I have not been able to stop thinking about an ex ever since I met her. I thought it was just another relationship but after 11 years of being without her and seeing other people I have found that I really truely love her. Every definition of love is exactly how I feel about her. A lot of people say "give it time" "see other people" "get a hobby" I've done all that and still find myself thinking of her when I see something we did together or just find myself remembering her at all different times and places. I have not tried to contact her since about a month after she broke it off with me because I don't want to be looked at like some stalker or something. It didn't work out because I took her for granted, one of the worst things you can do. At the time I was still young and didn't realize what I was doing, now I do but I guess it's too late. I just wish sometimes I would not find myself thinking about her. It hurts too much, even after all this time. What would you do?
2006-07-27 05:37:46 · 23 answers · asked by nhrafan26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I THINK I would be okay just finding out how she is and at least being able to say these things to her. No matter how it turns out I think I just need to get it off my chest and accept whatever becomes of it. At the very least I would just hope that I could regain the best freind that I once had. I don't know exactly what her situation is right now so that will be a question later answered. The last thing I did was bring her a dozen long stem roses and tell her I was sorry it had to end up this way. She was very nice and said thank you, then before I broke down in front of her I had to leave. I did contact her once in college but she sent me a reply that too many old feelings were coming up and she couldn't deal with that at the time. I'll probably get the same response or none at all this time.
2006-07-27 06:09:53 · update #1
never beat a dead horse
2006-07-27 05:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fond memories and distance can play tricks and cause you to have an emotional chaos. A person can suddenly seem very ideal with this kind of mix. You might actually be in love with an idealized image of her and not the true person. If you do want to regain contact, you can only hope for the best but prepare for the worst. There's a lot that can happen in 11 years. If you want to be just friends, that would be a lot easier. But you obviously want to declare your undying love for this girl. You may be setting yourself up to be very hurt. She might be already married with kids. She might have someone that she loves. You might end up heartbroken. It would be an ideal situation if she were free and single, then by all means tell her how you feel. But you have to root yourself in reality. If it is indeed too late, then open yourself up to the possibility of loving another, because at this point it seems you are ready to pursue a true relationship. Good luck.
2006-07-27 06:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by sage05@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would have done it- would have been calling her up and to tell her what you truly feel about her and what you have felt after she was no more in your life. Be true to your feelings while expressing her that.
Girls like true and sincere feelings. If you are lucky and made for her, you never know if she still have some soft corner for you. So why not give it a try.
So what you are waiting for. Do you have her number? If yes then call her up to fix some meeting point. (but remember to be a bit friendly and soft in asking all this). And if you dont have her number then try to find out man.
Best of luck
2006-07-27 05:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by ns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMM sounds like you got da Love sick blues. Ok heres how to do it with out stalking. Send her some roses. And with the Roses a hand written letter. Hand written istead of typed on a computer or type writer. hand writtened shows the woman you took the time to sit down and put your feelings into it. In that note tell her how much you miss her (don't get stupid with it either). Tell her that you understand now that you wasn't considerate of her feelings. tell her that with all this time that you have spent apart that you now understand that you didn't treat her like your equal. For example. the girl thats with me now. When we are together I open doors for her. I run bubble baths for her with candles and while she is soaking in the tub I prepare her a meal. Usaly I take her something soft to drink Fuzzy navels or something like that. But make her understand that you Love and respect her. And at the end of your letter put this. I Love and respect you enought that all I want is your happiness. And if you don't want me anymore I love you enough to respect your wishes. And leave it at that. she may not come around at first but give her time. A woman hates to be pushed Good Luck
2006-07-27 05:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually understand your situation. I will say this, sometimes the pain of not knowing if she would have responded kindly to you contacting her would be be worse than knowing either way. I mean if you don't know if she is married or something and find out, it will hurt because then there is no chance, but I would say take the chance, if you really lover her and if she is available tell her how you feel. It might not work, and you might be hurt, but it sounds like your already hurting.
Brian
2006-07-27 05:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Brian D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to assert it, yet i could postpone the marriage and bypass to the chief of your church along with her to talk what's occurred, and perchance get some pre-marital counseling from them in the event that they supply it. in the event that they do no longer, then you quite ought to hunt for it someplace else. She can even have some sexual fantasies that are fulfilled with the aid of those conversations, which ought to be addressed in the previous marriage. I agree that marriage is a life-time element, and if she sees you postpone the marriage and take her to the Church, she'll be responsive to ways severe you're approximately no longer being waiting to stay suspecting her each and all the time. Your believe has been shaken, and you need to heal and believe in the previous you're taking the subsequent step. sturdy success, and God bless.
2016-10-08 09:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her because she might feel the same way. Show her that you changed and you want to give your relationship another chance. Good luck I hope it works out for you.
2006-07-27 05:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...time marches on ..so maybe she has too ...maybe she is in a commited relationship and you will mess her head up if you contact her now...the alternative is ...you have a blueprint in your head of what you are looking for ...so go out and look for someone like that ...I read once that if you know what you are looking for ..and you go out and look for it ..you will find it..so go for it ..you found love once ..now try for a second time
2006-07-27 05:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is call her and ask her if she wants to go out sometime or something and take it from there. start fresh tell her how you feel about her after all these years no matter how she responds you have to accept her response and keep moving.
Justin
2006-07-27 05:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take off the last three sentences and write her a letter saying the rest. Can't hurt.
2006-07-27 05:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by Robb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that has happen 2 me before, but i think that dont leave the person u like 4 someone u love because the person u love will leave u 4 the person the like,
2006-07-27 05:42:15 · answer #11 · answered by Beto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋