Does anyone know of...?

Question

...somekind of drug or vitamin that will increase my husbands sex drive? NOT VIAGRA. He does not have ED. Everyone says "Oh, get Viagra." but if you don't have a problem getting or keeping it up that is stupid. He just has a low sex drive. Anything you know of?

ok. for all of you who "know it all". we have porn. lingerie. lotions. toys. you name it and he claims I'm too much for him. So scratch "boring". Sorry. My problem is he can't keep up with me. Plus, I don't have a problem in the looks department. Before we were married I won several bikini contest and got Ms. Budweiser from the biggest club in our town.

Answer 1

Every man dreams of having a marital problem like this! (sorry but it's true). Actually, let me rephrase that. Most men dream of having exactly this maritial problem. But seriously, something is up here.

Does he get enough exercise? That actually might help. And a healthy diet with plenty of fiber and water. If he's a little overweight he might be suffering from low self esteem. Many of us actually do care what we look like and when we get a little paunchy it makes us feel unattractive. Hard to believe I know, but we do.
What else is going on? Middle age maybe? Is he loosing his hair? Same self esteem thing. Is he generally healthy? How about stress at work? All of these things could be keeping the old boy feeling a little down.
Something is the trigger here because most men are set on "go" 24 hours a day. That's just how we're wired. Can't help it. We usually keep it in check fairly well, but it's always there.
Maybe he should see his health care provider and get a check up.

Hang in there. He'll get though this and things will improve. If he doesn't shape up pretty quick have him call me and I'll 'splain a few things to him.

Answer 2

I asked a very similar question some days ago, and most of my responses were pretty well thought out, if you'd like to compare notes. (the question I asked was "Guys 30+ only please.?")
It seems this is the biggest problem married women have, ALL my friends complain about this. (No matter what the guys here are claiming!) But it doesn't seem to have the same answer for all of them. My hubby is still rather shy and restrictive, though he'd swear it wasn't true. So the "gotten used to me" problem probably prevails (I like that SO much better than "Bored") It's tough to think up stuff when I just never know how he'll react!
I really think I was coming on to him too often, making him feel I was too available... But shutting it off is difficult. He sure flirts with me more though! and I try not to assume too much when he does.
I think it is a more complex question than just one answer can work out. It does seem that guys can feel like it's all we ever want, and that can be a turn off.

Answer 3

Viagra will work, it flows blood to the parts that need it, it also works on the brain, it makes him think of sex and that makes hi what to have sex

and maybe all of the stuff toys and such puts pressure on him to have sex and to think of new ways and makes him try to think how hard it is too keep up

Oh and I heard that that stuff in Green tea will help, and Oysters,

Maybe there are a lot of pressure at work, that will make a lot of men not up too wanting you

Answer 4

I'm not familiar with any aphrodisiacs that actually work, although if you do a search online, you'll find all kinds of things. Have you sat down and talk to him about it? About WHY he doesn't desire (much) sex...did he used to have a higher drive? What's changed in his/y'alls life that might have affected that? Could it be simply that you've been together a while and it's gotten predictable or routine?

Communication is your best tool...talk about this...about what you can both do to change it...perhaps act out one of his fantasies (something you find agreeable)...add toys or naughty costumes to your sex play...maybe do it some place you've never done it before...perhaps a porn video (it gets me in the mood when I wasn't there to begin with)...add some spice and something new if you think that'll help...

Hopefully something will get y'all back in the sack soon...good luck!

Answer 5

I think maybe you could be a little intimidating to him. Think about living on the edge of the wild side a little. It might just get his mind on the right track and could be a little exciting for him and you. Myself, I find it a turn on. The imagination is a wonderful thing. Good luck and I hope you find the right answer too your problem.

Answer 6

Buy him some porns, sexy outfits (for you), new toys, high heels. Just do some things to change up the pace. Maybe the extra spice will turn him on and then he might show more interest.

Answer 7

Go to a naturalpath. There is an herb, I just can't remember the name of it. They are generally very helpful and friendly. Give the natural route a try.

Answer 8

He probably should just take multivitamins and drink plenty of water. Does he exercise regularly or does he have a sedentary lifestyle? It may be more of a lack of energy, than lack of sex drive.

Answer 9

Surprise him by wearing a sexy super slutty outfit and do a striptease. Then ask him what his fantasy is and become it. While he is telling you his fantasy, slowly lick your way from his thighs to his testicles then to his member and so on. Light candles and just seduce him. Read the Kama Sutra if necessary.

Answer 10

Horny Goat weed - no joke. There is something called Cobra, you can buy it at the health food store and he takes one in the a.m. and another shortly before being intimate. It really works!!