It's my 24th birthday...I'm 4 months pregnant and my hubby and I had a huge fight yesterday. Appparently he's not talking to me so I didn't even get a "Happy Birthday" from him this morning!
Although I guess I should be happy anyway since my parents and brother and sister in law already called me to say happy birthday. That just leaves him! I'm so sad!
By the way the only reason I'm crying about it is because I've been having a bad few months. Well that and I'm pregnant.
2006-07-27 02:35:25 · 28 answers · asked by hotrod luvin princess 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Happy Birthday Beautiful!! Things do get better, think about how beautiful your child will be when you first hold him/her in your arms. Giving life is beautiful, and thats why women are beautiful. Again.. Happy Birthday
2006-07-27 02:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by surf_jayme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, congratulations on your pregnancy - what a joy this must be.
Then, Happy Birthday!
Please don't be angry too long. There is an old saying that you should never let the sun go down on your anger. There is a reason for this. The longer an argument lasts the more hurt feelings there are. Then, one person tries to out do the other in the hurt department until there is bitterness. Men have a tendancy to stay angry longer - it is a matter of control. Men are like that, and there is really no excuse for this.
You will find that once he comes back to his senses he will realize that he has hurt you and will come back trying to make up for this. Your role in this is to tell him how you feel, and make a deal with him. From this point on, you will not go to bed until you two come to a census and an agreement. Believe me when I say, my wife and I have pulled all nighters because we made the commitment to not go to bed angry at each other. You will be surprised at how quickly you learn to reconcile and become close after an argument.
We argue all the time, but the arguments are more disagreement than fighting, because we have learned that each of us are individuals who are allowed to have our own opinions. Once I learned that there were times my wife's opinion differed from mine and that it is okay to disagree, I learned that arguments came when I was trying to convince her I was right. Realizing this has made life so much sweeter with the woman I chose to live out the rest of my life with. It gave me the freedom to appreciate her more.
I know that it is your birthday, but try bringing your husband flowers and tell him you love him. Tell him you think you are still right, but he has a right to his opinion and he will get the message that this goes both ways. I bet you will get more than the words Happy Birthday from him! You may get showered with gifts and appreciation from him.
2006-07-27 09:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by gratifythespirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is all about commitment and love . No matter who was wrong in the first place , you should forgive and forget . One small step can make a huge difference . Start by talking to your husband . He , afterall , loves you and may be too proud to make the first move .
Its not wrong to cry , you need to relieve yourself from all the daily events . Its hurting , especially that the person whom you care most doesnt wish you a "Happy Birthday"
But I think you shouldnt worry too much , he's your husband and the person who loves you!
Be mindful of your health at the same time . Hope you'll have an eventful pregnancy and give birth to a healthy baby!
2006-07-27 09:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by wintergal2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad of your Husband to treat you this way!!!!
If i have a fight with my wife, no matter how bad it is........ i will never go the extent of not wishing her on her B'day!!! In your case, when you are pregnant, its a CRIME!!!!!!!! You need and deserve a lot of love!!!!! Someone needs to pound some sense into your Husband!!! Even if you were at fault, he should have wished you, first thing in the morning!! And could have clarified about your fault later!!! thats how i would have done!!! Anyways, i hope that you two will get over it!!! Wish you a Happy Birthday and wish you all the best for the pregnancy!
2006-07-27 09:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by nice_libra_guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
That is not the only reason your upset about it Dear, YOUR PREGNANT!! your hormones are all out of whack... hehe
He will come around, the fight couldn't have been that bad.
I know the feel my birthday, was in June and my hubby didn't even remember until he heard someone else tell me Happy Birthday!!
I was upset also!
GL and Hope your day gets better!!!!!
2006-07-27 09:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by cenaldora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!! I'm sorry you and your hubby are fighting. Give it a few hours.. he may just surprise you when he gets home. Don't worry about the crying bit.. happens when you're pregnant.
2006-07-27 09:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by knifelvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
< Musical interlude > Happy Birthday to you ! Happy Birthday to you !.......
I understand. I've had to throw myself my own birthday dinner every year, sometimes with a toddler who couldn't care less and my husband out of town and calls me up drunk. Or, with an infant who spits up on my silk blouse that I wore to make myself feel better. Or, with a broken ankle and a child who refuses to make me a birthday card and my husband badgering the child to tears about it. But, enough of me ! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU !
By the way, I'm glad that you realize that your hormones are playing a part in your chagrin. It might get better. Maybe hubby will come home tonight with flowers and an apology. ( Hey, you got to have hope )
Happy Birthday !
2006-07-27 09:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAPPY BIRTHDAY hotrod! You picked the wrong time of year to have an argument I guess. Well you can bet he has thought about you....just still mad so not ready to make up.
He will be back.....don't give up on him.
And if this had not happened none of us out here in never never land would not know it was your birthday.
See there is always a bright spot.
2006-07-27 09:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy birthday !!!!! Try not to focus on the fight that you and your hubby had !focus on the fact that God has blessed you and has granted you another year!!! You know in these days and times we are blessed ever time God grants us another year here on earth because somebody didn't wake up this morning! Concentrate on the wonderful life that you have growing inside you and pray that God allows you and hubby to make amends and you will by the end of today I'm sure he loves you !!!God bless you and your family!!!
2006-07-27 09:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Honey, I would love to meet you, A good woman needs to be taken care of. A real man wouldn't leave you or even treat you bad, especially if your carrying his baby. Happy Birthday
2006-07-27 09:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Josh S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋