2006-07-26 20:33:42 · 29 answers · asked by cerenpitts 1 in Travel ➔ India ➔ Kolkatta
If you are above 18 and your boy is above 21, both of you can marry each other. Atleast the laws of India recoganise such marriages.
About social aspects, you already have many suggestions above. But make sure that you and your boy have Strong determination and won't ditch each other later in case of problems arising in your families later.
Take a well thought decision. Many such examples are there in our country of inter-religion marriages and going successful.
2006-07-26 22:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by helpaneed 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Kolkatta;
Some details are missing here ; whether your parents, society are too religious and you can not escape their pressure, or whether you are too religious and without getting an answer to this question you do not want to marry, etc. Yhe answer will vary with the situations.
If religion is something you respect and but not practise the teachings of ; you may marry and respect each other's religions , and but decide what to impose on your children.
I am from Turkey and this is how it works here among the religious ; to please moslem parents; the non-moslem need to convert to Islam ( I know a number younger people are not religious , so they don't care too much about this conversion anyway )
If religion is a strong motive of the culture surrounding you ; you just can not ignore it ; it applies its rules to you. If this is the case he needs to convert to ISlam first. In Turkey in these cases although this is considered to be a late fullfillment , the nonmoslem groom candidate, the boy, although an adult and although this sounds a bit too late
after his conversion , need to be circumsized as well ; we read related news in papers in tabloid pages of newspapers here in Turkey. Lots of Turkish man and women are marrying people from around the world what ever the religion is , and having great families.
But depending on your society
2006-07-27 04:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by www.welldoneturkey.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can if he converts to Islam. And if he doesn't, then your parents may kill you and him.
Christians don't have any strict prohibitions against marriage with people from other faiths. Although devout christians usually try to marry within their faith.
But muslims have very strict rules about such marriage. Muslim men can marry christian or jewish women. But muslim women are strictly prohibited from marrying anyone, except muslim men. And leaving Islam is not an option either. Apostasy is punishable by death in Islam.
2006-07-27 03:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DID YOU MEAN Christian Young Man = And you are Muslim young lady, i don't think it is wrong in your hearts but may not be right for you because you can cause harm to both of your religions! and it may cause problems and be a very unhappy marriage and effect the different cultures in time! I would most definite have permission of both adult family's and if not then you both have to run and elope! , then you'll live the rest of your lives in hiding marriage laws of religion are respected! And marry if you love because love holds no limits nor boundaries! I wish you we"ll and many years of happiness it can be done !
2006-07-28 01:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in my family this happend at least 3 times... 3 Cousins of mine married with Muslim...
I'm not sure if they've all changed from religion/believe... They live across the world. I'm living in Europe... I met them all once 13 years ago...
From one cousin (family) I know they both kept their own believe... The mother (Muslim) let her Children go to Sunday School... She even helps at the Sunday School...
So therefor I know religion doesn't have to be a problem...
I'm a Christian and I'm not going to tell you what to do...
You probably already know a bit about of Christianity... The differences etc...
It's up to you whether you want to change from religion/believe...
It has to come from WITHIN...
Any believe has to come from within...
So you both have to reconsider all possible things solutions... What to do...
Do you want to change? Or does he want to change? Keep in mind you both don't have to change...
Just respect each other...
What about your family... What's their opinion? How do they feel about this... If they are against it....
You really should reconsider it carefully... Through and through...
Is it worth it to put your family in a "possible" difficult times... Because I know some are very against marriages between two different believes... For all the trouble that might come along...
If you do decide to both keep your own believe, it could be a problem when you have children...
Do you let them have their baptise or do you raise them with Muslim values...
But than again it doesn't have to be a problem...
While writing I remember one friend ofmy cousin (a Christian) married a Muslim... He became a Muslim before he married her... And they married with Muslim rituals...
But they have a whol lot ofChristian friends as well...
Actually everyone in my family is raised to respect eachothers religion... So for me it's a little more easier to say and write things like this...
Just reconsider everything...
Good luck...
2006-07-27 04:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anirod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to marriage, don't listen to people....just do what the heart says. Religion is not meant for dividing people. It is meant for bringing them together. Either religion, doesn't prevent such a marriage. It is only the so called flag bearers of the religion who are the problem. So, what are you thinking get married to the lucky guy.
2006-07-30 05:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Rabindra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry for love, then by all means. If it is to convert to another religion, forget it. It will not work. Look around you, people fight and kill because of religion. Don't get caught in the act. Take care
2006-07-27 03:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by Imagine 1952 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So strange if you are old enuf to marry but you are not old to KNOW ISLAM.
Be a muslim first then think of marriage.
My 6 year old will be able to anser this question.
May Allah guide YOU. May Allah bring best out of you.
You are future of Islam
2006-07-27 04:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by Eco-Savvy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Why not? You are a human being, he is a human being, religion should not stop that (but as a personal opinion, religion generates hatred and war), in fact it should promote marriage.
Pay attention to your religious beliefs and habits of your family as well as his family's too. You and him (and your families) should talk about this and reach to a reasonable conclusion.
Talking is the best way to do it.
2006-07-27 03:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I have and with my families blessing. I am an Indonesian muslim and my husband is a christian from NewZealand. He is a good man and my family knew he would take good care of me.
Of cause myself and my family are in no way extrem in our beliefs. You my be different. We have a daughter and she will makeup her own mind about religion when she is older. Neither of us converted. We are both children of our God.
2006-07-27 03:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by silkydewi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋