what book says i have to go through this marriage thing inorder to be with the one for me. isn't marriage an open door to divorce? we've been one for 13 years ...
2006-07-27 04:12:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are people who feel their beliefs should apply to everyone. This is one of those issues. Those people will never respect you unless you succumb to their opinions, but it's their problem, not yours.
2006-07-27 04:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be viewed two ways: as a public commitment to each other in plain view of society and God, or just a piece of paper. I'm guessing you're siding with the latter. Some people need that final leap into total commitment. Will this merely open the door to divorce? Not necessarily, what's holding you back now? Divorce is just merely ending the relationship like the wedding began it, in front of everyone. Marriage offers stability, health insurance, your estate if you die, your name, and it tells your partner you're in it for the long run. If you've been getting the milk for free for 13 years, it might be time to buy the cow. But, you have to want it too, you have to be ready for it. If it goes against your nature or opinion, then forget it. But at the same time think about how the other person feels. Consider cutting bait and allow that person to get on with their life, it's not all about just you. Good luck.
2006-07-27 12:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is the joining together of two hearts and souls in an agreement before God and man to stay faithful, love, honor, cherish each other for the rest of their lives. There are not to many marriages like this today, but I myself try and strive to keep my marriage like that every day.
No marriage is not an open door to divorce..Infidelity is! As long as both the husband and the wife make up in thier minds that they will not cheat no matter what circumstances that may arise, then their marriage will be blessed by God.
As for those 13 years, don't you think you have wasted enough time? What is holding you both back from making up your minds?
2006-07-27 13:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by ladysea8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not an open door for divorce. Marriage is a legal way of saying I want to be with this person forever. I care enough to make the biggest commitment. Anyone can live together. If you have been with this person for 13 years....why not get married?
2006-07-27 11:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and Marriage are both open invitations for more pain. Many moons ago it used to really MEAN something to be married, but in this day and age, people just don't seem to know what they want, and marriage is more of a 'convenience' than a lifetime Union between 2 people who truly LOVE each other.
Sad huh?
2006-07-27 11:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by girl next door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a God appointed relationship. Marriage is a committment, a friendship, a partnership. You must both give 100%. You must keep in mind and heart the vows you made, and stand fast to them. It's sacrificing. Give and take. Marriage is not a bed of roses, don't tuck tail and run when times get rough. If you're not in it for the long haul and don't put your whole self and effort into it, then it is doomed for divorce.
2006-07-27 11:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by ridersinthesky11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a legal agreement to work as a team. You meet someone that you feel you love. You are friends, lovers, and you work together against the difficulties in life.
It prevents the disorganized orgy jealous hate lust sex that would otherwise cause chaos in the world, and give responsibility to parenting.
2006-07-27 11:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by BuyTheSeaProperty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider yourselves married, good for you. There is something however to that public declaration of your love and comittment before a mass gathering of close friends that somehow cements things in ways that a private mutual commitment doesn't. I'm not sure that god doesn't see you as married or honour your monogomous bond but there are definite state benefits to a "legal" union. As to leading to devorce, your relationship is just as prone to seperation with or without a formal ceremony. one thing I've learned in life is "Relationships don't work, relationships TAKE work."
2006-07-27 11:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by jp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey, marriage is love its a feeling its a meaning to belong to someone some place some where.Does this answer your question
2006-07-27 11:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by hanaanrashid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a union between two people that love each other and want to build a life together.
2006-07-27 11:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by caroline j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋