So I just broke up with my boyfriend about two weeks ago. We talked on and off and it always turned into a fight and we both agreed that it was because we werent over eachother and couldnt help but to bring up the past.(no cheating or anything, just that we were on totally different levels when it came to who put how much work into the relationship. It think he knows hes wrong and wont admit it. But I dont want to explain everything) We quit talking again about 3 days ago. Im now over him and fine. Now when I think of him Im not attracted to him and dont have the feelings that I used to have for him. Im also past hoping that we could work thigns out and get back together. We did both agree that we wanted to remain friends, just we needed time apart to get over eachother. We were together for a year and meant alot to eachother. The main problem is that hes not exactly an emotionally stable person.
2006-07-27 00:09:28 · 8 answers · asked by stevepuff19 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
should i wait until he contacts me or should I go ahead and let him know that Im ready to start talking whenever he is?
2006-07-27 00:10:03 · update #1
a friendship can work as long as we put the past behind us. Im not going to call him tomorrow or anything but I was thinking maybe a week or two. Ive brought up facts that prove him wrong and have asked him 100 times to prove me wrong and he always says he has no answer but refuses to agree with me. Hes very bullheaded and will probably wait 6 months before trying to contact me just to prove a point. I know that if my timing is right, we can be friends again in a month or so.
2006-07-27 00:37:56 · update #2
You are clearly the stronger of the two that you've been able to reconcile the break up, so quickly. If, as you've described him, he is less stable emotionally, then consider that he will likely need considerably longer.
Busy yourself with really moving on, being single, finding yourself a new love(r). For all your clear-thinking now, meeting up with an ex can really knock the world off its tilt - so best you find yourself a new rock to cling to (sorry for the over-extrapolation of this metaphor).
Besides, although you may have agreed to remain friends, there's no guarantee that (however much you both want this) it will happen.
2006-07-27 05:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long should you wait depends entirely on the two parties involved . You may be over him , but is he at the same place you are ? If so then go ahead and call him , let him know that you are ready to start talking if he is . If not let him contact you when he is ready to talk . No two people are exactly alike in their feelings and the time it takes to move on after a break up . If he is still getting over you then that may explain why he can't admit he was wrong . It's only been thirteen days it takes time to sort out the feelings for someone maybe give him a bit longer to do what he needs to do .Good luck .
2006-07-27 08:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I wanted to let him know that I was ready to resume the friendship, I'd send a card that said as much.
I, however, would, no matter how long you were together, move on completely. Why resume a friendship with emotional problems. If everybody has moved on, let it go.
You deserve a person
Make some new friends. The things you will experience, the things you will learn, and the people you will love in the future will make the past friendships and relationships seem like youthful nuttiness.
2006-07-27 10:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't wait you said your self that his not emotionally stable person you need some one who is stable and who is understanding I know this wil sound hursh but let it go this guy wont contact you,and if you are always fighting that's not a stable life you are still young and go out more and meet other people this guy doesn't know what he wants,at the other hand you know what you want.you want a stable relationship,Ever relationship has it's ups and downs Don't loose hope keep looking until you find the right person he is out there just keep looking
2006-07-27 07:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Faith Nelisiwe N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set this situation free to run its own course, and bloom as it will.
Set yourself free to embrace change and fresh opportunities.
Don't be in a rush for ANYTHING. Take it easy. Don't force matters. Just go with the flow and see the beauty of what blooms.
Allow your friend/s to do the same.
2006-07-27 07:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by My Big Bear Ron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on how important it is to remain friends. I personally could care less, if the feelings about him are gone, just let it go and see what, if anything happens.
2006-07-27 10:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by buldawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you went at length to point out you are soooooooo over him. So leave it at that. no skin off your nose and who knows you might be better off w/out this somebody who puts you in a compromising situation, who require explanations, and have to account to false accusations.
2006-07-27 07:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by rosieC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly over him then wait till he contacts you.
2006-07-27 07:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋