Why do people get married?

Question

Surley you do not need a ring or a chance to say that you are "married" to share your life with that special person?

I have freinds who have been together 25 years and feel no need to get married whatsoever. Also most couples who get married end up being divorced within the first 5 years.

im Not critisising marrige, Just interested to see what you all think?

Say what prem???? Do you speak English?

Michigan wife. As it is they are not religious, But marriage is not always compulsary to religion. Do you agree?

Or vice versa

Answer 1

I think people do it to make it harder for the other person to leave... think about it, if you're just dating or living together.. you pack up your s*it and you're out the door. If you're married.. there's divorce papers and lawyers and all that crap....

Or you can look at it from the perspective of a Christian. Lots of people live together before they're married.. but most of those people still think somewhere deep down that it's wrong and they should be married in order to live together.. they get married to make it honest.

Answer 2

What you said about most people divorcing within 5 years is bogus. Do you have any idea how many people around the world get married? Westernized societies are the only ones really that divorce.

Some people need to have a commitment down in writing to make it more real and believable. That also makes them work harder at staying together. Couples who don't commit in marriage really don't go noticed in the form of stats and staying power. So who really is to say that one form is better than the other? What works for some doesn't work for others.

Answer 3

I have noticed all the things that you have mentioned. In fact it is my opinion that marriages often end relationships because one or both of the participants are not prepared for the extra pressures that come with walking the aisle (largely self inflicted).

I believe there are two chief reasons that people elect to get married:

The first is simply fitting in with the prominant views of society. Though they do not have the strangle hold on the world that they once had, outdated modes of belief still manage to greatly influence the actions of the majority, promising acceptance to the obedient and isolation to the rebels.

The second is the naive belief that a piece of paper and a ring can guarantee more security. I have dealt with so many weeping female clients that tell me that they do not believe that their man left because after all he said the vows.

Namaste,

Paul

Answer 4

I believe that people get married because it is something natural and normal to do after being together for some time or when you believe you have found the right person. It is something usual in our society. It is a sort of recognition in front of the others and/or God regarding your relationship. I believe that the question is why people don't feel the need to get married even if they are sure of each other and their love? What keeps them from making this step?

Answer 5

Well marriage is a sign that you are ready to take responsibilities as husband and wife, it is not basically something you do or something someone wants. Basically marriage can bring you lots and challenges and decisions which of course like I said comes with responsibilities. All I'm saying is marriage is the next step of showing your love to a person.

Answer 6

Yes, I agree with you. I also think love is the best way to committ to each other. However life has loads of ups and downs and it might be quite easy to just walk away during the first problems you face. So in that case, certain legal commitments are necessary to keep people together.

Answer 7

I don't know, when I go for it, it's going to be for sex, money, security, and ownership of the man. not necessarily in that order and not necessarily all there either, sex is really important, it takes the stigma out of being sexual. Money is another factor, I don't have but you do. Women always tend to want to do it more than men, they already have a predisposed reputation to tend and look after, Thank God we evolved, most/some women aren't really bothering these days. Equality for all that's what I say.

Answer 8

marriage originated from the garden of eden, after God created every thing he saw they are all good and he said let us make man in his own image. after creating man God also said let us make a help mate then from his rib (adam) a woman was made. then ur question.. if you feel u need a guy /girl then it is necessary to get married for the same reason ...

Answer 9

There are, of course, myriad legal reasons to be married rather than just living together:

Filing joint income tax returns with the IRS and state taxing authorities.

Inheriting a share of your spouse's estate.

Receiving an exemption from both estate taxes and gift taxes for all property you give or leave to your spouse.

Creating life estate trusts that are restricted to married couples, including QTIP trusts, QDOT trusts, and marital deduction trusts.

Obtaining priority if a conservator needs to be appointed for your spouse -- that is, someone to make financial and/or medical decisions on your spouse’s behalf.

Receiving Social Security, Medicare, and disability benefits for spouses.

Receiving veterans' and military benefits for spouses, such as those for education, medical care, or special loans.

Obtaining insurance benefits through a spouse's employer.
Taking family leave to care for your spouse during an illness.

Receiving wages, workers' compensation, and retirement plan benefits for a deceased spouse.

Taking bereavement leave if your spouse or one of your spouse’s close relatives dies.

Visiting your spouse in a hospital intensive care unit or during restricted visiting hours in other parts of a medical facility.

Making medical decisions for your spouse if he or she becomes incapacitated and unable to express wishes for treatment.

Consenting to after-death examinations and procedures.

Making burial or other final arrangements.

Receiving equitable division of property if you divorce.

Receiving spousal or child support, child custody, and visitation if you divorce.

Living in neighborhoods zoned for "families only."

Automatically renewing leases signed by your spouse.

Receiving family rates for health, homeowners', auto, and other types of insurance.

Receiving tuition discounts and permission to use school facilities.


AND there are emotional reasons for getting married that only seem to manifest themselves after you actually do get married. I have had a number of friends who have lived together for a long time and then later married - (usually because they decided to have children). Every single one of them has found that it was VERY DIFFERENT and changed their relationship. Every single one of them said it made it better.

Answer 10

I think ppl get married to show the world there love and commitment and to have a big piss up and party and of course stag and hen nights!