Genesis 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
AMPLIFIED VERSION: To the woman He said, I will greatly multiply your grief {and} your suffering in pregnancy {and} the pangs of childbearing; with spasms of distress you will bring forth children. Yet your desire {and} craving will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.
I've been married over a year and I do a lot for him, DAILY. He doesn't do what I want him to for me. He's a good man, but my pain is that he doesn't desire and crave me like I do him and it is discouraging and aggravating. How do you cope and deal with this?! Feeling pain again today... (details: intimacy, his stepparenting my 13 year old girl, romance, etc., but MOSTLY intimacy ~ he promised it would be different ~also, I'm 7 mos. pregnant ~ we're very thankful for that...)
2006-07-27 04:33:38 · 7 answers · asked by shannonlilia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
before you ask: YES I have hobbies and work outside of the home.
2006-07-27 04:34:05 · update #1
Some men get hung up over the pregnancy thing... they are afraid they will poke the baby. Good luck in your life, and may God bless you for a long long time
2006-07-27 04:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by dee r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully the best way to work on this situation is to 1. Continue to pray and give your husband up to the Lord. 2. Seek marital counseling from a Christian counselor, as secular counselors will be of no help.
Lord commands us husbands to love our wives the way Jesus loves the church. For men in today's secular world that can be a daunting task. If your husband is not a believer like you or his faith is not as strong as yours it can make it even more difficult.
If you are not currently attending services as a family on a regular basis, you may want to consider doing so. I would suggest find a non-denomination bible teaching church that is prosperity focused. This can also help you out a lot.
Continue to have faith, pray and keep focused on being the best example of Christ in your home that you can and you will be blessed.
2006-07-27 11:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by big_dreamer2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just the way things are. SInce you are pregnant, that may also be a factor there. Maybe you can try some other positions while in the bedroom.
He may also think he may hurt the baby, which is not true. The baby is protected and you may want to tell him that, and it won't harm the baby for you two to be imtimacity active either. I hope this helps.
2006-07-27 11:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should consider marriage counseling, especially if there are child raising issues about your 13 yr old. Every marriage needs work, none are perfect, and the scripture may be true; however, your need are no less important than his. A marriage is supposed to be an equal effort on both sides. One person can't make a relationship work on their own. It takes two.
2006-07-27 11:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by kel_kat28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its just hormones. at this point u have a lot of hormones inside of u and u r just a little depressed. that all normal.maybe he is scared he will hurt u or the baby. just sit and talk to him and bravo on being a good step mom. most men find it harder to expess their emotions any way., thats the way they r. talking helps alot. if any thing go to the doctor and let him explain to ur husband that intimacy is ok and normal during pregnancy
2006-07-27 11:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should think about who really wrote the "Bible". Now before you say "GOD" think.......it was MAN! If you believe in the bible great.....but try to take it as a guide not as the absolute. I personally think the bible is a hoak but in respect to those that believe in it..............Why does it say that we (women)have to please our men and honor them and basically do whatever they want, but yet men have to do what for us??? Provide.....please they only do that half the time!! Have you ever heard anyone say that some man is going to hell because they don't finacially provide for their family..... Well not me but, I have heard plenty "christians" say that some woman is going to hell because she is not obeying her husband or whatever........Please just be rational about the whole thing. If your husband does not love you enough to please you then why should you do everything for him??? Because "God" said so???? Please!!!
2006-07-27 11:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people treat you like you let them. talk with him and let him know what you need in the relationship.
2006-07-27 11:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋