Ok well how angry would you be if you were like talking to your bf or gf. And then because you talk to your best friend more than them and everytime they call your talking to your best friend and you are like having a really good talk. And then your bf or gf gets so mad that they are like well what ever. And then they say you want jill and jill wants you. Then I said no i dont like jill im gay. And i say she dont want me. And then the guy or girl that you love with all your heart turns around and say neither do I and means it with all his heart. What would you do or say. I broke up with him and i was wondering if that was the right thing because i love him so much and he said that it ripped my heart out and crushed it. So what would you do or say is the question.
2006-07-26 20:52:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ok well to make it short i was talking to my bf on aim. And then my bestfriend on the phone. And my bf wanted to talk to me on the phone. And i was talking to my best friend and i would not hang up. And then my bf got mad because i never talked to him on the phone. Which was a lie. But then he told me to go with my best friend. and im gay btw. and my best friends a girl. And my bf told me that my best friend wanted me. And i said no she dont. And he said and neither do i. Is that better. lol.
2006-07-26 21:02:20 · update #1
And For what some of ya'll are thinking.
BEST FRIENDS STAY WITH YOU AND BOYFRIENDS COME AND GO!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 23:25:27 · update #2
you seem to be in a manipulative relationship.
does he tell when to go to the bathroom?
do you need his permission to leave the house?
you have a right to have friends,
drop the guy like an old habit
and move on and don't look back.
2006-07-26 21:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by john john 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talking to 2 people at once is annoying for the other 2 if they are not connected. You have a human brain for a mind, not a server. One of the people you do this too is going to continually wait while you finish communicating with the other one.
As far as your ex - You could have said - the phone is tied up now. I'll call you in a half hour or something like that. Then you could have finished your conversation and gone on to him. For you not to have finished your call and to have called him promptly in a half hour would have been rude.
Either you do spend too much time with your friend or ex-boyfriend is too manipulative. I'm not there, can't make that call.
Good luck!
2006-07-27 02:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You indicated in your question; that friends are forever and boyfriends come and go. If you continue to treat your boyfriends as such; you will have a revolving door of men in your life. I'm in the very same position with my man (ex, don't know yet). In as much; in any relationship straight/gay; the other person needs to know that they come first. If you have true friends, they will understand it and allocate time and space.
In my position, my man place me second to business, family, friends, his ex, dogs and so many other things, I decided to just walk away. Nobody wants to always play second. After a while you begin to feel like this person doesn't care for you, or you are becoming a burden to your lover. In my case I felt that very way. Yet other guys were always giving me play. I decided that if you can't provide perhaps I should find someone else. At this point I have yet cheated, but at the rate he's going. I'll end it soon and move on.
Don't think your man, can't find a replacement. Any person worth their salt can and will accomplish it sooner than you think. This is a lesson I hope you learn, not for this relationship but if possible future relationships.
2006-07-27 04:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Dude , you need to learn how to treat your man ! The long and short of it is your man comes first and he wants to know that from you . All you had to do was tell your friend that you would be back with her later , talk to your boyfriend and then call your friend back after the conversation with your boyfriend was over . I understand the closeness of a best friend , I also understand where your boyfriend was comming from . I am in that situation now with my boyfriend who is younger than myself , he can't understand that I feel that when in a relationship the person you are with must come first . then your friends come second . If you truely have friends then they will understand that you have a boy friend and he is first in your life . I am sure if your best friend has a boyfriend he is first in her life and you must come second . Until you learn that in a relationship you must put the needs of the one you love before your own , you will never have a lasting realationship they will all sooner or later leave you . Good luck with your boy friend , you really need to call your boyfriend and apoligize .
2006-07-27 02:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are waaaaaay too many pronouns in this situation to keep track of who is speaking to whom...but I believe I understand your situation. Like.
I don't think there is any reason to get 'pissed.' He is jealous of your friendship with this Jill person. He may believe that you are closer to Jill than to him and the only way he knows how to react is to become disenfranchised (to 'pull away from') from being involved.
He wants the same closeness in his relationship with you that you have with Jill. He does not understand how to express this need or desire at this point in the relationship.
He'll come around. Be honest and don't pull any punches. If he chooses not to believe you maybe you are better off without him. Everyone deserves respect. Show it to others and it will be shown back to you. If it is not...keep showing respect because it proves you are better than they are because you are not sinking to their level.
I hope this helps and good luck with this. Breaking hearts is a difficult emotion to deal with when someone is not as old as I am!
2006-07-26 21:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this seems important right now.
I know ending a relationship hurts.
This is all just the silly things that people who still have a lot of growing up to do, do.
Move on. The life ahead of you is so full of experience, exhilaration, and greatness, there is little need for you to spend too much time mourning the loss of somebody who would tell you "I don't want you."
Dustin Lochart
2006-07-27 03:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're statement is so true, "BEST FRIENDS STAY WITH YOU AND BOYFRIENDS COME AND GO!!!!!!!" But at the same time, that was your boyfriend and although he couldn't understand that you were talking to your bestfriend and didn't want to get off the phone with her, but she would have understood if you would have said "Let me call you back, ______ wants to talk right now." You caused the situation to end the way it did.
2006-07-27 07:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Female in Texas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you love your boyfriend with all your heart, than you should treat him like that,
Your female friend is importand, and deserves respect, and so does your boyfriend, you said you love him with all your heart, yet when he wanted or needed to talk to you, you hurt his feelings ,, he needs to feel like he is a "big deal" YET YOU WERE HAVING A REALLY GOOD TALK, well, if your boyfriend takes second position, what is that about, he ripped your heart, out, you said,
now don't get mad, but it sounds like you did that to him, and when he said, he don't want you either,
can't you see, he was hurt, angry and needed to say something,,,whether it be right or wrong,,,
I think you should have told your female friend, i need to go right n ow, i want to continue this, it is importand but my "LOVER" or Honey, or signifigant other needs me at this moment,
When i get my feelings hurt or insulted, i might respond back with venom,, not that it is right, it is rather i don't know how to deal with my feelings, and at that moment, i do not think he felt like he could trust you with his feelings
i may be all wrong, i am not gay or les- but i have feelings and don't like to be treated like i am no big deal,
good luck
2006-07-26 21:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, but... no, but... (a joke for UK TV viewers).
I would've hung up on my best friend and said "Call you later." Then I would've picked up the phone to my boyfriend and said "You're so important to me I don't want you to feel like I'm playing you second to my best friend - however, know this, I love you but I won't stand for you handling me like that."
2006-07-26 22:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love something, let it go. See if it comes back to you. If it does, well frazzeltav, you found love. If it doesn't, it was never there in the first place. Better luck next time pal. Don't worry about it.
2006-07-26 22:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋