What does this mean... I am currently in process of getting divorced from my husband... my ex from before my husband wants me to consider us getting back together once my divorce is final... I told him I didn't know how I felt about that right now that I need to concentrate on me and he is seeing someone right now...he calls her his girlfriend, says he loves her but is not in love with her and she isn't worth losing me over... at the same time he says he doesn't want me to jeopordize his "companionship" with her.. I'm confused.. I dont' want a relationship with him right now...I don't interfere in his life and have no intention of doing that.. he contacted me, I want to get my divorce and be on my own and who knows in the future MAYBE I would consider us again if he is free... I just am unsure right now...
but what does he mean by his "companionship" with her.. he even stumbles when he calls her his girlfriend... what do you guys think?? I am thinking sex is what he is referring to.
2006-07-27 04:52:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sex pops into my mind also...but he might still be in love with you and want you back but also talks about his girlfriend and their situation because we all know that most guys (note: I didn't say ALL) aren't too good at expressing themselves. I'm sure he doesn't want you or anyone else to think that he is begging for you back so he throws is girlfriend in the mix. But you are right you need to have some time after your divorce is settled to worry about you before making any decisions. Good luck with everything and let us know what happens.
2006-07-27 05:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by cgmc227 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No matter what the problem is in your current marriage, and no matter how you feel about the divorce - YOU WILL NEED TIME. To rush into a next relationship would not be good.
Tell him he can keep his "companionship" with the "girlfriend" or he can release her - that's HIS choice - but You are NOT available right now. If he truly loves you, he will know what to do. And if he has any character at all he will do the right thing.
(When you tell him you are NOT available right now - this is not just a test - You truly Will Need Time. Once the air around you is clear - you will be more clear about decisions for the next (if any) relationship in your life.
2006-07-27 05:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this horn dawg just wants the best of both worlds and is preying on you when you're most vulnerable. Let the dust settle and make a decision when your head clears, however long that takes. He's got a girlfriend now that he says he isn't "in love" with her? I bet she has an entirely different take on THAT one. Trust your original instincts, remember why you left him in the first place. Then consider if that was resolved or not. Good luck and hang in there.
2006-07-27 06:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it to... your dates would consist of sneaking, a mattress, pillow and dark bedroom and regrets in the morning for you. Walk on by... you're just being tempted. Pass the test and you'll end up much better off with peace and possibly a good new man once you're all healed from the divorce.
2006-07-27 05:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by shannonlilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 02:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think he sees that you are vulnerable, and he wants to take advantage of you. remember that he is your ex for a reason. you two didn't work out! you are right about needing to focus on yourself. don't rush and jump into a relationship with ANYONE just yet, especially him. i bet he'll do whatever it takes to get in your pants, while getting into the pants of his "companion" at the same time. just leave him alone, ignore him. if it was meant to be, then it'll find it's own way of happening at the right time. but truthfully, i don't think it was.
2006-07-27 04:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by origchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going to get divorced and then jump inot another relationship. Take some time to figure out who you are, etc. And, you can never go back. Look for something else.
2006-07-27 05:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by ndmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is saying he wants you both.
If you are not ready why complicate things by trying to guess or worry about what he means just say NO and be done with it.
2006-07-27 04:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got it,he wants to trade up to you but doesnt want to take the chance of loosing his booty call.
Remember, there was a reason you divorced him
2006-07-27 04:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right. he's a player and he'll use you. don't believe a word he says
2006-07-27 05:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by harps21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋