Someone posted a note on my car 'Your BF is fu*kin* me. Call me in this # to give u info'?

Question

My car was parked at my BF's house, I told my BF the content of the note (he told me to ignore it - probably from his EX's according to him). We've been together for 2 yrs, and I was really shocked and do not know how to handle the situation. I've been sleepless for 2 days now and I was really hurt. Shall I call the
girl to verify? I've lost the trust in him. what will I tell him if he calls me today? I have very low self esteem right now...Help

Thanks all for your advises. That brings me back to my senses :-)

Answer 1

Well to tell you the truth! I would have to really sit back and think about how this other person must really think that your boyfriend is very special to them!

Anytime some one else takes out the time to put that note on your car then, i would simply start looking sexier! Doing what ever it takes to make me feel good and to keep my boyfriend very very happy! Now is the time to have lots of fun with the man you have and make sure that no one else will get him!

Do not lose sleep over this situation please! because all beautiful women need their beauty sleep and it would be wise of you not to have any negativity with your boyfriend right now because thats what the other person wants!

Now make your self extra pretty today! and enjoy your blessings and your boyfriend!

Answer 2

The truth is always present in any situation. Words can cover or expose it.
Since now the trust you have had is in doubt, you will probably feel as if you are being disloyal if you call.
What is this knowledge worth to you? Do you want this relationship to continue?
For peace of mind, I would call and settle the matter. Why cause yourself misery?
Call the number and ask why you were left the note, and go from there. Get the facts.
This could be a cruel joke or the truth. Be prepared.
Stand firm in your belief that you do have the right to ask questions. Tell your boyfriend that very thing if the questions of loyalty and trust cause problems . Solve it.
Good Luck to you and God Bless.

Answer 3

I'd call the number and find out. It could simply be a prank and you might find it's the local McDonald's or some old lady or something. If you've never had any reason to not trust your boyfriend before, then it's likely you can still trust him now. Or it could be the work of his evil ex. You have to look deep into your relationship and think about whether he'd have the kind of opportunity to do something like this. So, call the number first and find out. Only you will be able to know if what they say is pure b.s. which I'm betting it is. Good luck and I hope it was just a bunch of dumb kids playing a joke.

Answer 4

OK !!!! Enough already ................You should give him the note. Make sure you have a copy of it. Call and investigate the situation.
Do not tell him you have called the # at all.

I know it's a lot of work....but if you really foresee the future with him....you better find out now. It's probably one of his very very jealous ex-girlfriends or even one of his own buddies who want you for themselves. Play it by ear.

The world is not as nice as it you to be. Friends use to respect each other and stand up for each others honor. Now a friend will destroy your life and brag about it in church.

Don't you think it was rather cowardice for them to leave a note on your car rather than knock on the door??

If he has never given you any doubt of his loyalty to you before....then resume as you were. But in the future pay more attention.

Answer 5

You are obviously having a difficult time with this. This may be JUST the reaction this person wanted from you. But, maybe not.
It is however, causing doubt in your mind, and you need to sort it out one way or another.
I would call this person, but not from my own phone, as then they have the power of having your phone #. This might not even be a ligitimate phone #. You won't know until then.
If this turns out to be a practical joke, then you can put it to rest. If it turns out to be the truth, then you now know, and can make the right decision on how you should handle your relationship with your boyfriend.
Until you investigate this more, it is not doing either of you any good.

Answer 6

I think you should call with your bf around and put the phone on speaker. tell him not to reply first, just to listen in on the convo and get his reaction. If he knows the girl, then find out how. if it was an ex, she may be jealous or he may be cheating. if he claims to not know the girl, then see if you can get information out of her about him. ask her stuff she would only know if she did sex him up, like if he shaves or not, or any birthmarks around there, or just info in general. find out what time she claims it happened last, and see if it has any credibility, like if you were with him at that time or if it was possible at all. Do it with him though and dont let him speak into the phone, only let him listen. if hes willing to hear it, then its a good sign. if he doesnt want you calling, then somethings up. give him a chance to admit to anything before you call, and write down or record stuff she says. afterwards question him on any of it you're not sure about. or even let him ask you questions to ask her while you're on the phone so he can try to clear himself.

the only other 2 options are take his word for it if you trust him, or dump him

Has he been acting differently lately, that could be a sign.

Do and believe in whatevr you feel is right. definitely call the girl, and if you feel shes just being jealous, then go with it. if you feel like shes telling the truth and he cant back anything up, then believe her. If he says he was with friends, call the friends before he has a chance to talk to them to cover it up, and ask if he hung out with him that night. dont tell them that it was his excuse, just ask if they hung out. so it with him.

This kind of investigation can get messy though if hes telling the truth, because it will mean that you didnt trust his word at first and that hurts a relationship, but it will help you decide if hes lying or not

Answer 7

if you arent sleeping & it is ruining your life, you hafta call the number. it could very well be a fake or made up number & you wont even have to deal w/ anyone. if it is real though, then you need to know. it might be hard for you, but pull it together to make the call. & if things dont work out, you'll find someone better. my guess though is that the note is a fake from some mean spirited troublemaker...

also, you could try a phone number look up site on the web. google for one of these... you can sometimes get a name from a number.

Answer 8

Of course call! Do you think he would want you to call. Don't tell him or any boyfriend about a note like that````just call, then watch wait and listen! Be on the look out or if the caller has enough information and you can tell they are sincere just dump him right way```` just release him. If if were me, I'd tell him I no longer want to be in a relationship with him. Forget the pity party move on thee are plenty of fish in the seas especially ones that just want ot have sex without marriage. Save yourself.

Answer 9

If u don't trust him than u shouldn't be w/him.. but i would most definitely call the girl 1st.. ask her questions like what does his house and room look like? tell her to describe their relationship, parts of his body like birthmarks or tatoos.. Ask her where did they spend there time together and if it sounds like she's telling the truth then u and her should confront him together.. but if she knew about u then she not gonna care unless she catching feelings.. unfortunately some girz r just grimey like that... but don't get emotional in front of her and if she's telling the truth buss him w/something and LEAVE him..

we girz always have the tendency to forgive, take him back and then he does the same thing over again and it becomes a cycle..

Answer 10

wow if you've lost your trust in him from a "note", you probably didn't trust him to begin with, or you are very shallow...call this number and get the hoots, ask a ton of prepared questions on his actions, physical make-up and other personal questions only someone with carnal knowledge would know. Then rip the letter up, especially if it's from a mean old ex. Or rip his balls off:P