2006-07-26 22:24:51 · 21 answers · asked by Tina M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You took him for granted, and now you realize that he might not always be there.. he might fall harder for his mistress and leave you.. even though it seems your affairs are only for having fun.. you don't take them seriously.. but he might.. that's why it hurts.. you should really discuss why you're married.. you both don't take it seriously
2006-07-26 22:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by verito 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People have affairs for a reason.. it doesn't just happen. You're not getting something that you need emotionally or physically. Whatever it is.. there is something that the person needs that they're not getting from the relationship.
You were having an affar because this man could give you something that your husband couldn't and you couldn't tell your husband that there was something missing.. something that you could have worked on together...
You're hurt that he is having an affair because... there was something that he needed that you weren't giving him.
When you're the one whose needs aren't getting met.. it's easy to justify an affair. But.. when someone is cheating on YOU.. that makes all the difference.
You have no right to be hurt.
2006-07-26 23:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is selfish thinking on your part. Most women will cry foul when they know their husbands have affair outside. Have you ever sit down and think why your husband wants to have an affair? And the fact that you are having one yourself, how will your husband react if he finds out about it? Why complain when you are doing it yourself?
2006-07-27 00:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u really don't like yourself too much deep down.
You are seeking attention instead of love. Love requires trust on both sides. What you want is for others to shower their affections on you. It's all about making YOU feel good.
It's not nice to know that your husband is giving his affections to another but you crave attention so bad you are not prepared to give up your affair.
Until you like who you are, you will not change. I would guess you don't like hurting him so it makes you feel worse.. viscious circle and a hard one to get out of.
2006-07-26 22:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm not sure, except it's normal to not want to share your partner. Maybe you should leave each other. It sounds like you're not happily married. Since you're both seeing other people, either decide to have one of those "open" marriages (ick, but to each his/her own), or split up! You are attracted to other people. There's really no reason to stay married. And if you have kids, there is REALLY no reason to stay married. They will figure out what's going on and learn from bad examples of what a marriage should be like. Good luck.
2006-07-26 22:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy with your marriage? Do you still love your husband? You should know what to do if you got the answer of my questions.
Before you do anything to him you must also consider the consequences that if he did the same thing to you... Can you except it..
2006-07-26 22:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mapleleaf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its natural to be hurt when a loved one wrongs you, just as you hurt from his infidelity, im sure he hurts as well. There are obviously deeper issues in your relationship than just infidelity. It seems your relationship needs some deep attention to be repaired. I hope everything works out for the best.
2006-07-26 22:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he found out about you and is getting even now. now you know how you made him feel. with the affairs you mentioned it dosent sound like you were happy in the first place. you cant have your cake and eat it too honey.
2006-07-27 03:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by welder0964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly dont think you fell bad! only because you are still in an affair yourself, so dont fell bad! and move on the way you've been.
2006-07-26 23:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two are playing a dirty , dirty game... if no-one can be faithful whats the point? just become swingers... you have big balls to fell the way you do... get over yourself lady! whats good for the goose...you get the point right? you both sound like a walking venereal disease waiting to happen! nasty.
2006-07-26 22:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋