We get back together and she loves me 9 months straight now. When I talk to my GF about us and a marraige relationship, while she's pms-ing, she says its just because she feels sorry for me. She will not budge on her feelings. While she's going through that period, She wants to love me as a friend. This happens every month at the same time,,, week before her period. When she's not in that period, she's making plans on marraige and selling homes and being one, and how much better I am then most men she knows. She loves me so much. Can it be that drastic of a mood change>?
2006-07-27 05:42:07 · 11 answers · asked by Terry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give her chocolate truffles that will always help
2006-07-27 05:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by darrenfanelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor b*stard.
Ok, some help is at hand. IF she's the kind of girl who is aware that she has an issue with PMS, and IF you're the kind of guy who can talk to her about it, then you might want to get her to try a couple of things. Firstly, there's Evening Primrose oil which she can take as either a capsule or you can even buy it in a moisturiser so she doesn't have to remember to swallow a tablet. Secondly, there's a herbal remedy called Agnus Castus which you can buy in your health food shop. This should also help with the other physical problems she probably has at this time of the month too.
2006-07-27 07:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Curly Locks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you... But...i must admit.... i am like that with my partner when that time of the month comes around. Its not something that we do on purpose, or to hurt you, its just the way our hormones are. The rest of the month i am a pleasant, bubbly, chatty woman, who just turns into a dr jekyl from a mr hyde for 10 days out of a month, my partner deals with this amazingly well, and he must have loved me immensly because we were married only 2 wks ago. We never spoke of the wedding or preparations during my bad days, he would clean house, make dinner, run my bath (so i could relax and in his words 'not get stressed out'), but most of all he was patient.I would i tell him i hated him, the wedding was off,i didn't love him no more, i wanted him to leave, all he did was look at me, listen, and not say a thing, he would sit on the sofa and just let me whinge and moan, even though it hurt him he knew i never meant any off it. I now take suppliments of evening primrose oil, and things aren't as bad as they were. As for your gf, the only thing i can say is, she is having as bad a time of it as you are, she hurts too when she says those things to you, but its complicated being a woman,( my husband says he would hate to swap bodies with the female kind) imagine yourself in her shoes, body cramps, heavy feeling in the legs and bum, hot flushes, tiredness, the list goes on.
Give her patience, listen to her ranting and raving(even though it may hurt), let her have a shoulder to cry on, but most of all, show her lots of love and give her lots of cuddles, its not a permenant lasting thing, and it only comes once every month,
And if you have nerves of steel, just before that time of the month, leave a bottle of evening primrose oil (capsule form) on the coffee table,.
Good luck.
2006-07-28 13:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by claggy a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor man. I'm like this with my partner. It took me yers before I could admit that for a couple of days before my period I just don't love him. Now he just accepts that I don't and that's it. He has made me promise not to make any decisions about the future those days and out of respect (if not love) I manage to keep that promise. He's also very good at saying 'I know you don't love me but I love you' which helps me stay level headed.
I don't know that this is advice but I hope it helps to know its not just you!
2006-07-27 23:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry bud! women are like that... everything all depends on this woman... every womans pms is different.... but dont think that we love the mood swings either... cause we hate them just as much as you guys do... but hang in there... and maybe mark it on your calander saying when she is going through those moods so then you wont upset her as much...
2006-07-27 05:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess for some women if can be...but dont let her take advantage of it....i do on occasion AND ITS WRONG...i dont treat my husband like that though...i just get cranky and emotional.....and women know what they're doing...and she remembers eeeeeverything she's said to you.......tell her how oyu feel.....ask her when its not that time of the month how she feels and tell her then whats going on ...dont wait until its too late to talk with her a bout it.
2006-07-27 05:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hide in the corner & dont make eye contact! LOL No but seriously...
2006-07-27 06:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ben and jerrys and lots of hugs/space depending on her needs
2006-07-30 02:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there. it will be ok... just what ever you do dont tell her or say anything about ru pmsing. that will piss her off.
2006-07-27 05:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by ::Hannah:: 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be ok. We all do that but she for some reason tells you that she is unsure.
2006-07-27 06:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋