What is this "space" she told me not to bug her about the relationship cause she is thinking. She is deciding if she is staying or going. She does not know how long this will take her. We are both in counseling and we go together next week. The kicker is she wants me to sleep in a seperate bedroom. I don't get it...
2006-07-27 00:07:56 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give her the space and at the same time continue with the counselling. If you really love her, remember all marriages have ups and downs. Be patience and best of luck.
2006-07-27 00:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by j t 4 · 22⤊ 4⤋
At the moment, your wife is so upset with you that she is considering leaving the relationship. When she says that she needs her space, it means she does not want to see you around. Think back about the last couple of confrontations and problems you've had, how many of those are you at fault for? Try to think through her eyes, and you might figure out why she is acting the way she is. But most definitely, give her space if she wants it, and cater to her needs. If she's in the kitchen, ask her if she'd want some food or a drink of water, etc. But still, stay away for a while.
2006-07-27 07:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by minerva779 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if someone told me that, they'd have to go. I wouldn't wait around on someone to decide if they wanted to be with me or not. If space is what they wanted, then space is what I would give them and lots of it. They may not be able to decide but I would not have that problem deciding. And as for kicking me out of the bedroom...I don't even think so. They can be the one to leave cause I'm staying right where I'm at.
2006-07-27 07:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal experience is this; when a spouse begins to 'want space', and sleeping in another room he/she is usually on the way out...there are real issues when this comes about. When a woman begins withdrawing from her spouse there are specific reasons why....she may tell you she 'doesn't know' why, but usually she does. A lot of times it can be sexual reasons. Some women begin withdrawing because of lack of sexual appetite, or lack of lust for her husband/boyfriend....it usually goes way beyond just being mad or upset. Remember this; women are emotionally based. If a woman is very upset by something they usually are withdrawn and in turn it effects them in other areas of their lives, like sex...and in turn sleeping with her husband. Remember too, that women try to protect the ones they love, and may try to protect her partner by that withdraw. And the final thought...once there is a separation in rooms there is usually little chance of 'recovery'. My question, have you given her reason to 'withdraw'...genuine quesiton for you to answer alone, not to post here. There isn't always a 'reason', but think on it...and even more, has she done something to cause that separation?
2006-07-27 07:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by Bear C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her space and go to the counseling and see how that goes maybe it will change her mind also try doing little romantic things to make her happy and make her remember the person who she fell in love with when yall first met then things might get better. you never know in the meantime good luck sweety
2006-07-27 07:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~ Stormy Weather~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her and want it to work go to counseling maybe you will find out what is wrong, if she has her mind already made up that she wants to leave then there probably isnt much you can do but if she gives you any hint that you could work things out then try to, women are emotional and one thing you cant do is argue with emotions if you truly love her and your marriage is worth it give it some time i hope thing works out good luck
2006-07-27 07:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the space she needs. if you can salvage the relationship, explore that with the counselor. meanwhile, take the time "apart" to explore what the relationship means to you, and try to see things from her perspective. are there things you could be doing to improve the relationship? are you inspired to change? if so, do it, if not, draw up the papers. good luck.
2006-07-27 08:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she say`s i want my space she really means shes looking to see if the grass is greener on the other side ..i went thu counciling it didnt work 4 me.go out stay out late dont mope around let her think you are having a good time going out all the time she would feel jealous that your having a better time .
2006-07-27 07:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by hooarr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope for the best...prepare for the worse.
2006-07-27 09:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your OWN lawyer NOW.
2006-07-27 07:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mortis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋