Tell me what you did to rebuild a new you after your divorce. Men or women please.?

Question

I would like to know the different things people have done to rebuild their lives after divorce. You can't have what was your life back, so what exactly did you do to construct a new one, and hopefully better or as good as one as before?

Answer 1

1. learned from my mistakes and his
2. got some counseling
3. educated myself
4. surounded myself with supportive people
5. married a great guy
6. had some great kids
7. got on with my life even when I wanted to lay in bed and whine

not necesarily in that order...

Answer 2

I'm at the beginning of this process of rebuilding, but I can tell you what I've done so far....

I quit college, with only one and a half semesters to go until I got my bachelors, because my then-fiance, now ex-husband, wanted me to. I've now re-enrolled in college and, even though it will take me another two years to get my degree, I am commited to getting it, so I can get out of the minimum wage slump that I am currently in and get the life that I want.

Basically, find your focus in life, and where you want to be, and use this once in a lifetime opportunity to get it. Good luck.

Answer 3

For me after I succumbed to my former wife's wishes to divorce,I was really devastated,life must go on,I realized self pity wasn't for me,so I tucked my head in and BARRELLED on,I didn't look for a replacement(per say) she found me,I kept busy worked ,exercised( was the best REMEDY) find a past time you enjoy.and when you do meet the NEW person,I LEARNED from my prior marriage ,don't repeat any of the mistakes I/we did,
I meet my current wife thru my exercising and have been HAPPY ever since,I would say the best thing for you is to
"NOT stay at home,GET OUT of the house,there's a WHOLE WORLD out there for you" waiting for YOU !!

Answer 4

Toss out all of the little "momentos" Keep the functional stuff (you wouldn't want to toss out a perfectly good car). Above all, don't wallow and get on with your life. I've done it (divorced that is) twice now and believe me, living well is the best revenge. IT'LL DRIVE THEM NUTS IF YOU DON'T CALL EVERYDAY. They'll wonder what they are doing wrong. (it works)

Answer 5

I think everyone is different n depending on the reason for the divorce play a key role in bouncing back.......Everyone need some amount of time....Im thinking it your confidence thats takes the blow when a relationship goes bad or divorce.rebuilding is not easy and i believe it a day at a time sorta thing .but b yourself ,,,,,,,,, do for yourself.......... when one is happy with ones self then u have the ability to be happy with someone else..............

Answer 6

1. I bought a house.
2. I got a new job.
3. I went back to school.
4. I started making new friends not associated with my marriage.
5. I went to a counselor for help to get over it.

Answer 7

Good advice so far. I worked hard at trying to figure out what poor decisions on my part led me into the mess. Did a heck of a lot better but it took a long time.

Answer 8

Get an education, and a greater earning possibility. Go out with the girls, and have fun flirting. Workout, take up a martial art so you can find stregnth and confidence. Do alot of soul searching. Figure out who you are and what you need out of life.

Answer 9

i cannot advise but i can say that after my divorce i needed to prove my sexual prowess which in hind sight may not have been the best thing to do. i got therapy ,i changed my life to be honest with myself and my close friends, got a hobby and let time heal the hurt.
different strokes for different folks.

Answer 10

I'm with you, just starting and not sure what I'll do. It's so scary, like jumping inot a big black hole head first. I have three kids and I guess we'll just have to make our own life. People keep saying life isn't over but it sure feels like it.