A few days ago we were at her family's house and she was like she always is, verbally and physically abusive. Putting me down over small trivial stuff. She is always punching and kicking and biting (lord knows i have enough scars from THAT), but what finally happened is she slapped me in the face with a scorching hot spatula. I dont remember doing it, i was so mad, but i punched her and broke her nose. I do remember beating up her dad cause he jumped me for hitting her. I was arrested for what I did, but she wasnt?? Ive put up with her abuse because I love her to death and I dont believe in hitting a woman no matter what she does. I dont know why I did it that time cause i dont remember anything but pure anger for a few seconds, and I agree with the decision to arrest me, and whatever punishment follows. What should I do? I love her more than life itself, but I may have ruined it between us.
2006-07-26 22:36:40 · 10 answers · asked by Randy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-07-26 22:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by sri_pondy 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I understand completely. You must understand that the reason that you stay with her is not because of how much you love her, but because you do not love yourself enough. Read and remember this. How many people would care if you were to go out and blow your brains out all over the highway? Practically none. But.....if they knew that they would get attention, then they would be there in some capacity as long as they were getting attention and feeding their own needs. That is exactly what she is doing, and you are the "collateral damage." What seems bad now, is not as wonderful as being free from a woman that treats you this way. Leave her! There is only honor in protecting yourself. Think nothing of what ANYONE thinks! Live life to THE FULLEST! If you don't live the way you want to, then what will you tell your Grandchidren what kind of man you were? Trust me, it goes much deeper than "her f...... family!"
2006-07-27 05:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are hard to understand and most of us don't really know or are really trained in school or at home. Worse still our families, may be the opposite of what is should be unless your parents are really happily married couples, which i most likely think, both of you are not from, judging from both your behaviour. What i am trying to point out is that, let us turn to the right people and get professional help from family consultants and we should not be afraid or shy or ashamed to do it. I like to stress that in this modern world we should be open to get family consultations, just as we would going to a dentist for any tooth problem, so should we when we have a relationship problem go to a family consultant.
Call this no 65550390 ( 9 to 5 pm ), PAVE at Ang Mo kio and they will be more than ready to help you. Pave, stands for Providing Alternative to Violent Expressions. The fact that you have raised your question shows that you are ready to be open and to tackle your problem in the right manner. So, I think you really need to call them as soon as you can, before you get into more trouble. It will be good for you to have someone to talk to, and to be able to express your emotions, so that it can help you to understand whatever you are going through and to put things in a better perspective. Cheers and God Bless.
2006-07-27 06:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of that marriage. if she is used to abusing you it will not stop, and the next time you retaliate it will be worse for you in court. get an attorney, prove her ongoing abuse in court, and get the heck away from a relationship that causes you to stoop to a level you say you don't believe in. you have already degraded yourself once, why would you let it maybe happen again?
2006-07-27 05:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Debi K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its crazy but sometimes something bad has to happen in order for something good to come out u still haven't learned that u have to love yourself to love someone else u cant change anyone else u can only change your actions believe it or not there is happiness at the end of the rainbow.
personal experience
2006-07-27 06:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please for the sake of your mother, LEAVE this abusive wife and stay away far far from her. Your mum will be heartbroken and tears will roll down if she has seen her son being physically abused.
2006-07-27 06:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can be pushed past their limits.
All victims of spousal abuse have fought back at one point...you are no different.
You didnt mention children. If you don't have any get out now.
That Bi & ch is crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-27 05:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a psycho, you should dump her immediately before she kills you in your sleep! I knew a guy and his wife was just like that. one night when he was asleep she poured ammonia in his eye and blinded him in one eye. Dump her now!
2006-07-27 05:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by The Infidel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is abuse, and you deserve better than that.
2006-07-27 06:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have knocked her out a long time ago.
2006-07-27 18:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋