My boss told me 5 min before time to go home that i had to get this lease done. (I work for a oil and gas lease broker) I called my husband and told him that i had to work late, he said whatever and hung up. I called him on my way home and he said for me to be ready for sex when i get home, he was not wanting sex he just wanted to see if i had slept with someone else, he thought that is what i was doing insted of working late. So when i a got home he asked if i was ready and i told him NO that he was just wanting to see if he could tell if i was with someone else. He got pissed off and left, went went riding around drinking beer. I dont know what time he came home the kids and i was in bed. What do i do???? I am sick of his crap, I was working late and I cant help it if there is stuff that needs to be done at the office. HELP any ADVISE?????????????????????????????????????????
2006-07-27 03:01:52 · 26 answers · asked by bdmrplemons 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Madam, you are married to a real moron. I've been through this same routine just once and I can tell you I was ready to strangle my wife. Especially since I was dog-tired and had been held mandatory overtime because a homicide had occurred and spent the next 18 hours at work. I had come home to shower, shave and get about 4 hours sleep before going back to duty and this is what was tossed up in my face.
If this continues maybe you should dump him. There's enough stress and such in a persons life without having these false accusations tossed up to you.
2006-07-27 03:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there have been no issues in the past then he should let this go. Try to explain to him ( note I said try, I know how men can be ) that this is part of your job and that he should not have a problem with it. He seems to have trust issues so explain to him that you are not interested in other men. As for the other problem explain to him how deadly a pissed off drunk can be on the road and encourage him to find other transportation before an innocent person gets hurt or killed.
2006-07-27 03:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband need to grow up. Now if you had a past of having affairs than I can see his lack of trust of you, but if he has no knowledge meaning you know within yourself you have been faithful then I say your husband need to grow up and face the real world that people do truly work late.
Only you know if his lack of trust of you is warranted. Now if your asking for a response and you haven't given the whole truth and nothing but the truth then you only have yourself to blame for his insecurities.
But if you know that he has no reason to not trust your reason for staying late then I feel you should find his behavior a cause for concern and demand he stops it or your marriage is on the road to being over.
I agree with you, I wouldn't have sex to prove whether I was at work or not and I wouldn't subject my boss to such ignorance in order to prove to my husband whether I was working or not.
Just suggesting- what if you was having a affair with the boss
would he tell your husband the truth. I suggest you leave your boss out of it and don't involve any one else in your husbands games unless they agree to be a player.
2006-07-27 03:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wanted and excuse to go out and do his thing.
Picking on fights and accusing your partner of cheating are clear signs that he is the one wanting to cheat and that is why he seems suspictious of you: To divert the attention to you and mislead you, when the real issue is him doing his thing and trying to conceal it.
Trying to explain is useless as it will make him more angry and it will get even worse. Keep an eye on him as he is mascarading his own doing by blaming it on you, so you feel guilty and strat thinking that if he now goes out with his friends and come home late and be an a$$hole is because is your fault. Don't belive this crap and keep your eyes wide open, as soon the excuse will be that he cheated because you cheated first with someone at work and yadayada.
GOO LUCK!
2006-07-27 03:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geee , Ive had this similar prob my self . But it was while i was visiting family in cali , while my wife was in new york . ill called her a few times while she was out with her friends drinking on the weekend. she sounder snockered and i worried she might do something dumb. then i called the same night again , and she didnt answer for like an hour. i was so sure she f'd someone. i didnt come out and say , i just beat around the bush, saying what the hell were you doing and so on. finally i came home and just said what the F@#$. then she told me that she loved me with all her heart , the thought of having sex with some one else is just sick. so all im trying to say is pour your heart out as to how much you love him and would never do anything to hurt him . it worked on me .
2006-07-27 03:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pay attention to him when he's trying to keep your mind off of what he's doing. He's the one more likely to be cheating and making a case by accusing you. It's a trick that seems to work more often with females than I'd like to say. I went through it for longer than anyone else would have tried to handle (31 yrs), and it's not worth it. Verify he's cheating, (check phone, check pockets, e-mail, etc.), and get out of the marriage, because it only gets worse.
2006-07-27 03:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like he was looking for an excuse to go out drinking. If he is a good father, and a good husband, I would just forget about it and try to get along. If he is an *** and this is a persistent behavior, probably time to whip out the big guns and not kill him, but get some marriage counseling.
2006-07-27 03:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be honest, his sick of your crap too. You both must have crossed each other in some form or fashion dear. This has been brewing for awhile...I'm sure that there are more parts to this story. You both must be adults about the situation and talk out your problems. Your marriage depends on this.
2006-07-27 03:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i am going threw the same thing at my house except my boyfriend shows up at my work and if i dont give him a tour around the office the thinks i wont because i dont want no one to see that i have a boyfriend well he gets mad at me and starts to fight with me saying that i am sleeping with the boss this is bull **** i am tired of it to you dont even know but i have tried to tell him to go but he wont he feels like he doesnt tourture me enough i hate it to i get so mad i start to throw things because what he is saying is so far from the truth but he belives his own lies that he master minds up in his head...this is typical i am done with him he just wont leave....if you want to talk more you can email me or check out my 360 page good luck you'll need it for when you go home
2006-07-27 03:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by barbie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you then he should trust you and if you didn't have kids i would say get a divorce but that wouldn't be fair to the kids so even though you shouldn't have your boss call your husband and tell him you were really working i would but try working it out for the kids its not easy being a kid with divorced parents i hope it works out between you two good luck
2006-07-27 03:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋