Should I bail out of this relationship now before I get hurt bad?

Question

My boyfriend was drinking so much in 2003, he ended up in the hospital in organ failure. He was in ICU for 31 days. He had pancreatic damage and now is a bad diabetic. He stopped drinking after this for about 2 1/2 yrs and last fall his daughter, her alcoholic husband and 2 little kids moved in and he started drinking with them. He thought he could control the drinking, but it has gotten out of hand. He is not a mean drunk, or abusive or sloppy, He is the kindest, sweetest person I have ever met. He is very good to me and I am soooo worried about this. I never see him drink, but know he is doing it because I can smell it on him when he sleeps, and he sweats it.
I am afraid he will die, and I will be left without my heart and soul. I have tried to talk to him about his drinking and he agrees it is a problem.
I never drink with him, but what can you do? He cannot see the light. Daughters family has moved out. She said "he would have started drinking anyways"

Answer 1

Sounds like you are already hurting from this relationship. Obviously you care a lot for him. He stopped once. He can do it again. The only way that he was motivated to stop last time was when something traumatic happed that showed him how serious his problem is. It may require something just as serious this time, meaning you walking out on him. If he sees you are serious enough about this to be willing to leave him if he doesn't control his problem, he may be motived to get help. If you care about him (and yourself) you'll do whatever it takes to help him help himself. It's easy for me to give this advice because I'm not in your situation. I know it will be difficult but it may be necessary. I wish you the best with whatever you decide to do.

Answer 2

I believe you must get a divorce - a minimum of for now, however now not given that the tarot playing cards or horoscope say so (that is a host of bullcrap and any one who buys into that's very naive - no offense). The challenge to your courting is that he watches porn, it bothers you and he lies approximately it. I can remark in this truthfully given that I was once as soon as the fellow who regarded porn and my female friend on the time learned it. She broke up with me and that was once the catalyst for me to difference. Porn destroys relationships. There are men who get to the factor in which they are not able to even "get it up" with out porn and no girl must ought to are living that manner. Your boyfriend demands to take exact steps to be dependable to you (whether or not it is subscribing to a few type of web clear out on his pc to dam that stuff, ditching the web altogether, or looking for a few type of counselling for this). If you notice him making alterations, provide him yet another hazard (my ex did not till approximately a yr later and via then I had already moved on). Take this significantly even though. Most humans will let you know porn isn't any colossal deal, however they are unsuitable approximately that. Ask a lady who is needed to are living with a husband who watches it at all times.