What is the Truth about marriages?

Answer 1

Truth is bitter than reality.

Answer 2

What Ive learned is, marriage is one of the easier things to destroy. People DO change...u never know the other person, u learn new things everyday. It is a two way street. One gives and one takes is also true, but it evens out in the long run.
Don't ever threaten divorce. If you say it, u better mean it. Those are the scariest and most hurtful words you can throw out.
Take the vow seriously...this is a life changing situation you are getting into.
Love with all you have and be honest..lies are unacceptable. There is NO reason to lie. That is the biggest destroyer of all!!! Once its said, it cannot be taken back.
There is no truth in my opinion. Every marriage is different. Its a learning process. You both learn what each other likes and dislikes, what the buttons are that shouldn't be pushed, etc.
Act as if each day is your last with your love and the marriage will grow. Be yourself always.
NO secrets either. This is your mate, share everything.
Lean on each other, u both have strength the other can draw on when they are weary.
Go easy on expectations of yourself and your mate. Expecting too much leads to disappointment.
Not sure if this answered the ?. but this is what Ive learned.

Answer 3

The truth is marriage is not perfect, it is a full time job where the work is never done. A lot of people give up on marriage and its because they don't remember the vows that they made to the lord to love, honor and cherish their spouse for the rest of their lives. Marriage is a wonderful thing but you have to love the one your with even when you don't want to anymore. When times get hard you just have to remember the reason you married this person in the first place and remember the vows that you took in front of the lord.

Answer 4

Although some religious groups will say otherwise, you MUST live with the person for at least 2 years before you tie the knot. People rush into this decision so quickly and honestly, although it's not socially as acceptable, if you plan on having a kid, have the kid before you get married. Kids destroy marriages, everything changes after you have kids. I'm currently married, I have a child from a previous relationship, my wife has a child from a previous relationship - we were never married prior, but obviously neither of us are with our kids other parent. Once the child came into our lives everyone changed - she changed I changed. When we met obviously we both had kids, we lived together for some time and we know how we are with kids and that's not going to change. With the exception of death, we're both done with life changing events and so we have a pretty good idea of who each of us is going to be in 10 years. When you rush into a marriage, you don't really know who your spouse is going to be after a child.

Answer 5

The truth of marriage is that it takes work. People think when they get married, they won't have no more problems. I hate to break it, you just have other set of problems as when you did when you were single. You have to work at it, and no, it's no fairy tale story. (It may be at times, but it takes work!)

You are trying to entwin two lives and they usually aren't from the same background, and that is hard. If you do get married, it's just good to be in it for a long haul.

I am not saying it's not awarding and all that, it is if you work at it and it's about compromise also.

Answer 6

The truth is : After the thrill is gone, Kids and money issues will probably be the death of your desire to be with that person, if not finding out how your partner really is.Sometimes. we get lucky and find someone that we can enjoy being with, or at least not find to difficult to stand being around. Sometimes, if you work at having fun with that person, It makes it seem worthwhile. There are a couple of perfect marraiges out there, but most of them take a lot of work, or understanding and forgiveness.if not just looking the other way, or ignoreing the other person. Personaly I like the Idea of the wiccan handfasting. You have a ceremony and stay with your partner for a 'Year and a day', if after that time you are still happy, you can do it again. If it doesn't work out, you just say, well, thanks, but no thanks, and go your seperate ways.

Answer 7

The truth is simple. You need to figure out if you are willing to stay in a committed relationship 'until death do you part'. Marriage has its pros and cons, as with any relationship or situation. Just be sure it is what you want and if you want the person you are marrying for life.

Answer 8

All of the above and another thing: People change within a marriage, so the person you married may not be the person you are with now.

Also, you may not be the same person too after a while.

Answer 9

the truth?, you leave this very open but if the marriage is in front of god! then i beleive there is a fighting chance, dont get married because you think you love them, remember true love never dies, i dont care what other ppl say, if you truely love someone, no matter what you will always love them, no matter if this person hurts you or not. i hope you get what i am trying to say ! but in case ive included a writing of mine to illustrate.

REASONS FOR LIFE
Sometimes people come into your life and you know right
away that they were meant to be there…to serve some sort of
purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or
who you want to become. You never know who these people
may be but you lock eyes with them, you know that very
moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.
And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may
seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize
that without overcoming those obstacles you would never
realize your potential, strength, will power or heart.
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance
or by means of luck. Illness, love, lost moments of true
greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test limits of your soul.
Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly
paved, straight, flat road to nowhere safe and comfortable
but dull and utterly pointless.
The people you meet affect your life. The successes and
downfalls that you experience can create whom you are, and
the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact they are
probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone
hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them
because they have helped you learn about trust and the
importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.
If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not
only because they love you, but also because they are
teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little
things. Make every day count. Appreciate everything
that you possibly can, for you may never experience it again.
Talk to people whom you have never talked to before, and
actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set
your sights high. Hold you head up because you have
every right to.Tell yourself you are a great individual
and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself,
no one else will believe in you. Create you own life and
then go out and live it. ...12/10/2002...TJP

Answer 10

Since nothing's perfect, marriages are not either. I think many expect too much from a marriage, and do not compromise and adapt as the marriage adapts to changes. It must be tended and maintained over the years. Is it an equal partnership where each fullfills the commitments they have in their relationship

Answer 11

It takes a LOT of work and patience. Most days it is such a blessing and a beautiful thing. Take your time ladies to be FOUND by the right man... the one that takes better care of you than you take of yourself and pleases you physically. You must give yourself to the other person freely and receive them as well...and that is a hard thing to do, but you do it for love. It is beautiful and painful at the same time. Remember the LORD said it is not good to be alone, so marriage is better than remaining single if you DESIRE to be married. Don't settle for less than your dream come true.