2006-07-27 04:18:18 · 21 answers · asked by sweatiebettie 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It's certainly possible.
FORGIVING is not holding a grudge
FORGETTING is not retaining the memories of what actually happened.
These two things are quite distinct. I think it is often wise to forgive, but very foolish to forget. We need to remember what really happened.
2006-07-27 04:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Carbon-based 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To forgive is one thing to forget another. The most you can do is block a memory the mind does not "forget" anything a record exists in your mind for everything you ever see or hear from the moment you are born to the moment you die. Whether or not it can be recalled is a different thing.
Even things that have been forgiven should not be forgotten for the same reason we have history classes in school, if we forget and do not learn from our past experiences we are doomed to repeat them for good or ill.
2006-07-27 13:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by CuriousCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can be true. I speak from personal experience. I would not want the person I've forgiven back in my life because I haven't forgotten what he did to me and my husband. However, I finally chose to forgive him and move on with my life.
2006-07-27 11:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone I like very much did me very wrong....and I have forgiven and the subject does not come up between us and we are close to this day.I though have not forgotten, when this happened I felt like i had been hit with a sledgehammer....but yes I have forgiven
2006-07-27 11:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, consider it a lesson learned. Yes forgiven the act but have learned not repeat the situation.
2006-07-27 11:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they have forgiven but, even if they try their best to forget but, as u know... it's the past so they might forget or not but, of course they'll always remember and forgive at the same time.
2006-07-27 11:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by *~kit-kat~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's silly to forgive someone if they have wronged you and then for you to forget what wrong they committed. I believe we ask too much of ourselves to expect both. If you do wrong against someone and they tell you they've forgiven you, then you ought to be grateful you've been granted their grace. Do not expect them to forget; your actions, good or bad, reflect who you are as a person. Be warned!
2006-07-27 11:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. It is possible for someone to forgive and not forget. To forgive simply meast that the victim has pardoned the transgression. However, the victim can still learn from the experience and "watch" to make sure that it doesn't happen again. Hurt me once shame on you...hurt me twice shame on me.
2006-07-27 12:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rance D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as they always say, we gotta forgive and forget. I guess forgiving naturally should go along with forgetting. If one keeps the hatred in heart, there's always the chance that it will be digged out again.
So,
I beg to differ.
2006-07-27 11:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Swee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some extent - enough to let the person who betrayed them back into their lives, for example. For some it is extremely hard to forget - or to trust the other person again. They need to try to block the bad event out of their minds - or go to therapy and let it all out (and off their minds).
2006-07-27 12:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋