Where do you get the inner strength, fortitude or understanding to guard yourself against this kind of abuse?
2006-07-27 05:21:46 · 17 answers · asked by rodneycrater 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just remember that you are rubber and they are glue, and whatever they say bounces off you and sticks to them!
2006-07-27 05:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by John Blix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, report these people who called you with those names to the authority. You dont deserve to be treated with this kind of abuse. Second, keep yourself away from these people. The reason why they call you names because they feel inferior about themselves, often get very defensive and have low self esteem. So you're their substitute in raising their esteems. No matter what, always believe that nobody is born stupid (now im not pleasing you but this is a fact). If they're really smart, please.. they'll come to the senses that nobody's smart enough to call someone stupid or such. This is verbal abuse, you ought to report them. Inner strength comes in getting into a supportive group of people and friends. I was once called stupid by a colleague - i reported him to the administration.
2006-07-27 05:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Springboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the inner strength comes from the knowledge of WHY someone is insistent on bashing you verbally. And that's usually they are the stupid ones if they can't overlook your flaws and see straight thru to all the wonderful traits you have! The understanding to guard yourself is the understanding that the only way to silence them is to show them that you may ignorant to somethings but you are certainly not stupid enough to stay in hearing range of them!! Meaning, cut off all ties!!
Fortitude is your own self worth!! Nobody can make you believe you are what they say you are unless you let them!! If you chose to stay, you are letting them bc eventually, you will start to believe them! And then if you believe them, then you really do become what they accuse you to be.
Self worth, that is the whole key!!
2006-07-27 05:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Dolphinmarine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it's your parents, or spouse that is doing it to you, that is verbal abuse or a teacher. Report them to the next highest athority.
Parents - tell your teacher - or principal
If it's your teacher - tell your parents.
Keep going till someone listens.
If it is a neighbor or friend - then they are stupid.
Keep reminding yourself of that day in and day out.
Make a list of what you CAN do.
Well, it's obvious that you can spell - so that's a good thing
You can use a computer - there's another
Do you cook? Add that
Do you take meds that are perscribed to you? Add that
Do you live alone - pay your own bills?
Do you keep on your homework? Get decent grades?
What books do you read? Books are knowlege.
Do you drive? Add that?
Think - there is a whole list of things you can do!
When ohters tell you how stupid you are - they are showing their OWN insecurites and stupid enough to think you don't know the difference.
2006-07-27 05:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by helpme1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone calls you anything, and you do believe it just because they said it... You are stupid by proxy! No one ever has to bother with the whole process of observation but they do bother with it to weed out the weak which is ignorant, not stupid.
There is nothing wrong with being stupid by the way, it is an innocent but unfortunate circumstance of life. Ignorant is what puts a bee in my bonnet. HUGE DIFFERENCE!
If your stupid and you know it clap your feet... LMAO!
That was very ignorant of me... I m sorry!
Sometimes, you just gotta take an idiot for what they are and ignore everyone either way! Everyone has an agenda and everyone has at one time or another accused someone of being something they are or are not. Running around reporting everyone who offends you is also ignorant AND stupid! It is like highlighting your favorite words in the dictionary... In time, the whole book will be highlighted anyway so just leave it alone and live and let live! Censorship sux!
Opinions are like as*sholes... You know the rest!
2006-07-27 05:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By understanding the full saying of "sticks and stones may break my bones but words shall never hurt me."
With that is the knowledge and understanding that another person can not determine the lack of something in another without reflecting the lack of something in him or her self. Society rewards those of us who talk about others in a negative way and society does not teach us that when we talk negatively about someone else only reflects that judgement onto us. So if I said "She thinks she's cute", I would really mean that I think that person is cute. But instead we grow up talking about others in hopes to make ourselves look big in front of others rather than doing something positive to show true character.
So if someone called me stupid a thousand times and I knew I wasn't, why should I give in to that person who obvious has a problem to judge me when I know that person is less than perfect his or her SELF.
But if I was weak and fall in to the grips of society's way of thinking of get your's before someone else gets it, then yes, I would think that I was stupid. But in the respect of the crab pulling another crab down just to climb higher, after a few times of trying to climb and having another crab pull me down, I'd have to realize that is not the way to get out of the barrel which has no lid on it.
2006-07-27 08:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by rightbackatcha! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step-dad likes to be very verbally abusive towards me and all I do is get mad. It's better to be annoyed than to accept what he says as the truth. Because I know I'm not. The only thing that requires inner strength from me is not killing him. =)
2006-07-27 06:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by jULiE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually calling someone stupid is usually a very stupid thing to do. If they were truly stupid they will not profit by the comment , so the comment is itself not bright,(stupid) and telling them so will profit then not at all.
Just turn and walk away and judge the event for yourself, or ask someone you trust and respect for their view.
2006-07-27 06:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Alan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I am not stupid so it takes no digging of inner strength to disregard such words from someone...I know that the real issue is that they have a problem, and so are taking it out on me by calling me something ugly, to help them feel better about themselves.
I feel sad for them...not hurt by them...someone whose opinion of you is worth listening to, wouldn't call you names (even if they did feel you were of lesser intelligence)...
2006-07-27 05:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always tell yourself you are bigger than him, and he means nothing to you, therefore, whatever he says means nothing to you. Also, you should always know you are so smart, and never dumb. I dont even know you, and you are smart for asking this question. Just tell yourself, you ARE smart and not dumb. What does he/she know about you to even call you such things? Maybe they are jealous of you being so smart they call you the names they are called to make you feel badly.. But in return you are going to take their words as compliments, and make them into good words like they are telling you, you are smart!! Cause you ARE!!!!! Good luck!!!!
2006-07-27 06:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually those who call me dumb and or stupid have done many many things in the past making that label applicable to themselves. So usually, its easy to laugh off, because you know they only say that because they have issues of their own.
2006-07-27 05:25:41 · answer #11 · answered by uofgleam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋