said his wife died and we got married i month ago i came to know the truth and he says there was no marriage between him and the wife coz they were always fighting,they didnt have children together,met his parents and they also never disclosed it,i need your advice,should i leave him and also seek a divorce ,he has already filed a divorce with his legal wife and we are also legally married though i may not count it legal since he blackmailed me, Help
2006-07-26 22:52:29 · 8 answers · asked by GACHERI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he did not divorce his wife before you were married, you are free to leave, as your marriage is not legal. you are also free to sue him for fraud, as he made you believe he was free to marry.
2006-07-26 22:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Debi K 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He may not have told you because he thought you wouldn't marry him if you knew he had been married before. Did you ever express during the courtship that you thought getting divorced was a sin? Did you ever say that you would never marry a man who had already been married once?
There could be many really good reasons... reasons NOT to leave him......that he didn't tell you.
Talk to him about it.. ask him why he didn't tell you.. If you love him and want to be with him.. then work thought it as a couple should and get married again once he is legally divorced and make it a real marriage.
2006-07-26 23:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still legally married to his first wife, your marriage isn't real. In fact it's a crime. Filing the paperwork is NOT the same as being divorced. These things take months and sometimes years to finalize.
2006-07-26 22:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry... but I would address your husband as a "bastard" because he wasn't sincere, truthfully and dare to disclose to you that he is a married man and yet to divorce with wife.
He should told you upfront that his relationship with his wife is getting sour and bitter and there is no love between them because of numerous fighting with each other. So, where are his courages to tell you all these?
He seems to me a real coward and selfish to lure you believing him - a real victim and cheek to declare himself a bachelor?
Your marriage with him may be counted legally but somehow, you need to have a final talk with him - ask him what he is going to do. Is he going to divorce with the 1st wife who is still legally his wife or he intends to divorce with you? Be firm with him and give him deadline to reply you within 3 days. If 3 days later he did not reply you but deliberately avoiding this issue, then please make up your own decision - either you choose to share with 1st wife OR you choose to leave and divorce which means you need to have a clean break up with him.
If you could not bring yourself to leave him, then you got to swallow your unhappiness and suffering in future because there will appear disadvantages situation fallen on you. Whatever your decisions, do not blame anyone and be brave to accept any consequences. I wish you made a wise decision.
2006-07-26 23:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did he blackmail you? He sure as heck lied to you by saying his wife was dead and not discolsing the fact that he was being metaphoric. LOL what a dud!
If you can't get over what he did leave him but if you can learn to forgive him, go for it. A man like this is hard to trust though.
2006-07-26 23:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by mama mia! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a bigamamous relationship. Its not legal. You cannot be termed as his wife when his wife is alive and still not divorced.
2006-07-26 23:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pl , go ahead and file a case on him to play with some innecent female to fulfill his lust and desire by using you falsely , you must leave that place if it is possible right now , otherwise , they together will trouble you more for ever , be sensible inform to your all near and dear immediatly , without wasting more time inthinking .
2006-07-26 23:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has ditched.. but at the same time he married you and has filed legal divoce to her then you should go to the depth and act..... else he could have said "NO" for filing divorice to her.... better disucss..... didyou have sex with him before marraige... beter mail me at danieldamsel@yahoo.co.in for dicussion
2006-07-26 23:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋