Even when he knows the mariage can not work anymore because they have tried many times, he is still unsure about getting a divorce.
2006-07-27 03:25:02 · 27 answers · asked by Sweet_Pea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO. STAY OUT OF IT.
2006-07-27 03:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by seezer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would risk being just a rebound for him, but a lot of people are unsure about getting a divorce...not because there is hope for the relationship, but because a divorce can feel like the ultimate kind of failure....nobody likes to be a failure...I dated, moved in with and eventually married someone who was going through a divorce (we actually married on the day his divorce was final), and that has been 6 years ago...you just have to really decide whether or not you are happy with the situation and go from there...
2006-07-27 10:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't myself...only because I would be so scared of getting hurt...especially if he's not entirely sure about getting the divorce in the first place.....he will be grieving for quite some time I'm sure....I know it's not easy to turn off your feelings if you feel particularly close to him but think of the big picture....do you really want to put yourself in that position?? It would be a different story if he didn't have any qualms about the divorce but if there are still feelings there towards his wife.....you won't feel very secure in your relationship I'm sure....there will always be doubt there for you and a constant nagging that he's still thinking about her or wanting to be with her. Do you know what I mean?
I don't mean to sound harsh, it's just that it's a very delicate situation and all in all, you might feel better backing off until you know your sure about this one!
Good Luck to you!!
2006-07-27 10:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wait until he is actually divorced and ready for a relationship. Everyone needs to find themselves again after a divorce. Instead of becoming his girlfriend how about just being a good Friend that will listen, have a good shoulder to lean on, and go out for some fun with (leave the sex and relationship stuff out of it for now). You never know becoming good friends first might lead to a better relationship later when he is really ready for one.
2006-07-27 10:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He's still married and this can create a lot of problems in any new relationship he has.
If the marriage cannot work anymore, get a divorce first and then look to date others.
Husband, wife, girlfriend are ingredients that are a recipe for a disaster if you try to date him.
2006-07-27 10:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew what I know now I would have never allowed a gf to get involved with me while in the middle of my divorce...she was perfect, everything I was missing in my marriage...but when she wanted more I couldn't...and this dilemma created such conflict that I immediately categorized her as being as difficult as my ex and let a good thing fad away.
2006-07-27 10:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the answer should be "no". He is still married and you and him would be committing adultery, which is something you may not want to do. You really shouldn't be associating even slightly intimitely with a married man.
Besides this why considering falling in love with a man that is unsure about his own wife. If he is like this with her don't you think he might be like this with you?
2006-07-27 10:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by waiting4u2believe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the papers are in the works why not..I was married for alot of years and when she took off with another guy,I need someone outside of my friends and known circle to keep living with,ie
movies,to cook for,and just to hang out with not just the usual rebound sex...
There are real good men ( yes I KNOW we are all dogs to some)
that are still alive after or during a divorce,,,'''
just be careful dont get into the back and forth ones trying to still make it work you are either all the way out or dont get involved..there are ways to go in public records to see if divorce papers have infact been filed.if not stay clear....
JMO from my life hey I was one of the good ones.....
2006-07-27 10:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by candiesman05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see this as a good situation for you. He is not ready for divorce and is still holding on to his wife. I feel that he can't commit himself to you emotionally. If he is that unsure than something is still there.
2006-07-27 10:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by bmbradford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only date him if all you want is just that....dating. If your thinking about getting serious or starting a long term relationship you are just looking to get hurt. On second thought, better you date someone else. He's got way too much emotional stuff going on.
2006-07-27 10:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO
Wait until everythign is over and official. Give him some time so you aren't rebound.
He may still go back to his wife.
This is not something you need/want to be a part of.
Tehre are plenty of single guys out there.
2006-07-27 10:28:38 · answer #11 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋