I have been married for the past 30 years to a man I can call an exploiter. He keeps on saying that he loves me so much and yet he is never there for me and the 5 beautiful sons he has fathered with me. I have suffered to bring my children up in terms of food, school, clothing and their everyday needs. I have now decided to devorce him. He has really made my life very miserable. I now want to be free of him.
2006-07-27 01:21:47 · 11 answers · asked by sweet 12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't say that this is just men. People in general need. We all heard the saying 'you shouldn't give to recieve', but I'm afraid we are all guilty of it. Thats being human, no-one can explain. Have you heard the saying 'lifes too short'? Take the advice girl and try not to worry so much, be grateful for life and enjoy it. Bin him.
2006-07-27 01:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Triis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are SELFISH. They become experts at controlling others by directly, soliciting the behavior they are seeking from their partners such as verbal compliments, romantic gifts and public displays of affection in order to get sex or help with finances. After these culprits have gotten the best of what they want from one source, they often become bored or tired of what they already used up. Therefore they select a new victim to move in on. Everyone changes as they age, unfortunately, the female body tends to show more signs of wear, naturally, due to pregnancies and hormone changes that support pregnancy than does the male body. However, some males fail to realize that physical beauty diminishes for ALL women as well as for all men, across the board and that one day, they will no longer be young and handsome either. Sadly, nature has not given these cads a biological clock to control their wanton sexuality, capricious selectivity and infinite indecision about suitable mates and young females are not taught this lesson until it is too late for them to do anything about it. Get free of him. It is better to suffer alone than to be exploited. Best wishes to you.
2006-07-27 08:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, it's too bad what happened to u but u kno some guys r down rite manipulative, have u ever thot why u got into the relationship with him in the 1st place?
Go back n see if ur not messin up somewhere as well , it takes 2 to tango u kno
2006-07-27 08:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just don't know how to love they think it is just a word to get what they want. I think you win in this deal though, your five beautiful boys will know who was there for them, who struggled to make their lives good and respect you for it. He will never get that kind of love or respect from the boys. Maybe your husbands parents were like that as far as not loving to him. good luck in whatever you decide and keep on loving your children. also don't talk bad about dad in front of them.
2006-07-27 08:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone in Nealy the same position and I think you should find some one who does admire and love his children and will give you the love you have been missing out on, there are a few good men still left ....good luck and I hope you find one but make sure you don't hurt anyone along your way it will make you as bad as him
2006-07-27 16:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for seeing the light after so long. Set yourself free and go for it girl, ...cos that's what I'm about to do to. No point in staying in a loveless marriage or miserable relationship and playing a game of pretence.
Here's to the future...good luck!
2006-07-27 12:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that's how you truly feel, go for it. 30 years is a big investment. think long and carefully before you do it though. there had to be love somewhere for you to stay as long as you did. ask God to guide you on which ever way you take.
blessed be,
elizabeth
2006-07-27 08:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have those divorce papers in your hand, you will be free of him. Had he been a better husband and father, he would not of lost you. It's his loss, not yours.
2006-07-27 08:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people get their jollies making other people unhappy... Now it is time for you to go out there and get some fun for yourself...
Find as many guys as you can and get yourself laid... :D
2006-07-27 08:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats life & thats men im afraid my dear...life is full of people just out for what they can get thats why i never trust anyone x x
2006-07-27 08:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by devine_gem22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋