we've 2gether for nearly 7 yrs and I love her deeply but I hate how she's been recently, we can't have a simple conversation without it leading to a big argument. I feel like i'm trying really hard but she just seems to get worse!
2006-07-27 01:14:32 · 40 answers · asked by Chez 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Leave her a letter on the table or something, and tell her that you really regret that the relationship has soured. Take her out on a date or do something really nice to let her know that you still care about her. And try to get into couples counseling if you both want to salvage the relationship. If she wants to break up with you, then just let nature take its course. But she may be upset for another reason and not mad at you at all. Talk to her and see if there's some major stressor in her life that she needs to talk about. Best of luck to you both.
2006-08-02 17:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by Rat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like she does not "like you" anymore,
or she is pregnant, (probably not)
i remember that sadly and not proudly, times when i had lost that "loving feeling" Everything about the person would drive me nuts, and i would pick on him, they coould do no right, It is an old and not an honorable behavior that some of us have used, so you can not stand a chance because every little habbit, noise, whine, or move you make will make her grouchy, bitchy, and pick a fight over something and it gets WAY OUT OF PERPORSHON,
This is because they are looking for an excuse to fight, and then make an exit,, and you don't know what is up..
(IF SHE HAS SOMEONE ELSE OR JUST DOES NOT LOVE YOU ANYMORE)
It can be cruel, and you can put yourself thru many changes and not know if you are coming or going,, so go
I Suggest that you sit down, be assertive and say, Now that you are angry, again, and i can do no right, lets talk about what is really going on inside you,,
that sounds easy but is is not,,and tell her, that you will "live" IF SHE HAS SOMEONE ELSE OR JUST WANTS TO BE FREE,, and maybe it is for the best,,
and if she denies this, than you have a chance for a clean gettaway,, tell her that her personality and yours are not so great, and you have become allergic to her personality, and she no longer has the qualities you want in a woman, and be nice and happy,,, even if it hurts, and just say, you are glad you found out, and it is for the best, etc you know, "stale" RELATIONSHIP AND you both are obviously not getting your needs met,
and go out and find a warm friendly, undemanding female
and have the fun you are missing and you will be fine,,
you will
good luck, just be kind and have class,, don't exit with ugly words, exit with self confidence, and maturity,,that is the best revenge anyway, to live well,,be happy and learn wand remember what you "don't want" IN A- RELATIONSHIP.
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2016-02-12 08:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Colby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant even have a simple conversation, it may already be over. Just remember what they always say; once the looks and charm are all gone, all you have left is conversation. So without that then what is there left. It sounds like you need to break it off, but you have to make that decision on your own. Good luck
2006-07-27 01:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tragic Remedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you've been with her long enought to know how she is. 7 years is a long time, but if one party is not happy it will never work... if she's always trying to start an argument with you she maybe cheating... but dont start thinking tht just yet... sit down and talk to her... tell her you want to talk and if you feel like it's going to turn into an argument you will walk away and you can contune the convo later, and tel her to do the same, tell her that you feel like your trying everything you can do to make this work and you dont really feel she wants to be there anymore... watch and listen to what she say's and u will get your answer as to what to do... watch to see if she can look you in your eyes when you ask her questions and express how you feel...
2006-08-02 14:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by T@J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to stay with someone for that length of time if they have not tried to build a future together. In traditional marriages there is usually some financial or familial reason to stay together. Have you bought a house together? Have you had children or adopted them together. With out these things sometimes a relationship can get old.
If you do not have these things at least it will be easy to get out of. If you do have these things in your life then both of you should try some couples counseling.
2006-07-27 01:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication and trust, if there is arguing all of the time, one of these things are missing if not both. It may be near the end. Try talking to her to see what's really bothering her. Although, you probably know that something's wrong, you can feel it. women usually do. If things don't change after that, I'm afraid you will have to end it. Remember this my favorite quote "Love has to be reciprocal. everyone gets their heart broken, but you definitely have to make sure that you're not giving so much and not getting." ---Alicia Keys
2006-07-27 04:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk calmly about it. But don't be ready to take a no for an answer. Remind her that you are trying to save this and if she not interested then it is really time to break up. I would still suggest separating for a short while to see how life is without each other.
Good luck.
2006-07-27 06:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't end your relationship without giving it a chance. You can't throw 7 years out of the window. Maybe you just need a bit of a break from each other. Wish you all the best of luck.
2006-07-27 02:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by La 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys should, just get some space right now. You have to understand that maybe, she's bored or not in love with you anymore and she doesn't know how to tell you, maybe she is scared that she will hurt you, especially being that you guys have been together for 7 years. You should be the bigger person and tell her, that you guys need your space, it will honestly do you some good, because maybe you both have things you need to learn about yourself. You both have probably lost yourselves in the process, and forgotten who you are. Good luck sweetie, you'll be fine!
2006-07-27 05:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋