourself before you look to your friends for support. answer your questions, then you will know.
2006-07-27 06:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont hang with mean populars!trust me if u stop now then u will save urself l8er!this happened 2 me and after a while they just hurt u more badly and ur friends so its best 2 stay close 2 friends who like u best 4 who u r! and if ur nice ppl will look 2 u 4 being nice!
2006-07-27 06:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by gabberswhiffendor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being alone gives you the opportunity to go out and meet a whole new world of people. Why be stuck with people who are dragging you down?
2006-07-27 06:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jerk friends,at the same time start looking for good ones
2006-07-27 06:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump your "so called" friends and see about getting some more...
2006-07-27 06:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r too emotional
2006-07-27 06:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by kzzxguy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋