Men do you help around the house?cause my?

Question

husband wont take out trash wash a dish ,cook or pick up after his self.He said that is my job.I also work full time and take care of kids.Im sick of this! It's been like this for 6 years.

He is not lazy .He is a hard worker.

Answer 1

Well it is time to sit down n have a heart to heart thats long over do like 6 yrs worth.If the 2 of you can share a life they the 2 of you can share the responsibilities that go with it...........Make a list cut it in half.hand him his half say here ya go wanna talk . Let him know how you feel n you would love for him to share in the load. He help create it ? GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

I absolutely do! I cook, clean, do laundry, and I flat out refuse to let her take out the garbage. It's nasty and stinky.

Now, I don't do all of those exclusively except trash. We take turns. Someone might want to cook something special or a request might be made that the other person cooks better. It depends on who feels like cooking...all the diplomatic stuff.

After 6 years, how are you going to change him? I see that as a major up hill battle.

Is it really fair to leave? I mean you knew this going in. He knew this going in. You'd tell your kids, family, and friends, he wouldn't help me so I left? Hmm. Well, it's not that you need their approval but kids might have a hard time understanding that. On the other end of that...ya might just force him into helping. If he doesn't keep moving.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I hate when people jump to the idea of divorce as a quick solution.
There has to be some way to make him realize that you are working triple overtime with a job, kids and the housework.
I am not married, so I can't really give sound advice in that area, and my bf keeps things fairly nice, at least when I am around!

Answer 4

My husband works full time (55 hours a week). I ask that he take out the trash and help with the laundry (fold the kids clothes or towels). That is all I ask him to do. However, he has always been this way. He was made to help out at home with his mom. I hate to say it, but if it has been going on this long, chances are that it will continue. Did he help out at home with his mom?

Answer 5

I take out trash, cook sometimes, and wash dishes. And I have been married for 5 years.

Answer 6

you made a rod for own back


have your own work to rule, but tell him first, and why

then STICK TO IT


you could always move to your mom's if the first tactic dunner work, he will come round

real men work in the house, I share everything with my wife


probably most effective is not wash and iron his clothes, say you did not get time bcoz of all other jobs to be done


If you work full time, you are self sufficent and don't need him

Answer 7

my man does some of this. he takes out the trash on a regular basis at least. he washes dishes not often, but sometimes, and he definitely picks up after hisself, otherwise I'd kick him to the curb, I'm not his mother!!

Answer 8

I feel for you I was married to a woman just like that for 12 years and I just couldn't take it any more. Tell him to get with the program of git the he** out

Answer 9

I always help around the house. i try to do most of the work. because my wife has done alot. you know taking care of the kids working. i think she deserves a break one in a while so i always try to do atleast 60% of the work. tell your husband to do the same it is very wrong.

Answer 10

Mine does, Im sorry for you.

You should write up a bill and give it to him.
Put (whatever your name is) Maid Service on it. then when he ask you about it, and wont pay it, tell him you quit. Or, hire a maid and see if that wakes his lazy butt up.

I would bet his mother waited on him hand and foot! Ladies, dont do this to your sons!!!!!! Help them learn how to help out!