he said it just happened and he is sorry and he will never do it again. how can i believe and trust him after that?
2006-07-27 03:32:40 · 18 answers · asked by JOHN V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you know what you can and cannot accept. My parents went through a situation like this and are still together (going on 36 years now). It is hard to trust someone after they have betrayed you in this manner. I would suggest counseling and he should be willing to go if it means saving his marriage. I would not stop at just an apology and an excuse. You have to get to the bottom of it before you can move on or you will always have doubts. Good luck!
2006-07-27 03:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't that is the problem trust is gone and very hard to get it back. You have to decide on if you want to take another chance or not. You said that he said that he was sorry now my question is this" Is he sorry for doing it in the first place or sorry that he got caught?"
2006-07-27 03:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a hard thing to rebuild once it's shattered. Mine did it 2 more times on me...sometimes mistakes happen and changes are made, but usually not as in my case. Therapy and counseling might help, but not always. Think you'll have to step back and re-evalute. Only you know him and the circumstances. Good luck.
2006-07-27 03:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is once trust is broken it is so hard for the person who broke it to regain it once again!!
You will always have the "what if" I believe that it will take a long time before you won't question his every move if you ever stop questioning it!!!
2006-07-27 03:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to "prove" to you that he can be trusted again. He better be ready to do that...explain to you where he is 24/7 & basically be joined to your hip until he has earned your trust back. He brought it upon himself for being such a jack-a$$!!!!! Good luck girlfriend...and remember that you have the upper hand now!!
2006-07-27 03:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by smarteepants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to decifer if it was an emotional or sexual affair. I think you can have a sexual affair, and still love your spouse. The real decision is if you can forgive and forget. If you forgive him, you have to move on, which is a very hard thing to do. Good luck to you.
2006-07-27 03:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by tear streaked angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just trust him..........there are certain things that cannot have a back up...it is one those kind....make believe till YOU really fall in love with him again.. God Bless Both Of You
Your marital life is not only depending on your husband faithfulness but also ur Faith...that;s what mom tells me when we discuss about cases like yours
2006-07-27 03:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Good Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really can trust him again but all you can do is try to believe him!
2006-07-27 03:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by TheDime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant trust him ne more. He willing broke your trust and faith in him one time. Ask him how would he feel if you made the same mistake? would he be able to trust you and take I am sorry ?
2006-07-27 03:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him last chance...i know what u feel i felt it also.i gave him a chanced..but its not work it out...i always thinking what he did to me even he did his best for me after what happened. its seem like glass its already broken u cant turn it back ..then if u feel u still painful about what he did?leave him...u never regret...then open ur heart who someone to enter...maybe its a right person to u.good luck...
2006-07-27 03:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by lougrace127 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋