I have been married for the past 30 years to a man I can call an exploiter. He keeps on saying that he loves me so much and yet he is never there for me and the 5 beautiful sons he has fathered with me. I have suffered to bring my children up in terms of food, school, clothing and their everyday needs. I have now decided to devorce him. He has really made my life very miserable. I now want to be free of him.
2006-07-27 01:18:02 · 6 answers · asked by sweet 12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people are selfish, it can't be helped. Good luck with the future.
2006-07-27 01:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its a very harsh reality but it does go on-- for both men and women. They do have this attitude that things in life are easy to come by and dont work for it.
It seems to me that your soon to be ex husband is just like that, easy to bring these children into the world but not man enough to stick around and give the love they deserve. Give yourself a pat on the back for starters because you have had the task of being both Mum and Dad to these boys.
It's a hard slog on your own and perhaps you sat there time after time and said to yourself maybe I can do this alone- but you have had no choice because he's never been there to support you.
You did the right thing
Good luck, you gave him 30 years and 5 lovely sons- he should be grateful
2006-07-27 12:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I hope you have a better future.
Please don't blame yourself, should you be doing so, as this man was like he is now before you met him. While you've been married he's been able to work out the best way in which in can exploit you. You have given him heirs and provided his food and comfort. It's far too late to change him now so IF you no longer love him, divorce is your only option.
2006-07-27 08:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by FontOfNoKnowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are people like that? they do it because they can. no one has ever stopped them. in your case, he sounds particularly selfish, if the kids didn't even inspire him to be involved with his family. sounds like you've more than given this marriage the "old college try." i suggest you pursue the divorce. go for it. after all these years, he's not going to change. i suggest though, that you get some counseling to help you with this transition. this will help strengthen your resolve, and ensure that you don't fall into this sort of relationship again. you deserve to have the next part of your life be happy. good luck!
2006-07-27 08:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on you girl
Get on with it
Have a good life for yourself
But always think of the kids first.
its called
DUMP THE LUMP
2006-07-30 08:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by itsa o 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you r not ready yet ... i believe there is work still to be done .... you both need to get out of life what you both need and want from a relationship ... if you dont know that you did your best you'll regret it.
2006-07-29 13:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋