What ever happened to true love, the kind you read about in trashy novels, that is portrayed in movies of old (pre 2004) & from what matured women regail about their lasting relatlionships with their own male best friends.
Is it that people are just getting lazy, that cultivating & nurturing a lasting relationship isn't as important any more. Is it preferable to have immediate gratification & cheap thrills, regardless of conscience and consequences.
Perhaps its just that there are people who just don't really care about the little things that matter.
2006-07-27 05:53:49 · 9 answers · asked by somber_pieces 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......
(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.
2006-07-27 12:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Carnal Gratification
2017-01-12 15:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never existed in real life. There's a reason why you are having to point to novels and books...it's fiction. I'm not saying there aren't loving relationships anymore, but the stuff of romance novels is just wishful thinking.
Social norms saying divorce was wrong was probably the only thing keeping a lot of pre-60's marriages together. Now that people have permission to move on, they do. People grow and change throughout their lives - and often, not in the same direction. If allowed, humans tend towards serial mongamy (one monogamous relationship after another) far more than they do mate-for-life.
And even monogamy in that serial monogamy is debateable. What we hold up as a social ideal isn't necessarily what humans find attainable in practice.
2006-07-27 05:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are lot's of people out there that have "true love"- a love that includes a union of the minds- a deep and lasting friedship, complete security and comfort in the company of another. The sexual aspects of a relationship are important too- they just get more hype in the media. Young people also tend to look only for a good time, and enter into purely physical relationships. these usually don't last. Anyone who sticks it out must have more going between them than what goes on between the sheets.
2006-07-27 06:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world. what you see on TV and novel book are fictions.
a high percent of people lie about problems that they are having in marriage and love relationship. Everybody want to claim that they are in a wonder relationship.
Why do you think prostitute is the world first and oldest profession? Golddidders are part of relationships.
2006-07-27 06:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing happened to true love. something has happened to us, and...true love will find you one day if you let it. materialistic pleasures and carnal gratifications have nothing to do with love. that's about lust cravings and...domination. true love is natural, comfortable and unconditional. it's what you feel for your child or your mother feels for you. It's, it's wonderful and it enriches your life in so many ways. I guess what's really important with finding true love is trusting that it will find you and never doubt it. Take the risk and...jump right in and let it engulf you!
2006-07-27 06:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by black sheep dyed blonde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is putting someone else ahead of self.
Where in our culture do we see that modeled?
Is it any wonder that cheap thrills win out over the real thing?
2006-07-27 05:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by poohba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love? please, most women don't know the first thing.
"chivalry is dead... and women killed it!"
-dave chappelle
2006-07-27 05:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
READ IT CAREFULLY THEN YOU WILL SURELY KNOW WHAT IT IS ....
Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self-love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.
The concept of love, however, is subject to debate. Some deny the existence of love, calling it a recently invented abstraction. Others maintain that love exists but is indefinable; being a quantity which is spiritual, metaphysical, or philosophical in nature. The views that love does not exist or is indefinable may underlie the fact that approximately 13 percent of cultures have no word for love. [1] [2] The remaining 87 percent attempt to define this abstract concept and apply it to everyday life. Love is one of the most common themes in art and often times is an excuse for " bad art". Some psychologists maintain that love is the abstract action of lending one's "boundary" or "self esteem" to another
Overview
Love has several different meanings in the English language, from something that gives a little pleasure to something for which one would die. And in contrast to the definition at the top, frequently people use the verb "love" to indicate want or desire for themselves as opposed to for another. For example: "I love that lamp," does not refer to desiring wellness for the lamp, but rather to the desire for the lamp. The word also frequently indicates elevated appreciation or admiration: "I love that artist," An individual might state.
Cultural differences make any universal definition of love difficult to establish. Expressions of love may include the love for a soul or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, and love for the respect of others. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. Love is essentially an abstract concept, easier to experience than to explain. Many believe, as stated originally by Virgil that "Love conquers all", or as stated by The Beatles, "All you need is love". Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of 'absolute value', as opposed to 'relative value'.
Types
Courtly love – a late medieval conventionalized code prescribing certain conduct and emotions for ladies and their lovers
Erotic love – desire characterized by sexual desires
Familial love – affection brokered through kinship connections, intertwined with concepts of attachment and bonding
Free love – sexual relations according to choice and unrestricted by marriage
Platonic love – a close relationship in which sexual desire is nonexistent or has been suppressed or sublimated
Puppy love – romantic affection that is not "mature" or not "true." The term reflects a bias that love between youngsters is somehow less valid.
Religious love – devotion to one's deity or theology
Romantic love – affection characterized by a mix of emotional and sexual desire
True love - love without condition, motive or attachment. Loving someone just because they are themselves, not their actions or beliefs in particular.
Unrequited love – affection and desire not reciprocated or returned
Scientific views
Throughout history, predominantly, philosophy and religion have speculated the most into the phenomenon of love. In the last century, the science of psychology has written a great deal on the subject. Recently, however, the sciences of evolutionary psychology, evolutionary biology, anthropology, neuroscience, and biology have begun to take centre stage in discussion as to the nature and function of love.
Biological models of sex tend to see it as a mammalian drive, just like hunger or thirst. Psychology sees love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. Psychologist Robert Sternberg created his Triangular theory of love and argued that love has three different components : Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Intimacy is a form where two people can share secrets and various details of their personal lives. Intimacy is usually shown in friendships and romantic love affairs. Commitment on the other hand is the expectation that the relationship is going to last forever. The last and most common form of love is simply sex, or passion. Passionate love is shown in infatuation as well as romantic love. This led researchers such as Yela to further refine the model by seperating Passion into two independents components : Erotic Passion and Romantic Passion.
Cultural views
Although there exist numerous cross-cultural unified similarities as to the nature and definition of love, as in there being a thread of commitment, tenderness, and passion common to all human existence, there are differences. For example, in India, with arranged marriages commonplace, it is believed that love is not a necessary ingredient in the initial stages of marriage – it is something that can be created during the marriage; whereas in Western culture, by comparison, love is seen as a necessary prerequisite to marriage.
Religious views
Love, in the form of subjective devotion, seems to have been originally understood as the proper response to idealised objective natural forces (pagan polytheism). Later religions shifted the emphasis towards single abstractly-oriented objects like God, the law, the book, and the church (formalised monotheism).
Alongiside these two objects of subjective human love (mono and poly), there a third view which recognises a state or truth distinct from (and often antagonistic to) the idea that there is a difference between the subject and the object (pantheism). Love is reality itself, of which we, moving through time, imperfectly interprete ourselves as isolated part.
Definitional issues
Dictionaries tend to define love as deep affection or fondness.[3] In colloquial use, according to polled opinion, the most favoured definitions of love include the words:[4]
life - someone or something for which you would give your life.
care - someone or something about which you care more than yourself.
In common use, care refers to a mental or emotional state of predisposition in which one has an interest or concern for someone or something. To care for someone, may also refer to a disquieted state of mixed uncertainty, apprehension, and responsibility; or a cause for such anxiety. Caring for an object, such as a house, refers to a state of attendant maintenance; or may also refer to a state of charge or supervision, as in under a doctor’s care.
friendship - favoured interpersonal associations or relationships.
union
family - people related via common ancestry.
bond.
2006-07-27 21:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by vishal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋