Why are heterosexual men typically fine with seeing homosexual women but uncomfortbale around homosexual men?

Question

I mean, honestly, it's not any different. Sure, anatomically it's different, but in the aspect of sexuality...it's not any different at all. Do people really think that just because a man may be attracted to men that it means he's attracted to ALL men? Thats like saying "oh, your straight...you find ALL women hot...right?" I KNOW that's false. Gay men aren't hell bent on seducing the straight men...they really aren't. To 97% of the gay community thats a rediculous idea. Sure, that other 3 percent would LOVE to try and seduce the straight man...but that 3 percent is the percent that makes the rest of us look terrible. And to be honest...if they are successful at seducing the straight man...then he probably wasn't as straight as everyone thought he was

Answer 1

The problem is many dont really bother to think to much and tend to beleive what they have been braught up to beleive.

Myth : Homosexuality is contagious. The myth goes something like this: If you try a homosexual experience and find it even marginally enjoyable, a seed (more like a virus) has been planted, and, eventually, you will wind up a full-fledged, card-carrying, flag-waving homosexual. This is simply not the case. You can't "catch" homosexuality any more than you can "catch" heterosexuality (although the latter myth is supported by the concept that "the love of a good woman" will "cure" a gay man). In either case, even a successful liaison with the gender one is not normally drawn to will have little, if any, lasting effect.


I'm amazed at the power those who propound the you-can-catch- homosexuality theory give to homosexuality—with only a small dose, it suddenly takes over an otherwise robust heterosexual? This myth probably springs from observing some individuals who severely suppressed their homosexuality, but once they got one foot out the closet door there was no stopping them.

Myth: Homosexuality is a choice. It has been established for some time that one's sexual orientation is part of the basic personality structure and formed before the age of two. The most recent studies, however, both behavioral and biological, indicate one's sexual orientation is genetic—something determined at conception. Whether it happens before birth or it happens by age two, the determination of sexual orientation can hardly be considered a choice. One can, of course, choose not to follow one's natural orientation, but this is not the sort of choice the proponents of this myth mean. They mean that gay people choose to be gay in the same way that they might sit down and choose which program to watch on television, which team to bet on in the Super Bowl, or whether or not they want pepperoni on their pizza.

The idea behind this myth is: a perfectly normal, well-adjusted heterosexual is sitting around one day and just decides to go gay, as one might decide to move to Antarctica or try to flush hockey pucks down the toilet. It is truly aberrant behavior, but it is his or her choice. Implied in this choice, of course, is a certain hostility to God, parents, society, and the American way. It's as though being gay is a pathological act of rebellion.

Gays don't choose to be gay; they discover they're gay. Like heterosexuals, they find themselves increasingly attracted (romantically as well as sexually) to a particular gender. The bisexuals find themselves attracted to both. (Even though, as Woody Allen says, "Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night," discovering one's bisexuality must be more confusing than discovering one is primarily gay or straight.)

Myth : Homosexuals recruit others. This is a myth that grew out of the evangelical camp where proselytizing, testifying, missionaryizing, and converting are basic tenets of the faith. Evangelicals somehow feel that gays have the same zeal to spread a gay-spell that they have to spread a God-spell. It's a simple matter of evangelicals projecting their recruitment tactics on gays. As with most projections, the image is distorted—and very wrong.

Gays have no desire to "recruit" heterosexuals into becoming homosexual. A gay person may, individually, want to have sex with a heterosexual of the same sex whom he or she finds attractive; the gay person may even make a pass. The gay person is making a personal statement of desire, not fulfilling a recruitment quota. ("If you recruit ten heterosexuals this month, you get this beautiful 26-piece set of Tupperware!") Additionally, gays who are out of the closet may offer support and encouragement to gays who are miserably in the closet, but that's about as far as it goes. Besides, the whole idea of recruitment rests on the concept that homosexuality is a choice, and every homosexual knows that just ain't so.

You can but try to educate them but as Dorothy Parker once quoted:

"You can lead a whore to culture but you cant make her think!"

Quoted when asked to use the word horticulture in a sentance .

Answer 2

It's a really simple reason. Homosexual men represent to straight men a threat i.e something that questions their masculinity. Therefore straight men will shy away from any same sex contact on the other hand gay women represent a fantasy where it's double (or more!!) the turn on. However straight men form close friendships, now I'm not saying that's necessarily meaning everyone's gay, but it means that that friendship is based on some level of attraction. Therefore the hypocrisy of being repelled by homosexuality seems crazy, but I guess it comes down to some people's comfort zone, what they can safely deal with and what they can't!!

Answer 3

Just the possibility of attraction makes some heterosexual men uncomfortable.

And heterosexual men are often afraid of spoiling their reputation by association. Being friendly with a gay man can make him seem to some observers that he is gay too. And when rumors like that start flying around, then there is not much a man can do about it. People will talk behind his back. And they won't give him any opportunity to deny it.

Being a heterosexual and having people whispering and giggling behind your back because they think you are gay is uncomfortable to say the least. And if it's the women who are whispering, then it feels even worse.

Answer 4

That depends.

My fiancee is heterosexual, obviously. He's been around gay guys before.

He HATES it when a gay guy "hits on him" even though the gay guy knows damn well that he's straight.

And I don't blame him. If someone showed such blatant disrespect for me and for my sexuality, I'd be teed off too.

From what I've heard from my fiancee and other guys I know, that sort of thing is more common than I'm sure anyone on this board will be willing to admit -- gay guys hitting on straight guys even though they know perfectly well that the guys they're hitting on are straight.

This is a lesson that, it seems to me, too many gays guys have yet to learn -- if you want respect and tolerance, you need to be more willing to extend it to others.

But if you keep on behaving as described above, or if you keep hurling nasty vitriol and personal attacks against those who oppose your social agenda (I get it on an almost daily basis from many of you), then don't be surprised if people don't give you the time of day.

Answer 5

I think it's funny, well kinda tragic actually, that gay men or women will say or do anything to justify that what they do is normal. Even to attack the manhood of strait men.You only fool yourselves and people like yourselves. You lifestyle is not normal, It's weird and f*cked up. It's a sexual disfunction or depravity, if you will. There's some kind of metabolic or hormonal imbalance going on in your heads. Your thought process (when it comes to sex) is irrational, impractical, and abnormal. You can't say it's nature because humans are the only animal that practice such gross behavior. It's no different than being a child molester or wanting to have sex with animals.....hell even m.b.l.a. is trying( like gays) to make everybody see their sexual disfunction as normal and want protective rights as well. What the hell is this world coming to.So, it don't matter if your bi, gay, or lesbian.......your sexual desires are freakish and definitely abnormal.

Answer 6

Many have delusions of grandeur, and expect that every gay man in the world must want to jump their bones. While some gay men have attractions and interests in straight men, most find no interest in pursuing them in a sexual manner.

Answer 7

We threaten their fragile view of themselves as men. Satan is a great divider of people he has convinced the religions of the world that men are weak and that any affection between men is homosexual. This puts men at a great disadvantage. Men naturally desire affection with other men and they have society telling them if they desire this they will be seen as gay. this terrifies them because they think homosexuality is a choice and they do not want to be sucked in to it (pun intended) by their desire for male affection.

Answer 8

Heterosexual men have fantasies about women and threesomes, however they think seeing two men would be disgusting to them. It is hard to explain exactly why they feel the way they do, but it all comes down to the fact that they are uncomfortable.

Answer 9

Mans like to see woman's making love, because they thing they can join them.
Woman's ( which are not homosexuals) can also like to look 2 guys making love and having fantasies about "menages a trois" with 2 mans.
But heterosexual womans will not necesary like to see other homosexual womans making sex toghether, like heterosexual mens too.
So I believe our perception in homosexuality it is specialy for our sex kind. (heterosexual mens will dislike to see guys acting, and heterosexual womans will maybe hate to see lesbians acting)

Answer 10

the answer is much shorter than the question....All of society sees women as a beautiful specimen while there is much debate over whether a man is viewed as the same. To straight guys its like watching animals do it.