why do i worry and how do i put an end to it?

Question

me and my girlfriend are very serious about our relationship i know this is the woman im going to spend the rest of my life with. i have given her everything ive made her my world, as she has with me. my problem is i always have a fear of loosing her or being hurt. i have never been like this with any other girl but i feel this way with her, i worry about her finding someone better or loosing feelings. i dont always feel this way its just every once in a while it hits me hard. i trust her more than anyone else on this earth i just dont want to feel this way anymore and i have talked to her about this and she always makes me feel better but i cant keep feeling this way. how do i get past these feelings?

Answer 1

It's perfectly normal to feel this way from time to time. It's fantastic that you talk about it with your girl, too. However, if it occupies too much of your time or interfers in your relationship, consider talking to a counsellor about why you feel this way. In the US you can call 1800-doctors to find a counsellor near you. Also there may be a clergy person who can help you.

You may not be ready to settle down. Jealous feelings often come from personal feelings of inadequacy, so maybe your heart is telling you to wait?

Answer 2

If it has not happened then dont worry! Havent you heard the saying "let sleeping dogs lye?" If you keep worring it will eventually happen. She will get tired of it. Then when she is gone your going to wonder why you didnt use the time with her wisely and enjoy and be happy together, as you should do, now. Even if it does happen, you cant stop it, so make the best of what you have now, then you will know, that you put everything into it and it was not your fault. People do change over time, accept the changes, work with it or do like you are now, and keep cutting that wound deeper.

Answer 3

Examine yourself: Have yo had a loss in the past, a parent or other loved one go away and desert you? If not, you might be picking up on a spiritual problem between you and your girl friend. You could be commitment phobic and using this as a way out of the relationship. There are s many reasons like being insecure or not having deveoped trust. Pray and ask the Lord to help you figure this out.

Answer 4

Just as you are Edna ( i can't stand her blah). Anyways, To get rid of that feeling. You always know that there is a possibility that anything can go wrong and you have every right to be worried. I think you should focus on the positive aspect of what you already have instead of focusing on the fear of her leaving. You have to put that negative out the window by having that positive reinforcement within yourself.

Answer 5

How old are you man? If ur between 15 and 21, ur moving WAY WAY too fast. Im 19 and ive never had feelings like that before. u should not be lettin somethin like that bother you. The only thing im concerned about right now in my life is my money and my future college education. If you keep worrying her about it, then that is what will make her pull away from you.

Answer 6

I think your feelings are normal. When people get in a serious relationship, I think it is only natural to experience some fear, doubt, and insecurity. I think you have already answered your own question. You discussed your feelings with your girlfriend and she keeps reassuring you. Dont beat yourself up about this.
When you start feeling this way, just change your thoughts to something more positive and those insecure feelings will go away. Continue to keep the lines of communication open with your girlfriend and be grateful that she is so understanding.

Answer 7

Its because you love her, honey! You've dated other girls before, but you did not love them. So they did not affect you so much. But you love this girl and she's the world for you. Without her, you feel you would not be the same. That is why you worry about losing her- what it would be like without her. This is normal! She probably feels the same way. If you want to, you could tell her that you love her and you never want to be without her...chances are, she'll tell you she feels like that too, and hearing her say that will make you feel better, confirming that you're not alone in this! It's both of you...and that's perfect because you have each other!

Answer 8

Insecurity is not uncommon but is a self-fulling.

You must correct this problem or it will probably eventually destroy your relationship.

The first sentence of your statement is not true. You are not that sure of the relationship and it's ability to survive.

Most likely she is doing some things that trigger this response from you. You should identify these triggers and learn to deal with them properly.

Chances are that her friendly relations with other men, although innocent, are the triggers.

These things may be not innocent for some people but innocent for her. You have to convince yourself that her feelings are for you and not someone else. It may take her help.

Answer 9

You really love her!

One thing you can do is see if there is a pattern or trigger that makes you feel insecure about her love for you.

Examine those occasions when you felt that way, what happened?

Once you see what makes it happen you can begin to address the problem in a realistic way. Overtime those feeling will be less and less. They may never go away completely, but you will not be so concerned about them.

God Bless and Enjoy Your Relationship!

Answer 10

We do not use fear to "recruit". It is nothing like the terrible, false, hellfire doctrine that cause so many to fear death and even turn away from God because they can't connect it to a loving God. We are there to share the wonderful fact that Jehovah God is going to bring an end to this wicked system with all it's sufferings and restore the earth to the beautiful paradise the way He purposed it to be from the beginning. Psalms 37:9-11 ,29 ; Proverbs 2:21,22 . Jesus said, "The meek shall inherit the earth". The meek are not proud, haughty, violent, hateful people who harm others. They are good, kind, peaceful people who are happy to obey God and live by His standards. Wonderful changes will take place under the kingdom rule of Jesus. Revelation 11:15; 21: 3,4. This is the kingdom Jesus taught his followers to pray for saying, "thy kingdom come, thy will be done on EARTH as it is in heaven". That is the "good news of the kingdom" Jesus said would "be preached in all the inhabited earth for a witness to all the nations and then the end will come". Matthew 24:14. The removal of all things that harm mankind shows God's love for humans. We desire to share the wonderful promises of God with the hope that they will be moved to love him and want to serve him. We don't serve God out of fear. We serve him out of love and appreciation for all he's done and will do for mankind and especially for the ransom of His dear son, Jesus Christ.