also, how much money a year were you and your spouse both making, what jobs, and how old were you? this imfo will be very helpful for me, thanks a lot!
2006-07-27 01:14:37 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Took me and my husband four years to have a successful pregnancy and birth of our child. One miscarriage and major female health issues impeded the process. Took lots of patience. We were both in our early thirties. Making around $60,000 a year I guess; blue collar jobs.
2006-07-27 01:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We waited 7 years after we were married. I was 28, and my husband was 31 when I got pregnant. We both say now that we would have had children sooner if we had known how much we would enjoy being parents (we now have three girls).
I think your other questions are kind of irrelevant. There is really no perfect time to have children and no perfect situation. Some people have children with very little money and do fine. Others have lots of money and are miserable. What's most important is that you feel like you can offer your child some stability. Some of my friends waited years and years to have kids, hoping for more money or to own a house, etc, only to find they waited too long and could not get pregnant.
It's important to know that it's generally easiest for a woman to get pregnant before 25. After 25, it starts taking longer for most women to get pregnant. By 35, it usually takes women twice as long to get pregnant as it would for her at 25 and it keeps going on from there. While many women get pregnant in their 40's (I had a baby at 41), many other women find that they cannot get pregnant in their 40's.
Don't wait for just the right situation because it may never come.
2006-07-27 10:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok accidently got pregnant of my homeymoon, we were making 37,000 combined and just out of school getting ready to move across the counrtry for a new job. We were 28 and 29.
additional info: it worked out ok beacuse my hubby was just about to get a higher paying job and it has allowed me to stay home for the last year however, it was very stressful being in transitoin. If i could give any advice, it would be to have children when you are settled in your own life (place, emotionally, etc) and you have enough money to be able to make a choice to work or stay home. its nice to have the choice. Don't get me wrong, we live without a lot of the extras because i am not working and we do not have a house but my baby and I are happy about being with each other all day!
Everyone is different and has to make scarifices and choices once they start having kids, be realistic and decide what will work for you and more importantly the baby!
2006-07-27 09:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by tara t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, lol, My husband and I had only been together for 3 weeks when I got knocked up, I was 18 and he was 20...........we have now been together for almost 5 years and have 2 beautiful children, trust me we were flat-*** broke the first couple of years, we arent exactly rollin in the dough now but he has a decent job and I am a stay at home mom, he is also a full time student and i will also be next year when our son heads off to kindergarten and our daughter to pre school, GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-27 17:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband & I were married for 4 years before having our first daughter. We actually started trying after year 2, but I had blocked tubes, so it took a little longer than we had planned. We lived in a 2 bedroom apartment & didn't make a lot of money at the time. My husband made about $25,000 a year & I only made about $13,000 a year, so I stayed home after having my daughter 'cause it would have taken all of my salary to pay for infant day-care if I wanted to go back to work. To try to compensate for me not working, my husband took a second part-time job in the evenings & I did medical transcription from home for a local doctor.
2006-07-27 11:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Beanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were married for 3 and a half years when our daughter was born. My husband was 30 and I was 26. He is a realtor. Makes about 60K after fees, but before taxes. I am working on my doctoral degree in clinical psychology and had just been working part-time when she was born (because I was in school full-time). I was making about 10K a year (not much!) Since she has been born, I have been in school part-time, but havent gone back to work. I go back in a couple of weeks (she is six months old now). I planned to go back after she was 3 months old, but she wouldnt take a bottle (I am nursing) so I couldnt leave her. So basically, I have been a stay at home mom, doing some schoolwork on the side. It has been tough, but doable - also, I have rheumatoid arthritis, which causes me alot of physical pain, so I think if I didnt have that, then I could manage alot easier. But, I am functioning! and my daughter is a joy!
2006-07-27 10:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by dixiechic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for 6 months pre-baby...no the math does not add up but yes it was planned. Combined income of 80,000/yr. My husband works for a credit union and I was a special education behavior disabilities para educator in a kindergarten classroom at the time, now I have my own in-home daycare. I was not quite 20 when I had my first child and my husband was almost 21. We had a small two bedroom house in a good neighborhood. We now are expecting our second and have a much bigger 3 bedroom house and only make about 78,000/yr but have no daycare costs...so it evens out.
2006-07-27 08:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married in Nov. of 2004 and had our first child in Feb 2006. I am a 20 year old student at a University and he is a 25 year old design engineer making about 50,000 a year. It doesn't matter how long you've been married or what age you are. If you feel you are ready in all aspects go ahead and good luck. It took us 6 months to get pregnant. And I love my little one to death!! =)
2006-07-27 08:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by scorpchickamy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We actually had our first child 2-1/2 yrs before we got married. We were early-mid twenties and were both working $7-8/hr jobs. It was a little bit rough. By the time we had our 2nd child, 2 yrs after we married we were making about $40,000/yr. It's not that difficult to do if you just decide not to "live large".
2006-07-27 10:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were married for 2 months when I got pregnant. I also have a 5 year old. And I have to be on bedrest, so we only have my husbands salary. which isn't very much. I am 24 and he's 27.
2006-07-27 10:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by hh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were married for around 9 months and decided to try. We were blessed to get pregnant right away. We then had our first daughter, 9 months after that.
So, she was born when we were married 18 months. Then our second came when we my first one was 2 yrs old. Then, our last "surprise" came when my oldest was 7yrs old.
I was 26 when I conceived my first, 29/30 with my second and 34 for with our last.
My tip, enjoy your marriage and your together time. Do as much as you can before you have kids. They are such a blessing, but everything else in your life changes completely.
2006-07-27 09:44:03 · answer #11 · answered by Golden Hair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋