If you have ever been cheated on how did you feel and what did you do about it? Did you go out and cheat your self as payback, forgive the person, or leave the person?
2006-07-27 03:38:47 · 45 answers · asked by fire_fly0434 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I left the person because he gave me a STD.
2006-07-27 03:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by free4eva45 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I found out my husband wanted a divorce, he never gave me a straight answer. After I left our home for my safety, I got online. I found his profile on three different personal's sites. He had contacted and talked with over 100 women, dating back to just three months after our wedding. Then at the holidays last year (we were still married) right before his company's Christmas party, he went around telling people that I had been cheating and that's why he was bringing a date to the party. It was devastating beyond belief. I hurt so bad, it made me feel so empty. I cried and cried, and yelled saying "He's supposed to love me. I'm still wearing his last name and "token of his love" "... It's definitely something that's very hard to deal with. I sought counseling. And to this day I still have to break down and have a good cry out. I didn't do any payback. Our divorce was finalized in January of this year. He's off doing his own thing back in Ohio. I still have mixed emotions on the matter. Because I did love him and I would have until the day I/he died. But all the lies, deciet, and abuse just make it hard to make a clear decision on if I'd ever take him back.
2006-07-27 03:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by ridersinthesky11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my boyfriend cheated on me it really hurt me cause I loved him so much. And I ended up forgiving he because he felt so bad for what he had done, but after we started working on putting our relationship back together I would always wonder what is he doing, why didn't he call me stuff like that. And then he ended up cheating again. That's unforgivable so I had to let him go. if someone cheats on you, you will feel bad cause you will think why did he do this and wonder if it was your fault, and what could you have done differently. But If your man cheats on you it will hurt but you have to be strong and let him go, cause he will do nothing but hurt you in the long run. Once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-07-27 03:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah last month, she cheated on me with her ex and then left me, didn't call me for a week because she was ehem...'busy' then called me and broke it off - apparently she'd been with the guy the whole time...i felt like s h i t, I felt betrayed, i felt like i wasn't good enough, and with what she said and the way she said it I felt as if she was 'doing me the favour' by being with me and I felt the whole relationship had been a lie and i had just been 'used' - I never spoke to her again, I can't stand cheaters and wouldn't even consider being friends with an ex like that because even with friends the basic fundamental principle that needs to be present is 'honesty and trust' and it obviously wasn't - plus if you've been lied to and used once, you really can't trust the person again - i usually believe that 'everyone deserves a second chance' - even though im pretty stupid for even thinking that - but that is all - no more than that.
2006-07-27 03:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt like crap cause the girl my ex then, cheated with came looking for me in the shop where I was working and I had no idea of what was happening until later in the night when he picked me up after work, he was with some of his friends' I knew and she was there, when she saw us together she just spilled everything and I knew from the look on my boyfriend's face that it was true. I left the island 3 months after and never told him until one day I got a phone call but I had already moved on with my life. To this day, I have not seen him in probably 3-4 years.
2006-07-27 03:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by daisy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell Yes,
It hurts like crazy. The first thought is that you were not good enough. Or you were not ******* him fine enough.
But I have learnt this is not true. Men are socialized to be that way and society has endorsed that they can cheat and get away with it.
What I did about it,, I left him,,, eventually. Got new clothes, new hairstyle, picked up back by esteem. And now, he is at me every day .. wanting me back. But no.
Fellas if you are cheating, dont let me know.
If you have a big heart, you can forgive him.
2006-07-27 03:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by rizzio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have been cheated on by some of the women that I dated. I just told them all that I would not stand in their way of finding the person that will make them happy and said good-bye. They did not get another chance at cheating on me again.
2006-07-27 03:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You feel like crap when you find out. You feel betrayed, hurt, lied to, and feel like everything you had with that person was a lie. when I found out, I ended things IMMEDIATELY. didn't try to fix things, didn't hear an explanation, nothing. Just cut him off. I didn't go out and cheat, what would the point of that be.
Of course I forgave him, but not for his sake, for me. Its good to forgive, its part of the healing process.
In the grand scheme of things, its good to find out the type of person he was before things got even more serious. If you can't trust someone, you have nothing in a relationship. It would be pointless.
2006-07-27 03:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by AreYouForReal? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just found out last week that my husband cheated on me twice with hookers while on a business trip to the west coast. I was so hurt because I thought we had a very loving relationship. I thought I was a good wife to him, supportive with his endeavors, raising our children.
The thought came to me to find a man to cheat with. But that would make me as unfaithful as my husband was. Plus, I can't dishonor God and my children that way.
I'm trying to work my way through forgiving him but right now my heart is so broken. I can't see how I will ever be able to make love with him freely with him again without thinking of him having sex with a hooker. God, I can't believe he would do this to me and dishonor our marriage vows.
Sometimes I want him to leave. Sometimes I want him to stay. I'm really confused right now.
I know this is a horrible place to be, and I want to stop feeling awful, ashamed, and embarrased by what he's done.
If you're thinking of cheating, and you''re married....Don't do it. Please. For the sake of your spouse. Don't do it.
2006-07-27 03:48:39 · answer #9 · answered by RealityCheck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse i have been cheated and i guess i took better decision after that but just leaving that person and starting my life all over again and trust me i feel i am the most happiest person on earth today with so much of joy n hppiness around me in the face of my partner who loves n respects me as much as i do and more importantly his honesty and dedication towards me makes me feel so important and wanted in life!!
i feel,paybacks and cheating in return will only make you fall in your character,why would you want to change your personality to teach someone a lesson and as if the person will learn so,rather slap diplomatically so that he craves for a sight of you after that by making your life joyfull n happy!!
2006-07-27 03:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually forgave the person the first time because there was this debate on if we where in a relationship or just dating, it was stupid but now that I look back on it I realize he was just looking for a excuse to get out of trouble. The second time he tried the same story and I dumped him, he moaned and bitched about how "oh I love you" afterwards but I knew better by then.
2006-07-27 03:42:24 · answer #11 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋