ive been married for 3yrs but ive know him for 6 at first everything seemed great he was polite,loving, caring but sience we have gotten married everything has changed to the worst ive tried everything to make it work out but it isnt so i went to a friends party and i meet this guy we've been friends for years and he is just a sweetheart i explained the situation im in and he accepted me for me he does everything for me now my husband knows about this and he is trying everything and enything to keep me that includes giving me money,taking me places that we havent gone before and its just bothers me cause i dont want nothing else to do with him and i know that the only reason why he is doing all this is because if i divorce him he will lose any chances of getting his resedent of the usa. the other guy does alot more than my own husband i got a new cell phone for my birthday which was on the 24 of this month and i didnt even ask old boy he got it for me he does things that my husband.
2006-07-27 04:55:26 · 13 answers · asked by sekyrose64 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You married a guy primarily so he could get citizenship? Is that what I'm reading here? Sorry, but if that's the case, dump his lame a$$.
Get a divorce; if he suckered one girl, he'll find another one to screw over - it just doesn't have to be you.
2006-07-27 04:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont know color me crazy but aren't all relationships that good in the beginning. I mean most people are not themselves in the beginning. And you have mentioned that your husband was in the beginning great so what makes you think that this new guy isnt going to change at all either. I would say that if you go and think about things ,and keep in mind this new guy WILL change, at the very least a little bit ,and consider the fact that your judgement is being clouded by this new found love , you should find what you should really do. Only you can make that decision and no matter what we say on here you will do just that. Our only hope is that we can shine some light on you and help you see some other views. What is meant to be is what will be so take it day by day and really give yourself as well as the other 2 gentlemen in your life right now a chance and opportunity. Give it all you can to make the right decision. I hope this helps you in any way at all and I hope things work out for you. Good LUck !!
2006-07-27 05:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need to realize that just about anybody is going to look better than your husband right now since you aren't happy. You said yourself that you were with your husband for 3 years before you married him, things seemed great, and then you got married and things changed. Do you not think that perhaps your new guy/old friend could be that same way? He seems perfect now but say for instance you divorced your husband its very possible that this new guy could end up doing the exact same thing in 6 years. Your husband is making and effort to make things right with you and he shouldn't have to compete with someone else. That is the difference between dating and marriage. When you are dating and you meet someone else you can very simply break up and be with someone else. When you are married you made a life long commitment to your husband. You dont get to go to a party meet someone you like better and just say "o by the way I am with him now. Thats not how it works. You owe it to your marriage to try to work it out and if you can't then you have the option of divorcing and moving on. People have a strange way of looking perfect in the beginning of a relationship and at the end of the day this new guy knows that he does't have to be there day and night. Its time to grow up and accept your resposibilites and deal with your problems like an adult. Try to work out your marriage but if you absolutely can't then start the divorce proceedings because you doing what you are doing now is not fair to anybody involved.
2006-07-27 05:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i kinda know what u mean, but the thing is that relationships are not easy, therefor making marriages harder. your marriage is still new and if the love was there before you got married then it should still be there now. The thing is that you have to want it to work, he seems to be putting forth the effort, maybe you all should sit down and really talk about the things in your relationship that are pulling you two further apart. Communication is the key!!
There must have been something there that kept you two together for the 6 years you were together, so maybe you to should take sometime and get back to the basics, why you to got together and in the first place, but don't give it up just because the grass looks greener on the other side right now.
2006-07-27 05:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by tweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that you have your mind made up.........all relationships start out FAIRYTALE in the begining. I will be the first person to tell you that. But after so long of being with each other if you were not the real you from the gate, that person will start to come out (generally speaking).
2006-07-27 05:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by poohbearmomma_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used you to get a green card.... and you're cheating on him.
Why don't you two get a divorce? Seems like you don't really love each other. I think you're married long enough (3 years), he won' t lose his permanent residency.
2006-07-27 05:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by Karmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang it is a demanding one. in my opinion, you're completely justified, and do not EVER second wager your self this way... thoughts are there to deliver interest to at least something, or perhaps selfishness ought to experience sturdy, like indulging in a clean handbag or sandals, lol! yet in all seriousness, i don't like the way this sounds. when you're engaged to be married, then you somewhat are getting into right into a non secular, emotional, and criminal partnership.... So, that signifies that you both recognize one yet another, properly? properly. So, if I were you, i ought to easily bypass with him to Austria. there is not any longer something to communicate. you merely tell him, (act as when you're his spouse, because you'd be quickly besides, and it really is what different halves do-- MAKE judgements) that you're going with him to Austria. there is not any longer something to communicate, if he argues, or delivers factors, and so on. you walk out of the room. you've stated you're going, and also you aren't any further going to communicate it better. the merely thanks to attempt this, is to stroll out of the room. this isn't being a b itch, it really is termed putting forward your self. And adult males like this; they love the forged lady that you're in the first position. Thats between the justifications he fell in love with you. also, once you get to Austria, you could both meet or no longer meet the daughter; it merely concerns that you're on the threshold of him, anyplace he's. you receives the prospect to satisfy his daughter finally; yet assembly the ex isn't something that ought to be done. The daughter sure, the ex No. See what I recommend? you need to def be on that area of the vacation. sturdy success. ** i'm including an edit to my answer: i'm lower than the conception that for the period of Austria, he's staying at a motel or another accommodations. So ex will under no circumstances even recognize you're on the vacation. Now in case your fiance is planning on STAYING with ex and his daughter and her relations, it really is merely extraordinary. recommend a motel room. this way you could also "discover him out" the merely reason a relations ought to choose a toddler's daddy to stay with them is because they imagine he remains accessible for his or her daughter and granddaughter. Your guy isn't accessible, and if he doesnt have the favor to make you uncomfortable, I dont care if he says "oh its too expensive to stay in a motel" BS! Its merely money, and he or you, or both ought to pay. I easily ought to under no circumstances ever do this with my ex or his relations, and that i loved THEM! See what I recommend???
2016-11-26 02:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah..who you kidding you found another guy nice and fresh
you fallen a-s over head in love with him and you started to find faults to the old one ..isn't it always the same when we get something new we don't want the old one ..
what will you do when this one passes the sell by date
2006-07-27 05:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you're not happy leave him now. Don't waste all of your life hoping things will get better because usually they don't. Trust me I have been there....am now actually. Good luck
2006-07-27 05:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're cheating.
Advice: STOP IT! or get a divorce, so you are free to have meaningful relationships with whomever you choose.
2006-07-27 05:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋