I dont know how to explain it..but i find myself giving more to my friends than i recieve..meaning love and help...im a very loving and giving person...and i guess i get dissapointed when i dont get it in return...my best friend can b at my level..but sometimes i get dissapointed..same with my other friends...why do i feel like this?
2006-07-27 04:44:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Moral study will teach you that you should give whole-heartedly and never expect return. However, real life demands more than the 'typical textbook description'. The very fact is that it is normal for you to expect return and feel disappointed for not getting it. Look at this in this way: Don't you expect good results if you sacrifice your time to study hard? If your friends are not giving much in return or alsolutely not returning any, then it's highly probable that they are not your true friends or they might be making used of you. Friendship is a mutual relationship, which means both parties should be giving to each other at approximately the same portion. In real life, you can hardly find anyone who satisfies the rule I stated just before. Though it is troubling for you to have this problem, I am very honour to see someone like you who are a true friend to others, given what you have said is true.
2006-07-27 05:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by jlryan87 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it is time to take a break from giving for a while.
That doesn't make you a bad person.
When was the last time you did something completely for yourself (without discussing it with others) for no particular reason other than to enjoy it?
If you give only to receive, or give something only to tell others, you will soon be disappointed as your needs are not included in that half of the equation. Also, people may be so focussed on their problem that they literally haven't time for you AT THAT MOMENT and are simply relieved to be out of the fire.
Rest assured, people know a good person. The way I like to think of it, is that I've given something to someone and that's helped them, great. But when you need help, you will get it from someone else, often someone completely unexpected. It's not a direct one to one thing and it's not like waiting for a bus to come along. Life is great simply because it is unpredictable and one thing doesn't mean something else HAS to happen.
Think of something really nice that you've wanted to do for ages, plan to do it and then do it. Don't involve anyone and don't feel guilty about doing it. I'm sure others will provide loads of good suggestions.
Be happy and enjoy it without the need for someone to be there to share it. Tell someone about how good it was some other time.
And no, you are not the only one, there are several billion other caring people who have all felt the same way as you at some point.
bw.
2006-07-27 04:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Cheese Please! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question! Your friends are not like you are so get over it(I mean that in a kind way). No two people are alike. We all get disappointed when are friends don't come through for us when we need them or don't respond in a way we wish they would. It's normal to feel like you do, we all go through it. Welcome to the club! I don't know what to tell you to do to not feel like this accept maybe not to be so available to your friends so you can avoid further disappointment. But I bet that that's not in your nature to do so.
2006-07-27 05:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a self-sacrificing person... but don't sacrifice so much of yourself that you end up not having enough of yourself left over>>> for you.
Some people aren't "self-sacrificing" people... that's why they don't give as much as you do... so, you're not going to receive as much from them, as you give to them.
Love is self-sacrificial... some people don't understand that... & some people are not willing to make sacrifices.
2006-07-27 05:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ain`t giving too much tho i think it better for you to tell them how you feel otherwise they will leave you without ever showing the gratitude they are supposed to be showing and that will hurt you and you might begin to hate tthem even wen u don hev a rzn
2006-07-27 05:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by kukuvagsgangsta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard, but try and give little less.They are taking you for granted.Try talking to them a bout how you feel,they might feel bad.
2006-07-27 05:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u do things for people dont expect anything in return........that way u got no room to feel let down......
2006-07-27 04:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really expect something in return,than don't give.your givings is of no use if you expect something in return.
2006-07-27 04:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by sweet girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your probably giving to much to your friends and they really don't know how to repay you.
2006-07-27 04:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Bria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋