my b/f is 14 and im 13 i want a kid no matter what ppl say about me i dont wait to wait what should i do?

Question

i want a kid and i dont give what ppl say about me if i want to threw my life away then i can i dont no anything diffrent to do my life is going no wheres and im sick of waiting

Answer 1

If you dont care what other people say then why ask for their opinion???????????

Answer 2

I'm so sorry you feel this way and this must mean that you want someone to love and take care of and make all your problems go away. A baby won't really do all that and make life better. I'm a mom to a beautiful 18-month-old daughter. I am also 28 years old and happily married. I have a bachelor's degree. I had planned to get pregnant. I love my daughter so very much but here is the part I really want you to try to understand. Although this all sounds good, being a mom is the most difficult thing I've ever had to do. I work really hard every second of every day at being a good mom and I take great pride in it, but there are days that are really hard, especially in the beginning when you don't get any sleep, you're alway worried about the baby getting enough to eat, and as the baby grows there is always something new you have to worry about and now I have to make sure my daughter doesn't break a bone jumping off the furniture, she has eczema and heat breaks her skin out in little bumps so I have to apply special creams and medications. I know this is long and I hope you read this. If I was any younger I don't think I would have been able to handle being a mom. Being older and wiser has helped me very much, yet I still have a lot to learn. Please, pretty please, finish high school and marry a nice boy that you've known for at least two years before getting pregnant if you just can't wait. If you need something to love, get a new puppy that you have to take care 24/7 and see how much work a puppy is. It might be a good test for you.

Answer 3

Lets explore you are 13 and you want a child. Well hmmmm. sexually active, the urge to become a mother is stronger in some female than others and I won't doubt your desire. You are still school aged in today's society an education is a must. Now you might not know it but you aren't fully developed and to become pregnant at this stage would for ever change things in your body your pelvis will spread and cause your butt to spread. your belly will of course grow and at your age you can almost guarantee stretch marks on your belly,sides lower back and breasts. who will take care of you when morning sickness comes? Your mother, how about the back pains in the middle of the night, or the leg cramps, or how about round ligament pain which is always worse when you are not finished developing yourself. Oh yeah lets not forget the hormonal changes you know the kind that make you want to cry for no reason or you tell people( friends family boyfriend) to go away and leave you alone because you say they don't understand you which at that point they don't because the pregnancy is changing your personality.
I am not making this up it happens to all pregnant women. Now for delivery can you at your age dilate enough to allow for the baby to pass or are you going to a cesarean section that's surgical removal of a baby from the abdomen. Scars from that plus pain and a baby crying and wanting your attention. they wake up at odd hours they need to feed at least six times a day, can you breast feed? If not bottles formula,where do you get the money you are now 14 and an unemployed mother the father is 15 and where? In school at work or is he even there a father at 15 is he mature enough to handle that where to live how do you eat. are you exhausted reading this
this is what all parents must go through. oh yeah diapers and more diapers that cost too very little sleep for the first six weeks. Dr's bills clothes for the baby and still no school. this really what you want?
Obviously it is your decision but a really prepared woman has to take all of these questions and resolve them to make a safe and healthy place for a child.
Please think it over. reaper out.............

Answer 4

girl your life has not even started to begin yet and a child is not the answer to you being bored. You best sit back and think of the things that you have to give up in order to have and raise a child in this day and age. I have a daughter that is 13 and she stays so busy with activities and friends and just BEING A KID that being a mother at 13 has never crossed her mind. Good advice, take on a few baby sitting jobs especially now that it is summer and you could watch the child all day to get a good feeling if this is what you want to do with your life at 13. After quite a few sleepless nights and trying to work to feed your child, doctors visits and BILLS out the ying-yang you will wish that you stayed that cute 13 year old that was bored with nothing to do. Way to many opportunities out there for you to try to take on such a hugh responsibility and you have to also remember your only a child yourself still and that there is plenty of time to grow up and make these decisions , and believe me these are really major decisions for you to consider. By the way how is a 14 year old dad going to make a living to support you and the new addition, lot to think about, milk food diapers, diapers and many, many, many more diapers. I hope what ever decision you make that it is the right one, because this is one that you have for the rest of your days. Oh yea, prom night is a ***** with a baby on one hip and a b/f on the other. Just give this a whole lot more thought before you jump because it's a long *** road and sometimes very little gas to get there. Good luck and believe it or not i'm going to pray for you to make the right decision, your whole life is riding on it Bill

Answer 5

I would suggest that you spend some time babysitting or caring for a small infant before you make this decision. You have your whole life ahead of you and having a baby at your age is not a wise idea. Babies take away your freedom and your time. They cost a lot of money. Where will the money come from? Babies also keep you up all night. Are you mentally and physically mature enough to handle the stress of a newborn? I doubt it.

I am pretty sure that your parents are not wanting to raise another baby right now -- and that's what it would end up being.

Give yourself and your boyfriend a chance to grow up. The last thing either of your need right now is a baby.

Answer 6

Sex is NOT for childlren
Keep your legs closed
Babies are expensive
You are in school
Your parents will be upset
You and your boyfriend are too young
Where do you expect to get a job?
Where will your boyfriend work?
Who will hire a 14 year old boy?
Who is going to hire a 13 year old?
IWhat are you trying to prove?
Where are you going to live?
You and your boyfriend are too young to rent an apartment
How are you going to feed and buy clothes for a child?
Are there issues at home that you need to address?
It's not about what people say, its about you being too young.
Why do you want to mess up the lives of your parents because you want a baby?
You will be an adult in a few years, and will be more mature. You can have a baby at that time, when it will not be distruptive to both his and your families.

If you say your life is going nowhere, have you thought through what life will be like for a 13 year old with a child?

Answer 7

Hello!
Just want you to know that I care about you. We do not know each other and may never meet. In my life, I have been helped by many people who have done much for me just by talking and letting me talk. Some times, I have had no way to repay the kindness that others have shown me.
But I do return that kindness by sharing with others such as yourself. My heart goes out to you.

You are experiencing a very normal reaction to your very young female body. It is really OK for you to be going through the wanting of a child. It is normal. Almost all women go through that in their life and have children and live a happy life.

It takes planning to have a child, First of all, your body has to be ready to accept a pregnancy and that takes a few years of maturing. Just because you have a period at about 13 years and you can have a baby does not mean that you should. Wanting a child is one thing, actually doing it is another.

You may feel a lot of emotions about your boyfriend. That is great to have your first love. Be on the lookout for a man to help you in life. As a woman, there are times when you cannot work.
You will need the financial help of a good man to support you and his children. You will want to have a nice house, nice car, pretty clothing and all that goes with a good life. You are entitled to all those things and more. Your children are also dependant on you for food, shelter, clothing, toys and some fun times. I know that you want to give these to your children.

Select a man to care about you and wanting to create a family. Do not go with someone who runs the streets, uses drugs, dresses poorly, and more. You know what I am talking about. This kind of man is only interested in his fun and enjoyment. Perhaps you have found this out already.

Use some wisdom in your life. There are so many things you can do while you are finishing to grow up, You can take part in all school activities, Audition for plays, the choir, the band, cheerleader,etc. You say I cannot do that?

So what! Go and try anyway. You will get the experience and find out what you really need to do to get involved with something and you will find out what you like best. Then you can get really really good at it .

You can create your life as an artist paints a beautiful picture. It is never too late to start. Explore who you are and then show the world.

Woman to woman, I just want you to know that I love you. I hope you find joy in all you do.

Answer 8

I had a child young and believe me when i say if your life is going "nowheres" its just going to get way worse to have a baby at your age!! ppl told me too (i was 18 and got married though) and now i am answering to someone who makes the money - just remember the less money you have as an adult the less control you have over your own life (NO JOKE) - do what you want now but you will remember me in 10 yrs the way i remember ppl telling me- you will see - and your child could have severe emotional problems growing up in a an unstable environment - trust me - or not - but you will see! go to college first - theres always a way to do that but after that baby come its bye bye college - maybe yrs down the road but you will not have time while you are working 2 jobs

Answer 9

Umm, your a child. When that baby comes and you have to stay up with it in the middle of the night when its screaming and needs you, when you have to go to school, when you have no money for food for it or yourself because your not even legal age to work, you will feel differently. Besides the fact that being 13 is technically not even old enough for your body to safely support a pregnancy. Please dont be stupid. You have your entire life ahead of you to do this, its unfair to you and the baby. Think about this. When you are 18 yrs old, the baby would be 5. When you are 21, and you want to go party, your 7 yr old will hold you back. not to mention, when you are 31 your child will be an adult, and your life will be a mess.

Answer 10

When I was sixteen having a baby was top priority in my life, but I'm glad I waited. Now I'm twenty four and a baby is the last thing on my mind. I have too much I want to do and having a baby would just tie me down. It's so nice to be able to go out and do anything I want without having to worry about a babysitter.
How are you going to support this baby. Medicaid and welfare are nice, but you'll always be broke. My stepdad and mom live off a check and they barely have enough to get by. They dont have a car and even if they did, they wouldnt have the money to pay for insurance on it or to put gas in the tank. They have to depend on me to get where they need to go. Do you want to live your life like that? Do you want to have to depend on friends and family to take you to the store when you need something? Do you want to walk to the store when you cant find a ride? You need to think about this.

Answer 11

Coming from a young mom I would say Please wait!! I know you probably dont want to hear that but just think about it. I was19 when I had my daughter and its not all about dressing it up and playing with it. Its hard especially being young. Im 25 now with 2 kids and financially Im struggling. If I would have continued my education I could be somewhere now and able to support my kids better. Think about what kind of life you want for your children. And your bf may decide one day hes not ready to be tied down and leave you alone with a kid. Im not trying to judge Im just trying to get you to think. I think its really sad when young girls have babies. If you need someone to talk to you can email me ok or Im on yahoo under tonyagc23.