My brothers bestfriend always came to my house and we kinda started to like each other. He told me that he really loved me and it wasn't one of those fake guys trying to get in your pants.I really love him too, but we kinda hid it from my parents and my brother. An we'd kiss and everything, but one day my mom caught us and she flipped out. My dad went to his house and chased him, and they wouldn't give us a chance to tell them how we feel. They screwed my window shut, WIPED ME, made me quit softball, and grounded me from the phone. I still love him and we would do anything for each other. We still talk some times though. He said he'd wait for me till I got old enuff. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!
2006-07-27 04:02:48 · 38 answers · asked by Leopardette_44 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
We haven't had sex, or anything like that. He said that he respects me more than that.He said he wouldn't try anything I wasn't ready for, or mature enuff for.He's a really sweet guy.
2006-07-27 04:27:12 · update #1
I don't USUALLY think it's wrong. It doesn't sound like he's taking advantage of you though so I think it's legit.
My husband and I were 15 and 18 when we met so we had similar problems. My parents did let me date him though, even though they didn't like him (they like him now). There's not much you can do.. just try to talk to your parents and see if you can't work out something. Perhaps it'd help if HE sat down with your parents and told them how he felt and that he is not trying to take advantage of you.
Otherwise.. you might have to wait. Good luck!
2006-07-27 04:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by spike_is_my_evil_vampire 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
not only is it wrong but it's illegal..even dating a 16 year old when I was 14 was a VERY BAD idea...I still cry about it sometimes.
he is robbing the cradle, he probably knows it too. You deserve better!
and I'm sorry but you do not know what love is...you honestly have no Idea. I thought I did when i was your age and i was sadly mistaken..I'm not sure I even know what love is now that I'm 16 but I feel I have a very good idea...I get the picture, I just don't know the full effects yet
however it seems a bit off that your parents punished yo so harshly..you are the VULNERABLE one, you need the help, not the hurt. your parents need to be talking to you about why that is bad, why it's wrong and how much he can hurt you, regardless what he says....and if they wont start the conversation maybe you should. educate yourself on situations like that, and break it off...any 18 year old who goes for a baby should be through in jail....he is an adult and you can even work until 2 years from now.
forget about boys, you don't need to worry about them yet...they seem like something great but at your age, all they want is sex. focus on school for a little while longer, the right guy will come along...he will be your age, and things will be okay.
2006-07-27 04:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Miss. Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for an 18 yr old boy to be with a 14 yr old girl. It is wrong. Alot of people say age dosnt matter but in this case it does, because if something did go to heppen it is considered statitory rape.
So while your so young enjoy your life and dnt get serious with anyone for awhile. This 18 yr old boy may say he loves you but as soon as someone his age comes along that he likes you will have a broken heart. Trust me I know Iam 23 right now but when I was 14 the same stuff happened tome. The best advice to give you and just be 14 and dont settle.
2006-07-27 04:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by catherine b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in an age that you cant be sure about guys and love.Besides,the age difference also matters.Maybe you'll just have to wait until you're at least 17 and see how you feel about him.Dont rush yourself 'cause you're too young to trouble yourself with these kind of things.In addition,I know that parents can be overprotecting and nerve-wrecking but it's because they love their children and want only the best for them.So,just go along for now and see what the future will bring you.I hope I've been helpful..
2006-07-27 04:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by M@ry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww. cute story. But its not wrong its just not legal. If you love him then nothign should really keep you apart. SAdly if soemone the age of 18 is with someone under 18 it is illegal. i have hard that its illegal if its jsut four years older but that cant but right but if it was that still would be illegal. If he truley does love you, he will really wait for you. And he sounds liek a sweet sincere guy, so he jsut mgiht really wait, but do you realize it'll be four years befoer you can be with him. That's a long time. And if he goes to college, well colege has girls. And you might not even really love him. Sometimes we truley think we are in love but we arent.You are really lucky if you are really in love though. Best of wishes to yu.
2006-07-27 04:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, he is an adult you aren't. No offense, but an 18 year old boy shouldn't be going after kids. If he likes you so much, he should stay away from you until you are older.
You may not believe this, but your concept of love is going to change so much between now and when YOU are 18... you deserve a chance to find that out.
2006-07-27 04:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by Robb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong for 2 people to fell in love, no matter what their age is. But people as young as you have to know what's right and what's wrong. It's definitely wrong if u let him touch u and remove ur clothes. That's y ur parents are so freaked out. It's tough to be in this stage where u cannot do anything abt ur parents. They meant good, not bad. Time will tell if u guys are meant to be together. Take it easy.
2006-07-27 04:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by AL75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much he says I love you, don't believe it. Now ask yourself, "Why would an 18 year old want a 14 year old when he could be out with a grown woman doing what he wanted without getting in trouble?" I suggest you stay away from him, and find friends that are in your age range.
2006-07-27 04:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Miss Brittany ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. parents are just under the initial shock, and they wont take to kindly to underestimating their power. You cant really talk to them about it, because they do tend to lose their temper quickly. You really might have to wait until your eighteen, because parents arent going to take it well if they catch you seeing this boy. I'm in the EXACT situation that your in, except for the whole strict parents thing. You might want to talk to your brother about him, and get the d/l on him, because you might not know what your in for with this boy. I know it seems so right, but believe me; the older boy i was in love with, seemed to be someone completely different after we didn't see each other for the entire winter season.
2006-07-27 04:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweety, don´t listen when they tell your that it´s wrong or ilegal, I am 16 and my boyfriend is 26, and we started when we were 14 and 24, od course we are hiding this relationship, nobody know about us but we really love each other and we must be happy, is that wrong??? Someday, coming soon we are gonna tell my parents about this and they must understand, Good luck!! and don´t feel bad about this, just take care of you!
sorry for my english, I´m -latina-
2006-07-27 04:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by Charlotte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋