2006-07-26 21:03:53 · 14 answers · asked by yanti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After 10 years of marriage it is easy to get bored by the same old thing. A new lover brings back the excitement you felt years ago with your spouse. That doesn't mean you have met your soul mate. It means the excitement has gone out of your marriage. What you need to do is to talk to your spouse and explain that the "spark" is missing from your relationship and find out what the two of you can do to bring back that feeling. Don't drag another person into a marriage. It will never be the way you expect. If you divorce and go with this new exciting person you will soon tire of them, too.
2006-07-26 21:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you know this is your soul mate? Are you saying you've been married for 10 years - to someone you just settled for?
Perhaps this new relationship is exciting because its fresh and new and it's awakening those feelings you had a long time ago.
I would say forget the new relationship - and if fate and the universe decide you should be together with your "soulmate" then it will come to be on its own.
Don't toss 10 years of happy marriage for what appears to be a soulmate.
Good Luck!
Aloha!!
2006-07-26 21:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL if you have been married and happy for 10 years you did meet your soul mate, and you married him 10 years ago. Whats the question? Anything else is simply NEW but new doesn't last and then what do you have? Married and happy for 10 years, stay where you are and consider yourself lucky, most peoople never even get that much!
2006-07-26 21:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only right thing to do is to stay with your current spouse, regardless of how you feel about the other. Marriage is not to be taken lightly, you'd be breaking your vow with your mate, and you'd be committing adultery with the other for as long as you'd be married. If you're an ethical person, this should seriously bother you.
2006-07-26 21:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by spartacus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discover why you are feeling these emotions towards this other individual. You must be honest with yourself. Are there difficulties in your marriage? Do you wonder "what ifs?" Are you planning to act on your feelings? Are you willing to risk everything for these feelings? If you are truly happy with yourself and your marriage, then why are you asking your question.
Please understand that I am not trying to hurt your feelings, but you need some time and space to think through what you are feeling, thinking, and may possibly do. I just wanted to give you questions to make you think. Good luck. Seeing a marriage counselor is something that you can do.
2006-07-26 21:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by Leslie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do u know he is yr soul mate when u have been with yr actual soul mate 4 ten happy years?
2006-07-26 21:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, really if you have been married for 10 years, you need to think about why you married your partner. If there is nothing in that 10 years that makes you fall in love with that person all over again and again, then the decision is yours to break it off with your spouse. I doubt that you "don't know" what it is about your spouse that you love. Re-evaluate, and picture the reactions if you decide to break it off. Does it really make sence if you say it outloud to yourself?
2006-07-26 21:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your soul mate can be your lover your husband or your friend it's up 2 you.
2006-07-26 21:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "Thank God I'm happy and married for 10 yrs" and step away.
2006-07-26 21:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by myANSWERS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think...
I really don't know this man. It can all be smoke and mirrors.
2006-07-26 21:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋