my wife could not feed baby b'caz of no supply of milk . my baby is 3 weeks old.?

Question

baby drinks outside milk. is this a problems? how to solve this ? My wife is very mentally is in very negative stage of mind ? How to solve this?

Answer 1

The first thing you need to remember is to get the baby nurishiment and fluids, - never sacrifice on this.

#2 - Both you and your wife need to keep up a correspondence with your wife's doctor / pediatrician.

Answer 2

Have her call a Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) or a La Leche League Leader. A LLL Leader will help you for FREE and, with such a young baby, may even be willing to come visit her at home.

What makes her think she has no supply? Has she been pumping her milk? Pumping is NOT a good indicator of supply. A pump is man's best imitation of baby....a baby who is latched right will always get more than the pump.

Babies go through growth spurts at about 10 days, 3 weeks and 6 weeks. They nurse frequently at these times. It seems like they do nothing BUT nurse. It lasts 2-3 days in order to boost mom's supply and it's very normal.

Is baby gaining weight? Having wet and dirty diapers? If the answer to those questions is yes, then most likely there is not a supply problem. What does the baby's doctor say?

Your wife needs to relax, because being upset or stressed out can hurt her supply. She needs to concentrate on nothing but nursing the baby and resting and let other people take care of any housework or anything else that needs to be done.

There is a section on supply at the link below that will be very helpful.

The main thing to do is to NURSE NURSE NURSE. Breastfeeding is all about supply and demand. The more she nurses, the more milk she should have. A baby this age should be nursing every 2 hours around the clock.

(I have to get my kids on the bus but I may be back to add to this. DO NOT GIVE UP! She can do it!)

EDITED TO ADD:
Just read some of the other answers.....NEVER EVER EVER give a baby this young water. It can make the baby ill and fills the baby up with empty calories. Babies have a lot of growing to do and can't afford empty calories like water! NO WATER PLEASE!

ONE MORE THING:
Breastfeeding doesn't have to be an "all or nothing" decision. Work with an IBCLC or a LLL Leader to try to figure out what the problem is. If you wife truely has "no milk" (and how do you know this? it's pretty rare!) then she may still be able to bring in a supply if she wants. GET HER HELP! In the mean time, you can supplement with formula. She may be able to combine both or to transition back to full breastfeeding with help from a LLL Leader and/or an IBCLC.

Answer 3

Never feed cow's, buffaloes or goats milk to an infant. The tiny baby's stomach cannot handle that kind of nutrition. There are various formulas available in the market. Your baby's peadiatrician can recommend a good one.

But before giving up on breast milk, you should let the infant suck at the breast for some time, even if no milk is present. This constant sucking throughout the day and at night will kick in the milk secretion. Make sure the baby is getting enough of formula while doing all this. After my c-section I was given ayurvedic lacti-care tablets by my gynaec as my milk had not come. Till then my baby had formula. Meanwhile, I let my baby suck on in between. And then it started flowing. And next week she will be one with no formula, only breast milk.

Tell your wife to not worry as stress also diminishes one's ability to feed. This is a very common problem. And she can definitely breastfeed if she wants to.

Remember that the nutrition part will be taken care of by outside milk, but it is very essential that the baby also gets some maternal antibodies which are very essential in the first year of the baby's life and that can only be supplied by the mother. So keep trying.

Answer 4

this is no good all the vitamins an nutrients the baby need is in the breast milk the saying is breast milk is the best milk an a little advise would be not to use the enfermil products they contain alot of iron that the baby does need yet if u have to choose a milk i would suggest good start by nestle an also about the milk problem a doctor can cure that there are medication for that sort of thing an when the milk starts to flow get a breast pump it will be alot easier because the milk then to make the breast hard an sore well best of luck an enjoy parent hood hope this helped :)
(beware of teething most troublesome time bye) oh b4 i forget it also seems like ur wife is good through the post partem depression phase an she needs lots of love an comforting but she has to get help for that

Answer 5

cumin tea helps with the supply of breast milk... But there's a law when it comes to breastfeeding, "the law of demand and supply" The more your baby will nurse, the more breastmilk she will produce. Some babies are lazy and don't suckle vigorously, but in this day and age we have breast-pumps. There is no such thing as a woman not having milk... unless her breasts were amputated., or messed with such as implants or reduction... Otherwise, I recommend a Medela breast-pump, the professional one.. Many rent those. It's very important for baby to get the breastmilk... If by outside milk you mean cow's milk... that's pretty tough for a baby to digest. You shouldn't give a baby cow's milk until after the age of 1... That's the general consensus among pediatricians. It has toxins that will harm your baby in the long run...
There's a few researches about a correlation between babies fed on formula, and cow's milk ,and degenerative diseases such as diabetes, and heart disease...
Make sure you contact La Letche League in your area, they have them everywhere... and obtain more facts about breastfeeding...
Now your wife might have some postpartum depression, because it's not normal forr a new mom to be so negative... She should see a doctor, they have pills for depression that will not affect the baby... However, breastfeeding will release those hormones that will deal with her negativity in a natural way... The women do have those back fighters built in...
Whatever you decide, be content with your decision, and be supportive. You want a happy mom and baby, otherwise you add to the stress, and that just makes her body secrete more cortisol hormone which is bad for both mom and baby...... That bastard hormone is responsible for SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome), among other things..
I hope you find the right way that works for you. Don't do things out fo guilt, but do it as a decision that you make together.

Answer 6

You need to be very supportive of her. I had to stop nursing because my baby wasn't getting enough, and it actually was emotionally difficult. There is such a special bonding that goes on between mom and baby. It's not a problem to have the baby go on formula - make sure you've checked with the doctor for what to use - three weeks old is too early for regular milk, the baby needs formula. Your wife has a lot of hormones running around crazy in her body, you need to listen to her and be understanding, helping out in any way you can. A husband needs to be very loving at this time.

Answer 7

It sounds as though your wife may have a case of postpartum depression. A visit to her doctor is in order. For the baby, formula will be fine. Your little one will grow up happy and healthy on it. I had the same problem with my first son. I was unable to produce enough milk to satisfy him. He was nursing every 45 minutes for 30 minutes at a time. The extra 15 minutes he was screaming. After a few weeks of this we gave up and put him on a bottle, he was taking 24 oz every two hours at 3 weeks old. Another option is to have her nurse the baby, then follow up with formula this still gets the baby some breast milk.

Answer 8

If your baby is getting baby formula, that is better than plain cow's milk or other animal milk. Human milk is the best, of course. But if your wife is depressed, then her life could be in danger and so could your baby's. Sometimes breastfeeding can help a mother feel better, but sometimes not. She needs a loving person, especially a relative to be near her and help her at all times. She needs someone to make sure that she is getting nourishing meals, and someone to do the housework. She also needs to drink plenty of water. Sometimes babies need to nurse more often than at other times. She shouldn't feel bad if she thinks she doesn't have enough milk--if he sucks often, he is probably okay. If the baby has 5-6 wet diapers a day, he is getting enough milk. If it is hot weather, he probably needs more milk. He will drink because he is thirsty and won't get the fattening milk that comes later. When he is hungry, he will suck longer and get the more fattening milk that comes later. But if she is severely depressed, you will need a physician's help.

Answer 9

well, while breastfeeding is a great and natural thing, it is nothing to be discouraged about, but I am sure that if my milk doens't come in, i will be the same way. (not pregnant). but in the future. It provides the baby with a lot of nutrients, and so forth, maybe if she pumped it would help to bring in the milk a little more, and she could still bottle feed the baby.Breastfeeding is a big deal for mothers, that is there way of bonding. It is one thing that daddy can't do, and when the baby wakes up at night and is hungry, daddy can't fix it. Breastfeedinng itself can be painful for the moms, and she may need to talk to a lactiosonist, (i didn't spell that correctly). Well congrats on your little bunddle of joy, and try to help your wife, with out being TOOO helpful and let her do the bottle feedings, or at least a lot of them , where she can still have that bonding. As far as is it ok to use outside milk , yeah. take care, rest as much as you can.

Answer 10

I would suggest you to spend time with your wife more and check things like this with your doc instead of spending time in yahoo answers. Or search of parenting sites. She would have to try feeding her baby and the more she tries more she will be able to feed, she has to keep trying whether she can feed or not for few days. When the baby is hungry give water for first and then let her try and then if she cant feed let her give formula. But she has already done a big job and make her feel that she shouldnt be depressed. You have to be supportive all along. You can get some good parenting books like what to expect series.

( Update: to my knowledge in my experience with my kids, it is essential to give them water if they are on formula. If they are FULLY breast fed water isnt necessary. But if the baby is on formula the baby's has chances of getting constipated. So it is better to give a little bit of warm water before feeding with formula.

Less than a 2 ounce of warm water before each feed of formula will not make the baby full, the baby will surely cry for milk in just 15 minutes after having the water.

its good to try to nurse even though she cant feed yet becos she will love that feeling, and the thing about breast milk is that it is produced when there is a demand. for some itsnt necessary to try, but for some it is good to try and if that works and if it ameks the mom happy then there is nothing to worry. if it doesnt then you can just leave it and simply go on with formula.

there is really no subsitute for breat milk. it is simply indisputable. but if the mom cant give, then there is nothing to worry, she can always give the formulated milk. it is just important that baby is fed and nothing else.

she has to relax and thats why in our culture we go to mom's house for our first baby, and that is also one reason that most of our women dont get too depressed after having the baby unlike the women in the west. our women do feel comfortable when they are at their mom's place. if your wife is comfortable withher mom and if the mom is near, let her get the support from her mom too. it will be great if her mom is around.

Answer 11

Do not worry unnescessarily. By "outside milk" I think you meant feeding from another woman which is alright but there may be problem with mother-baby bonding. The best alternative of course is feeding your baby with milk formula (milk powder); many mothers feed their babies with milk powder which are specifically formulated for babies. I hope you are able to afford this for the well being of mother and child.