9 months ago she broke up with me (after being together for almost 4 years) when she moved 300km away and met someone. Her main argument is that I did not spend as much time as needed because of my work. She now says she does not know what to do.During the last 2 months she told me that she has discussed with the other guy the fact she is thinking about me and she does not like being with him because they don't have things in common and so on. However, he does not take it seriously and he continues behaving like before and she is not definite with him because she does not want to see him be sad as she says.Furthermore she communicates almost daily now and she came to visit me ("things" also occurred), but when she went back she didn't stop seeing him.Now she says she broke up last week taking advantage of a cause (he preferred to go swimming with some friends and not her) he gave her. Which is your opinion and advice on the matter?
2006-07-26 23:41:49 · 7 answers · asked by waltar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She plays both of you! For your own self respect, make her earn the possibility of reconcilation. True love won't have a problem to do that. The other guy and all ties has to go! Figure her motive, I'd say it's not of genuine feelings for you mate. Jumpin in sac with her will do no good to either of you, that's just user sex, not connected to you sex. Cut all contact for say one month, then see what she does. All the best hope it works out.
2006-07-26 23:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the other hand, u probably have her at the back of ur mind somewhere
Sorry pal, this is 1 decision u have 2 make urself.
Even if u decide 2 give her another chance, do keep a control on how much she influences ur life & feelings
2006-07-27 06:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love her, go for her, atleast she told you the truth about the whole thing, never hide anything from you. She has learned her lessons, and known that you are a better person having compared u with another. I believe she wont do it again. But if you are to accept her, give her your condition. i believe it will be better this time around.
2006-07-27 06:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Angel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to have her cake and eat it. I know you're not likely to take advice from a stranger but i have been in your situation in the past and it never ends up getting better. Be a man and blank her out of your life.
2006-07-27 06:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Keith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"somethings occurred" while she was dating this other guy?hope u used condies..otherwise seems u both haven't made up your minds..u broke up..an X says a lot,you don't call some1 an X for nothing..she says u don't spent more time with her,but she comes back to u...think about it.
2006-07-27 06:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, but in the back of your mind, you'll NEVER fully trust her again.
Ya only get one shot at being faithful... once that cat is out of the bag, you can't put it back in.
Move on my friend.
2006-07-27 06:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by Pete and Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not have better option in hands, now. be sure she will do the same as soon as she finds a better one.
2006-07-27 06:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋