What should I do? I truly love my husband. He's smart, caring and great w/ our daughter. But lately I'm not enjoying sex as much as I used to. We're not so romantic anymore. We have tons of fun otherwise, when we go out. I'm a bit confused now. Any suggestions
2006-07-27 05:39:55 · 26 answers · asked by kiddingasusual 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why is it always about the sex?
2006-07-27 05:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mike A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one! Shall we analyze this?
You love him... but you're willing to leave him because the sex isn't all that great?
To me that makes no sense!
Stop lying to yourself. What's the real problem?
So what you're not that romantic anymore? Romance cuts down sometimes when children come into the picture...
Please don't be offended. For real, I can't make sense of that. There is no reason to leave someone because the sex is so-so...
A matter of fact, that's one of the most selfish things I've heard.. Especially considering you have a daughter...
.....Which needs to be close to both parents right now. Don't make this harder for your daughter when she needs you the most...
Stop being so selfish. Perhaps your husband is a bit stressed out? Maybe something's going on? Maybe he's just a lil impotent?
It happens ya know?
Sit down and talk to him. That's the only way your going to find out.
Possibly visit a bookstore and find something on sex. How to make it more interesting? How to change things up a bit...
Maybe it's not your husband at all.. maybe it's you? What exactly is it that you're not enjoying?
Sorry, please don't take it the wrong way. I just don't like when people start blaming others when they may have not come up with a resourceful explanation...
Good luck though.. and best of wishes...
--Rob
2006-07-27 05:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by stealth_n700ms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi babe
you should take charge of your sex life! winks
I suggest you buy some erotic stuff to do together. After a while, you need to spice things up.
Dress sexy for him to tease him and watch him melt before you.
Or pick up lessons together to spice things up!
Tease him, give him a call during the day while he's at work and tell him to be on time for the night appointment with you!
Try to spice things up...a little goes a long way!
Little things....or learn new tricks!
Read more Cosmopolitan!
Cheers! Have fun exploring and reinventing!
So just Relax and take it from there. If all fails, see a doctor or counsellor.
Please also communicate with each other!
It is the main thing to do! Talk things through and be there for one another.
You know you love each other so much!
wishing you bliss!
2006-07-27 05:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for women after having children. Plan time for just the 2 of you. Buy something herbal for your libido, try sex toys. Marriage is long term team work, not just a hot fling. Talk to a couple that has been married over 50 years. Sex is a very small part of marriage. Love, friendship and trust are much more important.
2006-07-27 05:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by ladytc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a Lil break i mean go some where like to your mom's or to some other relatives or friends place may be for 1 wk or more.
may be lil distance might bring u more excitement.
when you live together 24 hrs day by day u start loosing your interest that's normal give some time and some distance to each other to miss each others presence, then see what happens when u will get back together? let me know also, good luck.
2006-07-27 05:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate your feelings with your husband.
Sex between a husband and wife is not always going to be romantic. (Lifetime movies have painted a false picture)
The older we get, when kids are involved, when we work outside of the home, and deal with daily living, sometimes, you wear yourself out just thinking about adding sex to the list.
Talk to your husband. Tell him how you feel. Be honest and be patient.
2006-07-27 05:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read my question that's similar to yours in a way located in my yanswers history . You both might need to talk or find a way to reduce everyday stress or take a romantic weekend off together alone without anticipating anything. The whole point is to be alone and have it quiet and talk without the discussion of life's hardships and trials. Just be like it was before. Blissful.
2006-07-27 05:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by djprall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will talk to you as a man, i have almost the same situation now, my wife is very kind and love me so much, but she is usually thinking about other things all the day, she never prepared herself for me and always care about the child , to sum up i am no. 3 or 4 now in her life.
after a while i began to compair her with the other wemen in the street, work ,market, etc. and i felt that she is not the women i married , she is different and not attractive to me
anyhow i tried to talk to her and discuse all these things but she has a lot of responibilities to do and we both trying to get our sex life back
for you, i thing you must talk with him first of all and care for him all the day long and in the main time show him how sexy you are , try to remined him about first date or some nice memories,
do not count on toys becouse after a while it is useless.
2006-07-27 06:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by yusuf2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you should NEVER let your sex like die. Go to a "sex store" with him and pick out all kinds of fun little stuff to do. First of all, talk to him..communication is key. Find out what turns him on, and then tell him what you like. Maybe try costumes so that you can roleplay. Plan a hot date, get a babysitter, and then try having sex somewhere new, like in car or on the beach...make it fun!
Good luck!
2006-07-27 05:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by cece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of couples go thru this, before there were no children it was fresh and new. I would try a couple of the above answers maybe some toys, roll playing just to be different. Go out to a bar and pretend you don't know each other and pick each other up.
2006-07-27 05:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by Bassetlover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something soon, if its only been 3 years and you are having problems already dont wait any longer or you will begin to have worse problems , try some more romance from your part, take the initiative and show him a side of you that maybe he hasnt seen before (wink wink). Good luck!
2006-07-27 05:46:20 · answer #11 · answered by whompin4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋