My boyfriend and i were together for 2 years. Last year i found out he was cheating on me. He blames me for everything that has happened. I really don't know how to forget about him. I still love him and i miss him like crazy. He was never remorseful for what he did. I want him back but i know things will never be the same again. I just need to really learn how to let go and start on my own.
2006-07-27 00:49:59 · 6 answers · asked by bluerose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, it's rather normal to still love somene, even more than 2 years after you break up.
Don't bother going back to him, even if he does go back to you, the trust isnt there anymore. Be thankful he isn't remorseful, if anything it could be making it easier for you.
Actually I dont really think that cheating is as bad as other things he could be doing in a relationship.
There will never be an 'easy' way to forget anyone, you just need to have a special spot in your memory saved for him, and try to focus on things other than him.
If possible move away from the area he is in, if it's hurting you as bad as you think. Remove yourself from any situation where you might have a chance at seeing him.
I still think about my ex boyfriend every now and then, but something just clicked inside me one day. Any guy I dated I would unconciously compare them to him. Nobody was going to cut the mustard. It didnt stop me from having fun, but I just wasnt prepared for a long term relationship.
Then out of the blue, it was over just like that. I accepted it for what it is. A fond memory, a chapter of a book that may or may not be put into print one day.
It's ok to hurt, but make sure you are around things that you love and make you feel happy in the mean time. Differnt wounds take different lengths of time to heal... some even say it takes as long as you were together to get over them.
If that's the case, take some time out to enjoy yourself! Start a new hobby, learn a musical instrument or a foreign language.
Any spare time you have, use it to focus on that, rather than what could have been, but isnt.
2006-07-27 01:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by kara_nari 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, not sure. Go out with friends and meet other people. That is always the best way to go. You have to become social and learn to do things on your own. It is completely normal to go through what you're going through and I guarantee that he'll regret it for the rest of his life. I cheated on a girlfried that I dated from 15 - 18, I am much older now but it still hurts to this day. Don't worry, it's normal, keep your head up! The pain will always be somewhat there, it's the 'what if' factor. Good luck and meet someone new!!!
2006-07-27 00:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by John R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by finding something to keep your mind occupied so you are not thinking about him. Work out or learn a craft or hobby.
2006-07-27 00:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is live your life....life is way to short to waste your time like that...there is someone else out there that will fullfill your heart with love again....don't be afraid to love again....good luck and i know you can do this
2006-07-27 01:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by kissesandhugs36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll find out how to let go.. soon.. it will juz happen.. or maybe.. there is this kind of unexpected thing which may happen.. both of you might be feeling the same thing.. ryt?
2006-07-27 01:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by aiah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, its very hard to forget....but my advise to just pray to God that you will forget him..and enjoy your life...maybe one day, you notice that you forget him already..and go to a place that you cannot see him anymore and start a new life there....together with your family...and friends...
2006-07-27 00:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by lovelysweet082000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋