He wanted this. He says that he doesn't love me but doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't want to lose my friendship. I have told him that wasn't going to work. I am still in love him and he know this. I have tried to work things out. There is no other woman. I would know my now. All he does when he isn't working is stay on the computer and sign on to dating sites and looks at porn. I know I should just go ahead and file for a divorce but I fill like I am giving up on my marriage. Can any man out their explain to me why he wouldn't go ahead and get a divorce. Believe me their is no benefit for him. He would rather look at porn then work on our marriage.
Thanks
2006-07-27 05:32:00 · 13 answers · asked by grits_fla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hes got another woman, dump him
2006-07-27 05:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's had more than enough time to figure out whether he wants your marriage to work or not. I would suggest marriage counselling to see if there's anything salvagable and if he won't agree then you need to move on with your life and file for the divorce. It's very difficult to remain friends after a divorce.
2006-07-27 12:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. He probably already has another girl. It's kind of like when a married guy has an affair and strings the girl along by saying he is going to divorce his wife and marry her and then never does.
2006-07-27 12:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You desire to understand his motives is understandable. Having said that, how much farther ahead of where you are now will you be if and when you get the answer? Are you, consciously or unconsciously, thinking that if you knew WHY he does what he does, you could change so he wouldn't do what he does? Very unlikely. My advice (which is worth exactly what you pay for it)? I'd offer to go to counseling with him. Give him a month to say "yea" or "nay", and then do what you need to do.
2006-07-27 12:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want the expense of a divorce. Do you guys have kids? He doesn't want to pay child support. He doesn't want to pay alimony, either. He is being totally selfish and you are letting him. Don't leave it up to him to file, you do it. You deserve a husband who loves and cherishes you, not a "friend". Could be he doesn't want you to move on and be with someone else. Again, very selfish of him.
2006-07-27 12:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is keeping you on the side. He wants the separation so he can do what ever he wants without it being considered cheating on you. He doesn't want the divorce because he doesn’t want you to move on. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. You should serve him with divorce papers ASAP.
2006-07-27 12:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you, but if he isn't willing to work on saving the marriage...time to move on. You can be friends without being married. There is something he is not telling you and if he is unwilling to go to marriage counseling, time to seek out a lawyer.
2006-07-27 12:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by vato_loco_in_Texas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt love you, like he says, he doesn't deserve to be married to you. you cant make soemone love you! file for divorce and move on. i went through a divorce at 20, you can do it. it is not easy, but you recover and move on. go out for goodness sake. have fun!!
2006-07-27 12:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are kids involved then he doesn't want the judge to hit him with child support. Divorce him and get it over with.
2006-07-27 12:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hooked on porn. If he isn't willing to change. File. You will both be happier to not have that commitment.
2006-07-27 13:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with greeneyes75. he wants his cake and eat it too. he will only do to you what you allow him to do. get yourself together and go for the divorce. you can still be friends and divorced.
2006-07-27 13:13:11 · answer #11 · answered by t_perez1199 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋