I am dating someone who has been single for his whole life basically he's traveled and was engaged i was married 9 years.
He has been gone for 6 monthes and is comming home soon. While he is here he wants to see his friend and his wife and kids the deal is we are engaged and I have to kids. He wants to see these other people like it the priority. Reason I feel this is we are suppose to "just him and I" go on 1 week vacation somewere and he even asked me to get a passport "just in case " so we are not limited ,.....now 4 days later ke thinks he wants to just stay the week at my house and that be the vacation? I live in my house all the time and that to me as a couple is not a romantic vacation ...the problem is I feel like I'm not important enough to spent time with as vacation. I think he has been single so long that he do not truly understand what a relationship is? You don't put friends or anything or anyone before your fiancee and her kids after being gone that long? any advice?
2006-07-27 04:02:29 · 2 answers · asked by vcaring 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Perhaps you don't know everything involved. Maybe his friends are a huge part of his life and he feels like they are "family". Give him the benefit of the doubt on this one. As for him changing the vacation plans; if he is paying for it, then he can change the plans. Maybe he is short on money now. Just be happy that he wants to spend the week with you, even if it's at your house. It may be more important for him to stay with you at your house so he can get to know your kids. If you and him went away, then he wouldn't get to know the kids better. For this time, be happy that he still wants to be with you. Next time, you might be in a situation to set better rules. Be polite and love him. Good Luck
2006-07-27 04:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u need to tell him how u feel about the situation let him know that u are always in the house and for once u want to be some were else. and that u want the to of u to spend some quality time together just u and him and not anyone else. he can see his kids any time not every day he See's u tell him whats on Ur mine and get him to leave that house and take nu some where. GOOD luck!!!
2006-07-27 06:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by kimmy21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋