If you knew a couple that were married and you knew that one was gay or at least bi-sexual and the other had no clue would or should you tell?
2006-07-27 05:25:38 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a heck of a secret, but it's not yours to give away. For all you know, the other partner may indeed know of the tendencies and either denies that or subconsiously puts on blinders. Unless the other partner is really going wild and cheating just about every day, or causing severe damage to the relationship, I would leave that problem alone. The bomb you would drop by giving away that secret could break any happiness those two know together.
2006-07-27 05:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
You may think the other has no clue but maybe they both know and have worked it out in their own way and have dealt with it. If you bring it up you may embarrass the couple because they may feel like what they do is taboo which is why they choose to keep it a secret. Stay out of it.
2006-07-27 05:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by BeachBABE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if is someone real close like a sister or a really close best friend well yes i would.because from people this close to you it should not be any secrets it might hurt their fellings if they knew that you were aware of something like this and did not tell them.now if is some neighbors that you have nothing to do with then is their business.the person might not believe you because there is no tight relationship,so i guess my answer is upon how good you know this people?and how close you are to the person you might tell this to understand?? this is very important. good luck.
2006-07-27 05:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course, because you said that you "knew" the couple..that means you are friends enough to know their private lives, especially their sexual orientation. So, if you are friends enough to know that about them, yes, you should say something to the straight person about the other's sexual gayness or bi-sexual practices.
It is a matter of health and sexual disease. And, of course, the issue of not being honest with their mate.
My answer is yes, you should say something. Ask the person who is gay first. Tell him that you are concerned for both of them, Ask him/her to tell their mate about their secret life. If not, tell him/her you are going to say somethig if they don't.
2006-07-27 05:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Bloo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are not ready to let people know that they are gay or bi then its not your place to tell. And you also dont know what goes on behind closed doors. Maybe the other person does know and choses not to see it.
2006-07-27 05:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah especially if the gay one was having extra marital affairs and if ur close to them...
that's why AIDS and other STD's r running rampant in america because everyone is Deceiving their so called loved ones...
Not saying that u should be the one to tell, but somebody should.. I
2006-07-27 05:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the clueless person knows and doesn't know how to deal with it just yet. It may be to embarrassing for them. My advice, let the couple deal with it on their own. You never know what has been shared within their relationship.
You could make things worse by mentioning it.
2006-07-27 05:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU shouldn't. I think that that is something the gay (or bi-sexual) person should tell to their partner.
2006-07-27 05:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Annette G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be best if the person that was gay or bi tell them their self when the time is right .
2006-07-27 05:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Q tha Don 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the gay one is not ready to tell the other one just let them take care of it and find something else to do
2006-07-27 05:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋