If you know that your spouse has been unfaithful, do you confront them about it, or not say anything and wait?

Answer 1

Unless you are too confident on the veracity of your charges, do not raise the issue with out concrete proof. Once confronted, things become complicated and gets dragged to wards divorce and separation. Hence, depending on the intensity of being unfaithful you have to decide whether to aggravate the relationship by confrontation or mollify the situation by pretending as if nothing has happened. You are the best judge of the situation ot decide as what to do.

Answer 2

The question isn't IF, it's HOW you confront him.

If you want to fix the relationship, the confrontation should be along the lines of, "I know you did such-and-such with so-and-so, and it's going to stop. Then we're going to fix whatever is wrong with our relationship that would cause your eye to stray." Remember that the relationship change must come from both sides. If he expects you to be sexier or whatever but isn't going to meet you halfway, then he's a jerk. But if you expect him to return to faithfulness but not help make the relationship better -- and forgive him -- then you're still doomed.

On the other hand, if you don't think you can forgive him, or don't want to, then get proof and a lawyer.

And let the lawyer confront him.

Answer 3

Well, if you love him, then you need to find out why he stepped out of the marriage. He could be lonely, bored, selfish, or have some deeper, much more serious underlying issues. If he is someone you want to try to work it out with for the LONG HAUL, then you cannot waste time letting it continue, you could be at risk emotionally, physically (STD's etc), and even financially (affairs do usually costs money from someone); NOW after he tells you why, (and that is the thing WHY?), it's up to you and him to decide where you go from there, whether he wants to continue the affair or to be with you, to get counseling to restore the relationship's trust and communication, if necessary.

So, confrontation does have to be DRAMATIC, but if you love him and want to make something work, it has to happen, and sooner rather than later.

Waiting is doing nothing but risking yourself and your health. If you wait, maybe you need to get some counseling to help you.

Answer 4

you have to confront him but not while you are mad give yourself time to cool off maybe write down what you want to say so you wont say something stupid, if you are going to work it out give him a altimatum.and work on making your relationship better spend more time together if its a man beileve me he needs lot of praises and appreciation to stick in there they are like puppies sorry guys you do, praises praises praises stroke they ego, if a girl just look sexy as ever every time he come in from work keep your self supper neat he will be walking around with his touge out, if you need to lose weight do it is good for your health and he will be like okay ,get a goal to work at together that helps realtionships last also and when they goal is finished work at another one, keep things new in the bed also surprise him every now and then lots of romance and all the freaky stuff he would have no need to go out and get it because he got it at home.

Answer 5

I would get solid proof and confront them about it. What is there to wait for. Most of the time they are not going to end the relationship on their own. But my advice for you is have solid proof of the affair before confronting him and already have in your mind made up on what you are going to do about. Stick to your decision.

Answer 6

If you know for sure.. 100%... confront his sorry a$$... let him know how it makes you feel and how hurt you are by what he did to the marriage. I would motivate you to do some dirty shyt in return but you would not be any better than him. The professional moral part of me would recommend couples counseling... But the pissed off women part of me wants you whip his sorry butt with a metal baseball bat!!

Answer 7

You better have some solid proof before you confront your spouse. To be falsely accused will not help your marriage.

Answer 8

Confront and talk about it. That is what i did and if you choose to forgive then don't bring it back up and don't cheat. If you choose to leave let that be it. If he does it again after you have forgiven him then dump him. No one deserves a third chance. But it depends on how his reation to you is qwhen you confront him. If you know for sure dont let him know and let him lie and then dump him but if he is truly apologetic and you will know if it is true then he may be forgiven.

Answer 9

maybe you get some strange too wanna hook up? j/k
sex is just sex but i think you confront him if you love him.
if you don't you wont love him any more because it will destroy you. learn to communicate with each other.
if he is cheating on you there is probably a reason find out what it is and work the problem together it make both of you stronger

Answer 10

It is a very difficult situation.it is easy for people to say you ask him// ask him what ? weather it is true that he was the one you saw with the other person or not. it is a situation one should pray never happens in the first place and if it happens you still need to pray for Gods direction on how to handle the situation.